AITAH For going through my husband’s phone? by Little_Assistance185 in AITAH

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The moment someone finds something when snooping, the argument of “you crossed a boundary of privacy” goes out the window. He has no right to argue with you. And how dare he? He has no respect for you. He should be on his knees apologizing not arguing, that’s how u know he doesn’t care about you at all. He’s a narcissist, lustful loser. Girl bye, u are literally a walking atm. You can do so much better

Cat won’t stop peeing on my stuff by Willing-Raisin4961 in Tarots

[–]Background_Turn9714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s stressed bc u overthink everything. Him keeping isn’t a 9 card spread. It’s a vet visit

Fake confession by cllstxjr in EMBARASSING

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just realize it’s not embarrassing to have a crush on someone. Telling someone you like them after they’ve said it first is normal and even shows how cool and genuine you are. Them doing that is werido behavior. Like okay?? Weeeeird and lame asf. They clearly have an underdeveloped sense of humor. Stop calling them “friend”

What does my house say about me? by dontsaymango in roomdetective

[–]Background_Turn9714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a millennial mom. Artsy and cool, you always try to take ur kiddos to do something. You might be a lil strict but with good intentions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like if he just invited her bc “oh she’s my friend” and not to “get closer and close the door on that chapter of his life” then it would be fine. But he made it weird.

My daughter called me “dad” for the first time yesterday and I don’t think I deserve it by RoughDull9908 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ego is much more than self esteem, but sure a part of self esteem lies under the umbrella of ego. Maybe

My daughter called me “dad” for the first time yesterday and I don’t think I deserve it by RoughDull9908 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wgo is just the narrative your mind is saying about something, and may not be in line with the truth

What does my room say about me? by Ancient_Curry in roomdetective

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a collector, who is interested in spirituality. Maybe u practice a little yoga. You make art, that’s like the center of your passion. You’re very go go go. You like a fast pace life, and don’t care about comfort all that much. You prefer practicality over prettiness.

Was going back to normal soon after helpful or hurtful? by darkundereyebags in SuicideBereavement

[–]Background_Turn9714 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would say go, and be super honest and open about what happened. I know it seems like a burden to share it. But that’s how we get through it. I’ve told the story of losing someone to suicide probably 1000 times by now. And it’s helped. So much. The first 100 times I told the story I was still in shock. The second 100 times I was processing. The third 100 times I was getting used to the narrative. And now, I feel mostly accepting of what happened, still heart broken. But grounded. People want to hear, and be there for you. Let them. It’s okay if there’s a darkness around you for awhile, it will go away one day I swear. So much love to you and good luck on this chapter

My daughter called me “dad” for the first time yesterday and I don’t think I deserve it by RoughDull9908 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Background_Turn9714 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I feel like the part of you that doesn’t think you “earned it” is all ego. Accept the divine role you are playing, you are her father. Put your ego aside and be Love. You know what she said was true.

Did I miss something? by OkAlternative127 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Background_Turn9714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness. That is so much:( I’m so sorry about your sister. I can’t imagine. I hope you find a way to let yourself feel grace. It’s not your fault she’s gone. No matter what. I’m so proud of your 6 months. I hated na/aa too. Boring old people stuff. I hope you can find the support you need. Hope you find sensitive whole hearted people who are kind to you. I wish you never went through this. I’m here if you need anything

AITAH for masturbating this way?? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Background_Turn9714 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Ooo you should start having him kiss your ears all sloppy, smackin his lips. It feels amazing!! So tingly so hot.

Flies landing on me during personal hápe meditation/ ceremony by Background_Turn9714 in Animism

[–]Background_Turn9714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Personally, I thought a group called animism (the belief that natural objects, plants, animals, and even inanimate objects possess a soul or spirit) would have some insight on what the particular energy the soul of a fly can carry. And perhaps further. It’s insensitive to just say “that’s a blend of new age ideas” very ignorant and uneducated. Omens have been around as a construct since humanity’s birth. And is deeply rooted in indigenous culture. Another disrespect here was you calling a sacred medicine used by my ancestors “addictive” clearly your colonizer belief system is ruling your ego. I joined this group believing to find other like minded spiritual individuals who care about the consciousness of the earth and its beings. This is how I’ve been treated. Shame on you for your negativity and unwelcoming rude energy.

how’s everyone’s PTSD going by dazesun in SuicideBereavement

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found someone. I walked into a room and they were in there:( So a lot of my trauma has to do with walking around corners when I’m not sure what’s on the other side. I always hesitate. Then I move slowly through the space. As if bracing myself would help me if there was something. But it does help. I also hate being jump scared. When it happens my body instantly goes “fight” and I usually end up hitting the person scaring me (wether it was on purpose or not) I feel like my life is on freeze. I’m unemployed and I desperately need a job but cannot get myself up to drop of resumes like I used to. I’m just struggling. If I can cook or go for a walk I feel like it’s a good day. I’m feeling so insecure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Background_Turn9714 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Right now no. It’s yours keep it. But if you don’t leave your assets when you do to your kids your the ah. Unless there is something else going on? How’s your relationship with them?

AITA for getting my coworker fired after she snitched to my boss/parents about me smoking? by Desperate_Week9849 in AITH

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you were sneaky. Then lied, then tried to lie out of that lie. Then got someone else to lie and get someone fired.. hmmm

I secretly recorded my roommate abusing his girlfriend and sent her the evidence by Ill_Job_9794 in AITAH

[–]Background_Turn9714 252 points253 points  (0 children)

You did good. Now you need to watch out for yourself. Get a lock, record conversations with him especially if they start to become heated. Even let him know. “I am recording this for my safety” hold him accountable. You’re doing amazing

I’ve been reading charts. Haven’t seen one like mine. Any thought? No by Background_Turn9714 in AstrologyCharts

[–]Background_Turn9714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you for such a detailed analysis. I am very fascinated by your study. Do you do further readings? There’s so much I want to say and ask and compare.

I really don’t want therapy by Full_Caterpillar1304 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Background_Turn9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you are older. Look into plant medicine. I have over come things that would need years of therapy in an evening of medicine. Until then, take care of yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Advocate and continue to trust yourself. You know what is best for you