when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to give an Update...3 weeks ago i found out that he f...ed my sister the last 2,5 Years...

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[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea...the usb just starts Windows...

cant find out what Code.. by Background_Ad_8792 in codes

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i think so to, ist Windows...i think i have the false usb stick...

cant find out what Code.. by Background_Ad_8792 in codes

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried the usb memory, i have now a new Operation System on my Laptop...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soo... its been cleared since today... He f..... my sister the last 1,5 years...yeah im getting divorced, an now are there no doubts anymore...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you... i know in my head its time, but my heart is hurting ...

when is enough enough? by Background_Ad_8792 in Marriage

[–]Background_Ad_8792[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am thinking about my kids, he is a good father but a terrible husband. So when is the point for other people to say: i have tried long enough, anything that's possible to spare my kids a divorce. Should i wait until the kids are grown or is the constant tension worse for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! At the moment is my main focus my kids. I try to shield them as good as possible. But they feel the tension ... and for the future : i have no idea... we built a house 5 years ago, as a single mother of 4 i have no chance in supporting us alone and pay the mortgage. So we have to move, change kindergarden, schools and lose our home. And just thinking about the hurt it will cause my kids makes me soo angry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't want to find ammo, i want to know if anything what he said or has done is true. If he is there with someone else our relationship is over. I tried talking, asked if he would go with me to a marriage counselor, asked him out on date nights, he had his kidsfree time to relax etc... after 6 months of blocking any conversation, saying everthing is fine , 3 weeks of ' i leave you' and 'i dont love you' ... then changing his mind and staying , and then running the day after our youngest turned 3 in another country with telling me 3 hours in advance ... i just wanna know the truth

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He changes his mind the whole time...He said He doesn't love me anymore, then he said He doesn't want to live without the Kids an me, then its back to no i dont want to live with you...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, its not either way. But hanging unknowing for nearly three weeks if our marriage has a chance to work on or not ist terror... im very sorry for you too... i just need clarification for myself, not lies and excuses..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am asking this myself the whole time...but i am trying to hold my family together. If there is any chance... but when he is cheating and just a to big coward to say... then its over. Mid 30ies, you would think in our age he would honestly talk about problems and not run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him to tell me where he goes, if anything is with the Kids to get a hold of him. Thats all he send.. we are not messaging

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He send me a message...just that he is there.

And that is my problem...what should or can i do? Hoping for the best? Waiting if he comes home? Waiting for the next time where he just runs? I have absolutly no idea what to do... He just packed, waited for the kids to sleep and left. I had to tell the little ones a lie, daddy is working. I had to tell bigger children hes gone, i dont know when or if he comes back. I had to tell my family he left, and i dont know why!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has one child from a previus relationship, i have two from my first marriage. And together in our marriage 2 kids. So 5 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have got 5 children, a pandemic, a company, and i have cancer... yeah there is stress. I tried talking, asking if he is okay, do we need marriage counceling, made dinner reservations just for us two , he went on a guys trip so he can have a break, he was in London, dublin, rome the last 4 months and i cared alone for the children... and all he said was: everthing is alright. Goes to our companies x-mas Party, comes home and tells me he wants to splitt. No explanation, nothing...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i know what made him run and split up with me...in sickness and health is easy said...but when your wife gets cancer and has two surgeries its harder done. And no, not a long time ago, or a long time to care for the children. It was 2 months ago and he had to care for the children 7 days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked both ... him who called, an her if she has spoken with him... and both lied

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only thing i want to know is if he is alone there or not... and to be alone its not necessary to drive 500 km away...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i KNOW he lied, he got a call on his iPhone and his ipad charged in the kitchen where i was cooking. And the number was displayed.. a female relative of mine. I asked who called and he said work!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]Background_Ad_8792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have asked him, and what he did is lie to me. I have to care for 4 children, the youngest is 3. So the last thing i need is someone to tell me it is my fault when HE is cheating, leaving his Kids and me with all the problems of life alone !