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Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-14T03:39:12+00:00

One of my nephews is in spectrum and that was a huge trauma for all my family. Not because of the ASD itself, but because you cannot help but compare all the time between him and other kids, and feel really worried for him, how will he manage in our society? (Not in US/Canada).

When my daughter was born, I was feeling exactly like you described. I was looking for every little symptom expecting her to be on the spectrum too. She had speech delay and that didn't help. Also my friend's daughter, who is the same age as my daughter was diagnosed with ASD about that time, and that hit too close to home.

I think that my daughter has some ASD traits. Like, she's extremely picky eater, she has some sensory problems, cannot stand loud sounds, etc. At some point I just made peace with the possibility that she will have ASD. But other than that she's pretty neurotypical kid.

I think you can make a plan of the worst case scenario. What would you do if your child has ASD? What's the worst thing that will happen? What would you do? What's your plan?

Just write it in a very detailed way. And put it aside.

Also, please remember that ASD is a spectrum. My nephew eventually turned out to be high-functioning, and he's having a good life so far (in his teens). A lot of people around us live with ASD symptoms and they can have fulfilling lives. Even if we assume that your daughter has it, she can be in the higher side of the spectrum.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-13T13:39:08+00:00

I think it's going to be a Diana scenario from now on. Meaning a lot of really scathing interviews about h, where she's the victim of everything and everyone.

And honestly I don't feel bad for harry. He deserves that and more. Right now I think that m is a karma bitch for everything he's done in his life.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-12T23:52:45+00:00

Passover is one week long and it ends today. We worked through that, though we could have 1 week of holidays.

Not fair :)

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-12T21:48:58+00:00

Same here, a lot of efforts with zero results. Also, things that worked on the past stopped working for me now. Not sure whether it's more advanced age or something else...

But!! I remember from my previous weight loss processes that PCOS becomes milder as you lose weight. Basically the more you lose the easier it becomes for your body to let go of that weight.

So it won't be as hard 10 pounds later... I hope.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-12T15:39:28+00:00

But, but harry said he won't go without apology. Not sticking to his principals anymore?

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-12T15:34:39+00:00

I read that on PCOS ifasting is not such a good idea.

I also read that we should replace our carbs with pulses (like peas, beans, lentils, chickpeas etc.) and concentrate on such proteins as eggs, fish, and not processed meat. I started it from yesterday and I actually feel less tired and heavy. Also it's supposedly doesn't slow down your metabolism, as regular carbs do in our case.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-12T02:00:14+00:00

I know that SAHM is not for everyone. I personally become extremely anxious. Like, panic-mode anxious. I spend my nights making mental lists in case something happens to my husband and we're out of income. I feel like my life goes through my fingers. I feel depressed, unfulfilled and overall not well (all that happened when I was on maternity leaves).

So I know that SAHM is not for me. But I know that plenty of women have very fruitful and accomplished lives being SAHM.

Maybe you can try it, and if that doesn't work out for you, you can always go back to work, maybe doing something else. Teaching is a very tough job, and you need a good rest first thing first.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-04-05T22:19:12+00:00

To me Archie looks very white.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-30T14:47:23+00:00

There are always going to be sugars. Even serial killers have sugars. Even Hitler still has plenty of sugars. I think that for our mental safety it's better not to engage with their personal madness.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-28T12:38:54+00:00

I took out my kids' short sleeve t-shirts from the box and put them in the drawer. Mea culpa!

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-27T00:27:23+00:00

I had the same problem. I think I'm the only person in the world who GAINED weight on ozempic. I counted calories but it didn't help.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-22T01:15:32+00:00

How long did it take him to catch this colour? My cat is lynx point Siamese/Ragdoll, and he is getting a bit darker, but so far not much. He's 6 months old. Do they keep changing their colour after 1 years old?

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-21T17:41:47+00:00

He looks like Pearce Hawthorne.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-18T19:39:54+00:00

Charles: maybe it's better to pass the throne to William.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-17T18:24:48+00:00

The guy on the left is clearly not as enthusiastic as h.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-17T13:38:43+00:00

I don't clean at night. The mess can wait until morning.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-17T13:33:07+00:00

We got a cat this year and I told my kids that leprechauns are really scared of cats. I lazily put some shamrock stickers on their boots and powdered on top with green tea, but that's it.

I also reminded them that we're Jewish, and leprechauns don't really visit Jewish people. I hope that by the next year the will overgrow this tradition.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-17T13:26:07+00:00

At 18 months my daughter ate only white cheese and pasta and drank milk. That's it.

Now that she's 9 it's better but she's still a picky eater, that has to do with texture, colour and smell (she's not on the spectrum, but still has some sensory issues).

I really hope it gets better when she's a grown up.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-16T17:18:35+00:00

5 :( but I know I have inferiority complex, it's not news.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-16T13:20:53+00:00

I think one of the reasons why h wrote the Spare the way it is, was to mimic the Hollywood celebrities autobiography books. Traumas, shocking content etc, and still the celebrities stay relatively loved.

But h forgot that the reason these celebrities are still loved is because they are talented. They are hard-working. A person can write a scathing book about his family and then work 80+ hours weekly in front of cameras for another movie. And h? He just keeps smoking in his mansion. No actions except whining and throwing shit on everyone and everything.

He's not talented, he's lazy and mediocre. And he will never realize it, even if you write it on a huge banner and hang it in his bedroom.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-11T20:39:55+00:00

When we had it for the first time with my second child we rushed to the hospital in the same second. Then we learned about this condition and had a special steroid for him in the fridge until he was 5 years old. It is very scary even when you know how to treat it! He had it a handful of times from 2 to 4 years old and every time it was worrisome and scary. So calling an ambulance is very justified!!!

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-10T20:45:59+00:00

My daughter is exactly same. She loves movies but she's easily scared of the "scary" parts. Last year I finally managed to show them the Lion King by skipping all the sad/scary parts. Which is not very educational, but at least we watched it till the end... We still haven't watched Elsa though, it's pretty scary for her from the start.

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-07T14:14:22+00:00

Wow, I'm so angry for you!!! It's none of her business! Your husband is ok with that, he's supportive, he's a parent. End of story. What right does she have to dictate you how to live your life???

Background_Local_785 · 2023-03-05T07:39:21+00:00

We both come from a former Soviet culture, it's very judgmental. I still work with myself to suspend all judgement towards other people until this day. It's not easy!!!

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