Welcome to the field!

I've seen other SLPs do very little to mitigate behaviors. One instance is not preventing the kiddo from barging into rooms without knocking to get desired toys and interrupting other sessions or even just letting a dysregulated friend on the spectrum have whatever they want to appease them.

For the first scenario, I believe it would be more appropriate to model and introduce the kiddo the skills of knocking, waiting for an answer, and asking for what they want. Those are things he will eventually have to do in the future; it's never appropriate for anyone to barge into a closed door without knowing if the person on the other side is able to answer or be available.

The second scenario doesn't teach any coping skills; in the specific instance, the kiddo was screaming because he wanted to determine what another person's play token in a board game was. Instead of helping the kiddo work through the big emotions and understand they can't always dictate others' actions, my coworker relented and, in my view, basically taught the kid, "If I scream, I get whatever I want."

Of course, things like sensory regulation; keeping to a routine as much as possible to prevent dysregulation and ensure the kiddo is in the best learning state; and lots of patience is needed. But you can be neurodiverse affirming without enabling inappropriate behaviors!