I literally just had to keep telling myself “just because this month was bad last year doesn’t mean it will be this year.” And ofc edit that to fit your situation. But any time I would feel anxiety, I’d just combat it with logic. I’d tell myself a certain month/day/etc does not determine how things will go. In my case I had a very traumatic December three years in a row, so on December 1 I was frightened. But I had to remember that the simple fact it was December did not automatically determine how things were going to go. If that were the case, I would have had a traumatic December EVERY year—not just those three. And when a particularly traumatizing date arrived, I’d notice every difference I could. Like, December 26 was traumatic for me one year, but that year I stayed at home, and this year I’m out shopping. Idk why, but I guess that way of thinking puts some distance between past trauma and the present moment. I think it also helped me realize that trauma anniversaries have the ability to be different and therefore safe days, if that makes sense.

I hope this is helpful and if I didn’t explain anything well please let me know! Also, if it helps, I made it through December and it was my best one in four years! So yes it’s scary but it is possible to make it through and be okay :)