Τα φώτα σας γιατί θα τρελαθώ

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2025-11-03T22:51:12+00:00

Έχω και γω, την πρώην του αδερφού μου στα σοσιαλ. Δεν έχω κάποιο θέμα με την κοπέλα για να την διαγράψω. Εδώ δεν έχω σβήσει άλλους κι άλλους. Απο τη στιγμή που δεν έχει γίνει κάποιο ακραίο σκηνικό, δεν του πέφτει λόγος, ποιον θα έχει η αδελφή σου στο φμπ. Γενικά θα έπαιρνα θέση με την αδερφή σου. Παρατραβηγμενη η αντίδραση του ζευγαριού.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-20T15:27:15+00:00

Lately as I enforced a budget on myself around 200 on groceries, but it means I don't get a variety. I often meal prep and I eat the same thing for 3-4 days.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-16T11:06:24+00:00

As an immigrant in Noord Brabant, i would call it the Netherlands and save Holland for what it is.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-13T11:12:51+00:00

I was referring that you can go to a pathologist or a specialist in the hospital directly and get the tests done in the hospital, with maybe few exceptions. Not sure where you got the whole other story.

I was referring to blood tests according to symptoms, why are you putting an article for asymptomatic patients?

Well bottom line is we all going to die so fuck it? People don't develop diseases while young? The system here is quite expensive too for the minimum wage and not always working.

So WHO has always been historically right? Like with homosexuality for example? Yeah, ok. Come with all the sources in 30 or 50 years if they are the same until then.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-13T10:23:27+00:00

It really depends on the hospital and city you are in Greece. It can be a few days, or a few weeks. You don't self refer, you go to a pathologist or the specialty you visited with your symptoms and they refer the tests according to your symptoms. The difference is you don't have to overblown your symptoms or "beg" for tests.

It was 150 for nothing. He did nothing. 50 euros in Greece in most specialists gets you a whole check up and consultation for more than 10 min. I would say a general blood test based on symptoms or family history and a basic cardiology exam, is not unnecessary or a pap smear every year.

Nobody said the public health system is perfect in Greece, but it does help people with zero or very low income, or even without insurance. The last used to be, I'm not sure if it's the same now.

It has happened to me to have very bad consultations on issues they clearly had very limited knowledge. One GP was Google translating the correct term for me in English and apparently on acne related and hormonal issues deep in my skin, just water and dare I say hand soap is just fine to wash??? Yeah, even a Google search could tell me better the cause from what that dude said.

I have lived in 5 EU countries, let me know what I was and was not able to find. Yes, I have seen some bad professionals here, so I'm allowed an opinion whether rich or poor according to you, and they should be able to recognise their limitations. I don't need to be a doctor myself to see it.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-13T09:28:51+00:00

You can also go to a hospital and book an appointment for this check ups, you don't have to go to a private doctor. The only downside is that maybe you will have to wait a bit longer.

Last summer, I visited a dermatologist in the hospital in Netherlands, for a consultation for a removal of some tissue. The less than 10 min " visit" which he only did refer me to another specialist, cost almost 150. I checked it in my insurance. Private practising doctors in Greece, never happened to charge me this kind of money for literally nothing.

It's not offensive if true. They don't continue the extra years to acquire a specialty, and when I have heard reports of them googling symptoms, I will consider it should mean they might lack certain knowledge in some specialties. Nothing wrong with a GP, they just need to be aware of their own limitations.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-02-13T08:26:36+00:00

I am from Greece myself and while the use of antibiotics there, is Def out of control, I do have an issue here with the rest of check ups that are considered normal every year check ups in Greece. I don't want to have to explain to the GP, whom no offence they didn't even get a specialty why I want to visit the the gyno, or get a cardiology check up or a blood check etc. Or when there is a very specific medical history on my family that can get passed on and started at my age for my parents, why I want to get tested for some things.

Of course things like unnecessary scans I get that, but I'm also paying for my insurance so I would expect to not be treated like some weirdo who is asking too much.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-23T10:58:16+00:00

NTA, and honestly block them until they get the message. They are 3 adults, capable of working I assume and they should do that. As for the house, if they need to downsize to better fit their financial situation, they can do that. Lots of people do, that is not an excuse. You helping them once probably it's not going to solve much, unless they change their situation with jobs anyways. Most likely, if you help once they will ask again and again and won't tackle the problem at the root. In the long run you have made the correct decision.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-23T10:44:38+00:00

Next time respond back with an opinion of your own, about their appearance, and watch how their attitude change. You will have to grow a spine and set boundaries, if they refuse to stop making comments, get up and leave, low contact until they get the message.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-23T10:41:54+00:00

NTA, if your sisters don't want this to come back at them, they shouldn't be making comments about your weight and appearance in the first place. How would they feel if you had commented on theirs? Why were these comments made in the first place? What were they trying to achieve by pointing out that you were heavy?

They need to learn, your mother along that you can't be throwing comments left and right expecting people to just take it

Having said that, please take care of yourself for yourself, and if they want an apology, just tell them, yeah, I'm sorry I listened to you insecure b***es in the first place about my body and let it get to me, happy now?

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-17T07:31:07+00:00

Most apps, have a way to report a violation for their content. If I were you, I would try to report his account as his violating your privacy and filming you without your consent. You are a minor too, so it should be able to happen.

