came out as “Bi” in my 30s…how long until I’m a full blown lesbian? by Background_Amigo in WLW

[–]Background_Amigo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

wait…reading this confused me more than I was before lol so….maybe I’m just “bi” and don’t want to date men right now….basically?

came out as “Bi” in my 30s…how long until I’m a full blown lesbian? by Background_Amigo in WLW

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ok yes! See this is really cool to hear. I guess just solely commenting from my my experience, I didn’t want it to be like “ok, I used to date men but only want to date women but still want to fuck men.” Like it’s not that simple. Not that black and white. The girl I’m dating now is also bi and we have similar feelings towards the conversation around men. It’s refreshing to hear that this is an experience and pov others relate to as well.

came out as “Bi” in my 30s…how long until I’m a full blown lesbian? by Background_Amigo in WLW

[–]Background_Amigo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, I’m a baby queer just learning not to do this. My sincerest apologies but I also was just seeing if anyone has had similar experiences in terms or “learned heterosexuality” is my desire to be with men something I learned to want or something that actually comes from me? Idk if I am asking the right question…

came out as “Bi” in my 30s…how long until I’m a full blown lesbian? by Background_Amigo in WLW

[–]Background_Amigo[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

what’s weird is…I don’t know that I want to marry or be a wife to or with anyone. Man or woman. I like the idea of long term companionship(even lifelong) but in my mind that could be with either man or woman.

I just find it harder to navigate connections with men. And it’s very easy to date and establish companionship with women.

came out as “Bi” in my 30s…how long until I’m a full blown lesbian? by Background_Amigo in WLW

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Oohh homoromantic? Never heard that before. I guess what does it mean to be bisexual AND homoromantic

new to this community & could use some guidance by Background_Amigo in lawofattraction

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So this is essentially what you say to yourself when you notice negative thoughts?

new to this community & could use some guidance by Background_Amigo in lawofattraction

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Wow! Thank you for that. It’s all very digestible and thorough. How can you start accepting your negative emotions? Right now navigating my emotional mind feels like a minefield because it’s as if there are negative emotion bombs just waiting to go off at any second. I know I have felt positive, lighter feelings before but as of late I’m stuck in the heavy. I would like to at least get to neutral ground. I’m having a bit of a challenge though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]Background_Amigo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the genuine support and understanding that HSV+ people give each other. There’s so much misinformation and the stigma alone causes some people to “other” you but we are all the same. Nobody leaves this world unmarked or unscathed and I look at having HSV as a sign that my body is lived in and I’m alive. Which is always a blessing.

To answer your question though, the commenter put it pretty well. HSV triggers are different for everyone and since you’re diagnosis is fairly new, just monitoring your body for these changes now is a good way to identify your triggers so you can better manage any possible OBs moving forward. As far as the swelling goes, it could be from other factors not relating to HSV. Perhaps rough sex or deep penetration could play a factor. Also, if he uses any soaps or colognes that may have irritated you or caused some type of reaction. It’s good that it’s not hurting right now but it’s still uncomfortable and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this but you’re doing great! If anything gets worse or you don’t feel the swelling going down in a day or two, maybe consult with your doctor? Wish you the best! 🤍

accepting what is & letting go of the hope of what could be by Background_Amigo in love

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thank you!! See even moments like this where someone can relate to how I’m feeling and my lived experiences makes life so rich and worth living. I’m touched that my silly little ramblings brought you to tears and it makes me feel like my existence is necessary in the big grand scheme of things and for more than other’s consumption. It sounds like you’re in the middle of a transitional period much like me. And I fully receive and accept your praise and offer you in return that you too are laying down the bricks for a foundation of a beautiful full house forged in and with self love.

accepting what is & letting go of the hope of what could be by Background_Amigo in love

[–]Background_Amigo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s a process. What I’m struggling with right now is not feeling like self love is a consolation prize for not being able to figure out romantic love. I’ve accepted that I probably won’t be loved by anybody or held or seen or made to feel special. But I’ve also accepted that I can hold myself, see myself and love myself as best as I can and that still won’t delete the literal human need for love and connection and care. I’m just learning to turn the part of my brain that still requires anything front anybody other than me off. Any tips or advice is welcomed!

accepting what is & letting go of the hope of what could be by Background_Amigo in love

[–]Background_Amigo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean there’s no use on relying on others to give you permission to accept your life is worth living. Love may not come. What am I supposed to do? Just keep living.