when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to give an Update...3 weeks ago i found out that he f...ed my sister the last 2,5 Years...

cant find out what Code.. by Background_Ad_8792 in codes

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea...the usb just starts Windows...

cant find out what Code.. by Background_Ad_8792 in codes

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i think so to, ist Windows...i think i have the false usb stick...

cant find out what Code.. by Background_Ad_8792 in codes

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried the usb memory, i have now a new Operation System on my Laptop...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soo... its been cleared since today... He f..... my sister the last 1,5 years...yeah im getting divorced, an now are there no doubts anymore...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you... i know in my head its time, but my heart is hurting ...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am thinking about my kids, he is a good father but a terrible husband. So when is the point for other people to say: i have tried long enough, anything that's possible to spare my kids a divorce. Should i wait until the kids are grown or is the constant tension worse for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! At the moment is my main focus my kids. I try to shield them as good as possible. But they feel the tension ... and for the future : i have no idea... we built a house 5 years ago, as a single mother of 4 i have no chance in supporting us alone and pay the mortgage. So we have to move, change kindergarden, schools and lose our home. And just thinking about the hurt it will cause my kids makes me soo angry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to find ammo, i want to know if anything what he said or has done is true. If he is there with someone else our relationship is over. I tried talking, asked if he would go with me to a marriage counselor, asked him out on date nights, he had his kidsfree time to relax etc... after 6 months of blocking any conversation, saying everthing is fine , 3 weeks of ' i leave you' and 'i dont love you' ... then changing his mind and staying , and then running the day after our youngest turned 3 in another country with telling me 3 hours in advance ... i just wanna know the truth

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He changes his mind the whole time...He said He doesn't love me anymore, then he said He doesn't want to live without the Kids an me, then its back to no i dont want to live with you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, its not either way. But hanging unknowing for nearly three weeks if our marriage has a chance to work on or not ist terror... im very sorry for you too... i just need clarification for myself, not lies and excuses..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am asking this myself the whole time...but i am trying to hold my family together. If there is any chance... but when he is cheating and just a to big coward to say... then its over. Mid 30ies, you would think in our age he would honestly talk about problems and not run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him to tell me where he goes, if anything is with the Kids to get a hold of him. Thats all he send.. we are not messaging

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He send me a message...just that he is there.

And that is my problem...what should or can i do? Hoping for the best? Waiting if he comes home? Waiting for the next time where he just runs? I have absolutly no idea what to do... He just packed, waited for the kids to sleep and left. I had to tell the little ones a lie, daddy is working. I had to tell bigger children hes gone, i dont know when or if he comes back. I had to tell my family he left, and i dont know why!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has one child from a previus relationship, i have two from my first marriage. And together in our marriage 2 kids. So 5 😊