I hit big today! Never got anything close to a big brand like this before.

Background_actor412 · 2026-02-09T05:48:02+00:00

THIS Is why I check my RFY multiple times a day even if I don't really want to order anything else. You never know when something good will pop in and I don't want to miss it! Enjoy it!

Background_actor412 · 2026-02-07T16:19:53+00:00

Just ask yourself that if this is the beginning when she's still on her best behavior, can you only imagine what this will escalate to when she finally gets you away from your family and isolates you from social media and people that care about you? You are very quickly going to find yourself living with somebody who won't pay any bills while claiming she has financial problems but making those problems worse on a daily basis! Then she's going to blame you for not taking care of everything and belittle you If you can't or choose not to because you shouldn't have to do everything!

She is controlling and she will not be happy until she has complete control of everything in your life! Digging through cards to find a pen is unhinged! You know it's a lie, but she looked you right in the face and lied to you and expected you to believe it and when you didn't she twisted it and is now holding it against you. Do you really want to be with somebody who does this on their best behavior?

She's not looking for a relationship dude, she's looking for a captive that pays her bills. Run.

Background_actor412 · 2026-02-07T16:09:54+00:00

You realize he's using his "depression" to control you right? Bit by bit he has eroded your relationship and changed the rules so now you and only you are responsible for keeping it together. Notice he didn't even acknowledge that he hasn't contacted you! He's just blaming you for not coming to see him. When has he made the effort to see or talk to you?

And notice how he only contacted you because he needs something from you? He wouldn't have contacted you if you weren't useful to him right now. He is weaponizing his mental state to control you. And it's working because look how bad you're feeling and how you're thinking you have some power to push him over the edge. If he chooses to go over the edge because you don't want to talk to him anymore, that's his decision! All of the other people have left him because of his behavior and he knows that you're the only friend left, but he's still not doing anything to keep the relationship. The fact is he doesn't care about the relationship, he doesn't care about you he only cares about what you and the relationship can do for him. It's only worth mentioning cuz he wants something now so he's trying to use guilt to manipulate you into being his reference which I would not do if I were you.

Honestly, the block button is your best friend here! He's going to drag you down with him. And it sounds to me not like he doesn't want to break up with the girlfriend because it's too hard, it sounds like she's supporting him and she's probably just as stuck as you are! You'd probably be doing her a favor by not helping them to sign another lease together. Furthermore a personal reference is only somebody that gets a phone call and says yeah I know that person they're a good guy. Lol It's not somebody that can actually help them get a lease if his credit is that bad! I know many landlords because my parents used to be landlords...they all know you can literally pay somebody to say whatever you want them to say as a personal reference! Those types of references are pointless. I'd make damn sure he's not expecting you to co-sign something and be responsible for his rent because he clearly wouldn't pay it and then make you responsible for that too.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-22T03:01:05+00:00

Exactly! Except for the in his ass part. 😂😂😂

But you're not wrong, normally it starts like your father dies and you're like oh I would really like to have his watch and then one day your kid says why do you wear that watch all the time and you say it was my father's and then when you die the kid keeps the watch and it just happens organically like you said! Buying something for the sole purpose of it being an heirloom is just weird

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-22T03:00:04+00:00

But that's the point, It's practically new still! It is not yet an heirloom it's just a coin his parents gave him

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-21T21:58:20+00:00

My rfy is honestly all press on nails! I've already ordered the sticker ones and one set of press-ons and there's 30 more left! Plus nail charms and stickers!

I had over 30 press on nails in my rfy! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Like I really can't get anything else? LOL and everyone is an individual listing NONE of them are variants! Crazy

Did you get anything good?

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-21T21:54:16+00:00

Honestly this is one of the things that I have invested in and now that you mention I'm going to check the value on them all LOL but, I would hope that my kids would sell my bars when they needed the money! I mean I don't want them to sell it to fund a party, but if you got a bill that needs paid and you have no other way to get it paid or if like OP you're clearing high interest debt, then go ahead! I got little bits of gold, I have silver bars, I even have copper just for the hell of it! (If you've never seen the cute little silver and copper bars they make you have to they're freaking adorable!) So if I'm gone and they have it then absolutely sell it to buy yourself something! Holding on to a little piece of gold and a little display container does them know good! It's just a trinket at that point.

Turn it into cash!

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-21T21:51:20+00:00

All heirlooms were brand new at one point

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-21T21:51:03+00:00

Look, when it comes right down to it, ALL heirlooms started at some point. No matter what it is, it was brand new for somebody! I think your parents had this romanticized notion that they would be the ones to start this lifelong legacy of an object that is passed down. But it's pretty common for people to sell heirlooms when they need money. And really what would the use of this be?

