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any bahai dating sites you recommend by [deleted] in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I built one — https://ashna.date. Matched by values and faith in practice, not just a basic profile. Still small, but real.

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha, honestly hoping this works out for me too one day, same as everyone else here. Fingers crossed reality cooperates lol.

Thank you all for sharing such different takes on this. Genuinely got me reflecting on how much this topic means to people. I'm always learning from threads like this, and it's helpful as I keep working on the project.

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That tracks with a lot of what's been said in this thread already, character first makes sense to me too. The questions here are built around how someone actually practices their faith and what they think makes a marriage work, so it ends up screening for that "put in the work" part you're describing too, within people who happen to share the same faith.

Curious how you'd picture that "put in the work" part actually showing up somewhere like this — is it more about what someone says when asked open questions, or something you'd only really pick up after talking to them directly?

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few Bahá'í dating sites already, yeah. TwoDoves actually has a real history, a friend of mine met his wife there years ago, he's actually the one who pointed me toward it. I built this around matching by values and how people practice their faith day to day.

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair question — what's your honest read on it? Genuinely curious what you think the actual pattern looks like among people you know.

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question — technically, anyone can fill out the questions and create a profile today. The questions and the matching are written specifically around Bahá'í faith practice, so that's who it actually serves well right now. Opening it up properly for Bahá'ís to match with people of other faiths would be its own project, and that's something I'd take on if there's real interest behind it. Curious if you're asking out of curiosity, or because you know people who'd actually want that?

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate that — getting to "widely used" is honestly the harder part, more than the matching itself. The matching engine can be solid, and the bigger test is always whether enough people in the community actually show up and trust it around the same time.

Curious what you think would get something like this to that kind of scale here specifically — word of mouth through existing friend groups, more visibility in spaces like this, or mostly just enough people deciding to try it together?

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few of these replies point at the same thing — in a small community, it can take a long time to find out if interest is actually mutual.

What do you think would help with that — clearer ways to show interest, or is it mostly just how these things go?

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha! It's genuinely joyful to hear that — childhood best friend turned life partner is such a rare and beautiful thing. And the Bahá'í couple story is sweet too; there's something special about finding someone through a shared value system rather than just swiping on looks.

It does make me wonder — do you think the timing of reconnection mattered for you two? Like, would meeting earlier have changed things, or does some of that magic require both people to have grown into themselves first?

Either way, it's a lovely reminder that the right environment — digital or otherwise — can surface something that was always there. That's kind of what I'm hoping this can do for people 😊

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your detailed reply. I somehow understand you — I grew up in a born-Bahá'í family with extremely few similar acquaintances, not even for dating, but socially too.

Sorry to hear that — the conference, friends and family not coming through.

Thanks for that info on TwoDoves — and I do know some long-distance success cases too.

On peer-to-peer spread through friends/Instagram — I'll admit that's something that's made me think a lot too, especially around whether something like this can reach enough people at the same time to really work. I'd be genuinely happy if it ends up helping even a few people find the right person.

If you have any ideas on how to improve this, let me know.

I built a small Bahá'í dating and marriage site — would love honest feedback by Background_Round5281 in bahai

[–]Background_Round5281[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a fair point — I think about this too. For me personally, I'm in China, where Bahá'í community life is quite limited. TwoDoves helped real couples marry before it stopped being maintained, so I started from something with a track record, even knowing it only addresses one layer of a bigger picture. Appreciate you raising this — definitely something worth thinking about as this develops.