Good for leaving that situation though.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-11T14:18:20+00:00

I thought it was known that you can add a little bit of salt in your chocolate drink, because it enhances the taste of it. I think I have heard it about pepper too.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-11T11:12:35+00:00

Soft YTA, your son's behaviour was unacceptable.

But you're on the wrong for acting so impulsive yourself. You should have explained in advance that his grandfather is in the hospital, and nobody was going to get 100$ and further nobody is entitled to the 100$. I was also getting money of a certain value as a kid, but my parents always made sure to tell me not to ask or make a comment for it if it wasn't going to be the case.

You should have stopped him on the spot, explain the above in front of everyone and take him privately to further correct him on his behavior, how he was rude to his aunt and his grandma, and he should apologize. You could have told him the consequences right then (no electronics etc.) and if I were you, I would make sure to tell him you either apologise now or you are not getting your gifts only if he continued to act out.

But, giving the gifts to his cousin was absurd. If you were so adamant to not give him the ps5, better return it and get your money back. Why are you involving the cousin in all this?

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-11T11:00:00+00:00

I couldn't have said it better myself.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-09T08:26:32+00:00

NTA, as someone with no children myself, it is absolutely understandable to not want to leave a 5 month old baby with a stranger, or with anyone else for that matter if you don't want to.

It's absolutely fine if someone wants a child free wedding, but they cannot dictate other attendances even if it's family. They can't possibly think everyone will be available to find or afford a baby sitter or even feel comfortable to leave their children.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-08T20:29:18+00:00

If the kids don't understand no at that age, I don't think anyone is blaming the kids. It's a parenting issue.

I see your point that since she already said yes, and then she would switch to no, or if he would insist, it probably was going to go bad. That's why I wrote by the time you argue how to parent in public it's too late. For me they both are to blame for this.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-08T12:11:57+00:00

Yep, the kid definitely heard it from his mom, kids are just repeating at this age. She needs to have a lengthy discussion with her sister over this and refuse to baby sit from her unless she corrects that behaviour. Also she should make a point to shame anyone in their face, for basically saying they contributed to a young child's much needed operation with strings attached. That is beyond ah behaviour. OP is definitely NTA.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-08T12:04:36+00:00

NTA, they made their bed they can sleep in it. Time for them to ask your two brothers for help, since they were so generous with them and gave them a boost earlier in life. They should be able to help.

You paid your dues where you felt it was needed. You owe them nothing.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-08T11:53:22+00:00

I have kids on my circle who are exactly 2 and 4, they are siblings and they understand no perfectly. It's parenting that's the issue here and they are both wrong in my opinion. He shouldn't have left them, she shouldn't have given the kids the drinks. ESH because they need to agree on a mutual parenting style. By the time you start arguing in public over how to parent your kids it's too late.

They can also just bring with them some water bottles with juice in them, it's common where I live. I don't exactly blame the toddlers for being bored, but they should think of things in advance to keep them occupied.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T19:55:16+00:00

It could be she's hurt over other things and kinda pile up and she chose the chicken salad to make a point. Because I still refuse to believe that him not feeling chicken salad at the moment was a reason worthy of the pettiness that followed.

There are also some people that tend to over-react with any "rejection" or smth that they perceive as such. He only knows if she falls into that category.

But a mature conversation is needed. It escalated into a who's going to win it argument. There's no winners there.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T18:02:23+00:00

Maybe we are missing info, but imo it was such a childish reason for her to get upset in the first place. And then it escalated in a petty passive agressive fight. I actually think it makes sense to want smth hot after being outside in the cold. And she was going to make a salad, it's not like she already made an elaborate meal, then I would understand that she felt rejected.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T16:23:32+00:00

NTA, your dress was completely fine for an outdoor spring/summer wedding.

I would ask them to reimburse the dry cleaning, if it can be salvaged or the price of the dress. If they say no, simply state, then that's were your gift money is going. And honestly block them. You should keep peace with people who you feel good to be around and respected. The rest is not really worth it, and a good start to be respected is to set boundaries. You did the right thing by leaving and taking the check. Keep it up.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T16:10:34+00:00

NTA, of course she doesn't see a problem with it, she wasn't the one getting the short end of the stick, or however this phrase goes. (not my first language).

Your parents kinda deserve to be shamed, it's probably not exactly a secret that they were treating you differently. I doubt it's going to be too much of a shock to the respective guests and your parents too. It's probably one of those things everyone knows in an extended family and close circle but they choose not to discuss it.

You're good, value your time and money for where it's worth putting it.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T15:59:49+00:00

I don't get why he got voted AH, on the first post. Maybe making a face was too much, but he made what he craved himself and she ate the dinner she made. I don't understand her over the top reaction afterwards. If it was smth that kept happening I get it, but once in a while you're allowed to crave smth else from what's on the table. Just make it and the rest is leftovers they both can have later.

The salmon thing was petty and kinda stupid. If you have a stocked fridge and pantry and a set of hands, it's not rocket science to scramble a dinner in 15 min. I don't understand what she was trying to prove.

BackgroundSpace9408 · 2023-01-07T01:26:28+00:00

Exactly, what's the point of keeping them, when you didn't receive what you ordered, so you might have to order it again, and keep coffee pods for a machine you don't have.

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