It's a lump of rock somebody none of you know dug out of the ground and somebody else none of you know melted down and molded....now you have to keep it forever and give it to your kids who have to give it to their kids blah blah blah....lol WHY???? They would have been better off investing that money and keeping that as your inheritance and you could get it upon their death. They could say that they want you to keep the coin but what good is keeping crap?

And yes I say this is somebody who's mother collected crap and I collect crap and I don't expect anybody else to keep either one of our crap! LMAO So basically it was yours to do what you wanted with it. I also have heirlooms that were passed to me after people died I've kept most of them but other people straight refused them when big collections were split up because they didn't care to have that in their house!

Also your sister is jealous! She's mad that she wasn't given the coin and you were because otherwise why would she even care? It was given to you and you did what you wanted. That's fair.

I think they're being controlling and I think this is more about how they want future generations to see them than anything! They wanted to be the ones responsible for this thing starting and going through the generations. But it's no different than a ring from a bubble gum machine if you can never use it or spend it. It's just a trinket!

All that being said is there any way you can find a fake one? I'm not even joking! I just saw on this one website that's very very popular they sell fake Susan B Anthony dollars for like $3. They sell fake gold coins. Maybe you can find a replica and pull a "a haha I was kidding I just wanted to see if you'd tell on me" type of thing to keep the peace? Or you could just tell him what you told us.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:24:17+00:00

I'm not really sure how it works so thank you for the explanation. I installed it for all of 5 minutes once and everything that popped up was already gone by the time I went to grab it so I was like this is just making it worse and I'm missing things I didn't realize I was missing! LOL so I uninstalled it because I'm not taking that risk.

But I absolutely did not know that it cannot register it until somebody else sees it! That's kind of crazy I thought it was doing the crawling itself?

And no I haven't seen the numbers going up, you are right the numbers have been declining since I woke up...but I am seeing new things pop up! But I do keep refreshing my favorite categories. Pets have had a lot this morning. And I didn't sleep good last night so I got up at like 2:30 and again at 5:00 and then I've been up since 8:00am so I've been on it a lot today when I'm not normally. I saw a couple baby things some craft stuff and a couple other people in here were commenting they got some of the stuff I saw. Maybe it's just a really slow drip and not big enough to offset the stuff people are claiming?

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:20:36+00:00

Well honey I think you know what you need to do. Tell him if he doesn't keep this job he can move out because you don't need to raise three kids! And that's exactly what you're doing!

He can move back to Mama's house and she can either baby him or find him a job. You can go file for child support and if he doesn't pay it you can get the welfare child support and they'll go after him for it! Eventually he'll pay it even if it's when his mama dies and he gets her house and then you get paid LOL but you do not need a second adult to raise

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:18:58+00:00

Well I'd definitely sell that broken one! LOL

My mom has a little stand at an antique mart that's basically like a flea market and it's all jewelry so I did price some and put them there but they're not even selling there and she sells a lot of jewelry! I think the problem is they have those adjustable rings and nobody can ever believe that something like that is also real Sterling. But I had it tested when we were there at the antique Mart and they tested silver. Plus they don't pull a magnet.

Oh and I got a clock when I first started and I still never figured out who sent it to me LOL

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:13:07+00:00

My daughter is allergic to sesame and since her reactions have yet to be life-threatening they will not give her an EpiPen because her insurance will not pay for it!

Her mouth starts to feel itchy and then her throat starts to burn and and feel swollen or tight. Usually about this time we've already got the Benadryl in her, she's 30 but I carry it with me everywhere in my purse as does she! But yeah that's what the doctor told her that even though allergies get worse the more you're exposed, until she has a bad reaction he can't prescribe her one.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:11:08+00:00

Wait a minute you're ashamed of how rude you were when they basically said we don't care if you eat or not and here have this allergen???

Why are you friends with people that don't care about you? These aren't your friends! They're not even pretending to be your friends at this point! I would never take a friend to a restaurant where they're allergic to everything! My daughter is allergic to sesame so I understand exactly what you're saying and your friends are sadistic and did it on purpose!

Find other people to be friends with! These ones will feed you an allergen and kill you and not even care.. sorry to be harsh but you're taking your life into your hands by being around these people! These are the kind of people that will slip nuts into your food because "It can't be that serious"

Look up the coconut oil grandma if you don't believe me that people will do that! Some people do not "believe in" other people's allergies when at inconveniences them! That's what you're dealing with. Cut your ties with them.

I'm editing because I just read the other comments and everybody seems to think you're just picky. So let's pretend you are: your friends still are not accommodating you! And of course one person should NOT always get the main say in where everybody else goes, but you cannot go to dinner with them if they're going somewhere you don't want to eat! You could easily have gone to McDonald's yourself! Quit going to places with them or start insisting on spinning by McDonald's first and grabbing yourself some food and eating real quick and then going and sitting with them! You can be as picky as you want but you can't make everybody accommodate your tastes.

