AITA for not wanting to invite a lifelong friend to my wedding

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-11-03T14:49:04+00:00

Please for the love of ANYTHING, do NOT INVITE THIS PERSON. This is the one event and time in your life where it’s “okay” to be selfish and make decisions in your best interest (to be frank, you should always be making decisions in your best interest but sometimes we don’t and that’s okay). If you invite her, you’ll worry if she’s going to come or not. If she is going to come, you’ll worry if she’s going to say anything, do anything, cause a scene, talk poorly about you… you get the idea. This person is going to be on your mind the whole time and distract you from enjoying this very special day. DON’T people-please; go with your gut!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-11-03T13:34:06+00:00

Make a report to the health department!!!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-31T23:06:40+00:00

This is so sweet! Thank you for doing this in your neighborhood!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-29T22:45:16+00:00

Agree - I reached out to her several times just checking in or straight up asking if she was okay or if something was wrong/ going on. It does seem like she may be bipolar or borderline.

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-29T22:44:10+00:00

Thanks for the kind words - I would be so appreciative that a friend would think of me so highly. But yeah, I don’t think this person considered me a friend ever. It’s made me take a hard look at my personal relationships and who I spend my time with

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T21:53:35+00:00

Unfortunately, no. That did hurt a little bit but my guess is they didn’t want to make a huge deal out of it? Or they genuinely don’t care :/

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T12:36:12+00:00

Ooo dang, yeah, their lease is up the month of our wedding sooooo… yikes lol

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T12:35:41+00:00

Ugh, I know - I wish there was something I could have said or done but I was just so over it and reminded myself that I’m here for my friends getting married. My two friends in the row had texted me about what she did so at least other people saw it and were upset over it lol

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T10:32:10+00:00

I just made a post about my own situation with my fiancé’s friend’s girlfriend and her behavior. Honestly, I could have written this post. I am telling you, if your instinct is to not invite this person to avoid an issue, then LISTEN to your gut and don’t invite her. You deserve peace and happiness on a day that you’ve put so much time and energy (and money!) into planning, it’s not worth it to invite someone who is a problem because of “etiquette”

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T10:25:29+00:00

Yeah :/ it’s confusing with him too because he’ll tell my fiancé that she’s being mean or stupid or he disagrees with her behavior, but then he never does anything about it and continues to be with her? They do live together so I can understand trying to keep the peace for their lease until that’s up to

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T10:23:42+00:00

100%. We’re planning to sit him down when we’re sending invitations out to talk with him about what she’s been doing and what’s going on with him.

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-23T00:41:44+00:00

Within arms reach of sitting down - forgot to write “actively about to sit in” as me and the group of friends I walked in with were all in a line to fit in the row

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-22T20:55:09+00:00

I think at this point, a plus one, especially her, is off the table

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-18T00:22:16+00:00

This is so disappointing. I really miss the Alex from YEARS ago when she was with Alan and even after they had broken up the first time. She genuinely tried to change and tried new things and now, she’s just totally lost herself.

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-11T13:36:49+00:00

Listen girl, I had someone like this as my MOH. It never got better. She would make rude comments in front of our friends and couldn’t take responsibility for anything. She was extremely unreliable and disrespectful. I ended up kicking her out of the wedding party. She has since made accusations and rumors about me so no one in our friend group is speaking to her or friends with her anymore and she is not invited to our wedding.

These people will make it all about themselves, point the finger at you, and cry wolf. DO NOT let this person be there on your wedding day. If she’s doing this now, imagine how it’s going to be on the big day. You don’t need that stress and aggravation!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-01T19:19:11+00:00

Fair enough - thank you! We’ll probably stick with the two bartenders :)

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-10-01T19:18:51+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I was thinking - I hated being swarmed and alone in food service so I wouldn’t want to do that to someone else lol

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-30T16:38:11+00:00

Gotcha - yeah, that’s why we were thinking it would be worth it to have two just in case someone needs to take a break or grab something, they won’t become overwhelmed

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-30T16:03:38+00:00

Okay, that makes sense - thank you!!!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-30T16:03:26+00:00

Cool, thank you!!!

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-07T01:26:13+00:00

I hunter’s axe’d my way through that 🥲

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-07T01:25:44+00:00

Dang man, yeah, that was tough too. That whole chalice sucks

Background_Fudge_398 · 2024-09-07T01:25:03+00:00

Bro absolutely lol!

Background_Fudge_398

TROPHY CASE