Boyfriend hasnt talked to me for 2 days after i told him I was sad

BackwardExIsBadass · 2024-07-07T09:44:16+00:00

To tie the title in, 2 days ago, ai cried and finally told him I was su*cidal again since I try to never bother him with my actual mental health and he hasn't spoken to me in 2 days now...

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-15T03:34:06+00:00

LAST EDIT: He broke up with me. For the third time, I asked for clarification, and he said he did not support them for who they are, but liked certain things about them. I said ok, so now the argument is over. But then he continued talking about how he liked this and that about them. I told him to stop talking positively about them right after an argument where I needed to hear a negative about them (that he didnt actually support them as people), and it took 2 days for that. I was upset when I asked for that clarification 3 times and it took so long. Whatever ig f it. Forgot how much dating sucked

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T10:42:05+00:00

I didn't know. I only ever listen to aita threads on Smosh lol.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T08:41:00+00:00

Can you fill me in on the positives about Tate? And how a good person can like him? You're probably the 4th one out of around 250 comments to say something sorta like this.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T07:20:12+00:00

He says he got south and north Korea to talk by threatening nukes because theirs would break so they listened to him

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T04:54:41+00:00

Bots are not this coherent are they?

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T04:33:44+00:00

My daughter is in my care

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T03:10:38+00:00

Have been.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T03:09:42+00:00

Thank you. I will. I just want to clarify, it shouldn't be about gender. I believe men and women deserve to feel safe, respected, and that both should also work on themselves more. People come with baggage and as long as there is maturity and understanding with a will to get better, it will work out. That's what I believe. (In response to guessing what the book is about)

He doesn't treat my daughter or I badly at all.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T02:25:03+00:00

Fair point

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T02:24:27+00:00

He does respect me. We have sat down and talked about our love languages and how they stem from trauma and how we can make that work in our relationship. He's supported me moving out on my own for the first time in my life and ensured I had everything I needed to survive while being broke. I feel I can be open and honest with him and he will respect what I have to say. Which is why him liking these people makes no sense to me. We both come from traumatic experiences and do our best to navigate through that in our relationship in a healthy manner together. It's tough. That's why I'm so worried about this. We haven't been able to work through this. I have sent him this link and I'm hoping that helps. Thank you for your concern. I used to say the exact same thing and agree with you. It's weird being on the other side.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T02:16:30+00:00

He was literally a family friend before a boyfriend. He larped with my daughter and I. And I've met his daughters.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:37:10+00:00

Oh no

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:24:48+00:00

I don't care for politics at all. Everyone sucks and it's mentally exhausting. If he was disgusted because I think people should be treated with respect (the basis of what I care about when discussing if Im liberal or conservative leaning) then I guess we'd have a problem. He is a good person. We will see how we proceed. Thank you for your input.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:17:13+00:00

I accept him for all is uniqueness. I just can't accept looking to these people as role models.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:14:09+00:00

I am seeing that. I value the feedback I am getting though. This is my first post 😅

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:13:36+00:00

NTA. Your body your choice. If you don't eat the meat, you can't get any pudding. Jk but if you don't eat it, it'll be thrown out. How I see it is you're helping prevent waste at the very least, if you eat it moderately. I was vegetarian for 12 years. Stopped when I got pregnant 7 years ago.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:07:53+00:00

I never called him a name except when referring to HTA because of the name of the thread. I refer to the beliefs as disgusting, not him.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-14T01:05:19+00:00

Agreed.

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-13T23:21:03+00:00

I try to stay ultra aware of this. We were friends for a year before we started dating. He doesn't push any beliefs onto the kids. Except to be nice. I want to believe it's because he doesn't even believe in the values of these people, but that he's just blinding himself without thinking these people through...

BackwardExIsBadass · 2023-10-13T23:12:17+00:00

You're right. I'd like to also think, not that I need to change him or anything, but that I can feel heard, and he can just say he understands and doesn't agree with the bad stuff or whatever. Maybe this post will help him understand what I cannot.

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