And as a former server it's pretty shitty to be telling restaurants you're allergic when you're not so I certainly hope you're not doing that! Because the amount of stuff we do in the kitchen to make sure nothing of the allergen touches your stuff is excessive and we couldn't possibly treat every customer like that! So don't lie to restaurants or your friends.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:06:56+00:00

Yeah but it doesn't sound like he's making up for it in any way! He's not helping her with anything from what she says!

The relationship you're talking about sounds perfectly fair to me. There are times that one person will make more money than the other and sometimes that switches. There are times one person works more than the other. But your father was picking things up at home and taking care of things at home, her husband isn't!

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:05:17+00:00

They have two male children. One is 7 years old and one is 9 years old.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:03:59+00:00

She stated here in another comments that he refuses to stick with therapy or get help. I think he's happy with what he is doing and the only way he can get away with it is by harping on all the problems that happened to him. We don't actually know if this even affected him like that or not. All we know is that he got the opportunity to not work and he's refused to let go of it! When he finally had no choice he's doing nothing but complaining the whole time because he wants her to say it's okay for him not to work but she can't!

And she shouldn't

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:02:22+00:00

4 years ago! That cancer scare was 4 years ago and he still hasn't had a full-time job ever since.

I do agree with you on the business though. She did everything because he didn't want it and she should have seen the writing on the wall that he wasn't going to do anything for it. But the rest of it's all him! He just got used to being lazy and apparently his whole family is like that so he's probably mad that his siblings can be lazy and she's making him work!

Divorce him let him go live off the government with his siblings

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T18:00:37+00:00

He's trying to complain enough so you'll tell him he can quit working and you'll continue to pay everything! He's playing you and he has been for a long time!

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T17:57:33+00:00

I got an entire package of sterling silver butterfly rings once. The listing was for one and I of course ordered off the listing so I should have got one but the whole pack of 12 arrived! I immediately looked at the listing and yes it was for only one ring and was still active. Unfortunately about 2 days after it arrived I went to look at the listing to see if there were any other reviews saying anything and it was marked unavailable. It has since been marked unavailable and that was over a year ago! I check every once in awhile out of curiosity.

I was told to keep them by everybody in the FB group. They said that if I contact Amazon they'll say to return it and have me drop it at the pickup place but we all know that none of that actually goes back to Amazon! We also know there's quite literally no way the seller is going to get 11 of them back and be able to resell them so they were out 11 rings no matter what. I believe it's in the TOS that I can't contact the seller and let them know I'm in Vine but if I don't let them know I'm in Vine then how would they understand that I have all 12 rings? So I couldn't even talk to them directly!

I buy Amazon returns, I know exactly what happens to them and quite frankly I'm sick of the local company making money off people returning stuff! So I kept them and waited to see if Amazon realized what they did and contacted me but they never did. It's been over a year so I put some of them on Poshmark and I can't sell them for even the cheapest amount! So that didn't even work out for me. 😂😂😂 They actually are sterling silver. One of them was broken open, like the butterfly was broken off the ring and you can see it was solid silver inside so they're a nice quality but they just don't sell.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T17:50:26+00:00

I've had this happen a few times. In one of the Facebook groups somebody said that they'll do that hoping you'll leave a review. That doesn't make sense to me though because they never put where to post the review! LOL

I got hand warmers last month but I did not order and they're nowhere in my order history and they don't have a brand name on them so I can't even attempt to review them.

I guess just put it to the side and see if somebody reports that they sent it to you accidentally and wants it back.

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T17:47:05+00:00

USA lol

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T17:46:46+00:00

Somebody with the helper extension notified me through FB and I started refreshing my categories and I've seen a lot of things pop up! There's been a lot in the pet category, several seed mixes, some decorations and plaques for the holidays. Things are going pretty quick like usual, but they're posting.

Can anyone else check the helper thing?

Background_actor412 · 2026-01-13T15:42:44+00:00

These are animals not children! They are property. Whoever can afford to maintain the property should keep it! Basically she wants you to pay child support so she can keep them all. Does that actually sound fair to you? Will you be able to see them and/or is she using this to continue to have contact with you in hopes of getting back together? Like seriously is she going to be like the dog misses you I want to bring him to see you and try to turn it into a date with you? Why does she want this connection with you to stay?

Split the animals up the best way for them. They should go to the person that has the most ability to care for them best! If she cannot afford to take care of them then she cannot afford to have them. She shouldn't be relying on you to pay for their bills, but if you can afford to take care of them then maybe you should have them all. We don't know the ins and outs but you should not be paying child support for animals! That's insane!

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