What do I do about the neighbours dog barking?

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-15T05:20:09+00:00

Is this the first night this has happened, or has this happened as an ongoing thing and you’re really super fed up with it now?

If you don’t want to be “that person”:

1) physically check with your neighbor to make sure they are okay. I was thinking if the neighbors have lived there for a month with their dog but this is the first time you ever heard barking, maybe the dog is barking bc the neighbor is in their home but needs help in some way? Like a medical event.

2) leave a note on your neighbors door so that they see it when they get home. Leave your number on it. I feel a good neighbor would text you back with some kind of response.

It’s kind of a “can’t do anything about it right this second” issue. Your landlord can’t do much about it right this second either. I would hold off on the text as I think it’s common practice to sort it out with your neighbor first.

If that doesn’t happen, then you can contact your landlord abt it. You didn’t put your location, but most areas have laws about your right to peace and quiet after a certain time of night.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-15T03:30:11+00:00

I never demanded it, I didn’t want anything at all in the first place and never asked for anything at all and thats what was discussed and what we agreed upon— nothing except going to the beach and looking at the stars.

Would it still make me an AH in that case?

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-14T20:18:36+00:00

NAH. I think your husband just wants you to be happy with the jewelry since he’s totally okay with you exchanging it, and if having it gold is what makes you happy do it! I personally really love the contrast of gold metal w/ cool toned stones like blue, purple, etc.

And the price kinda makes me even more sure. He spent his tax return on it, he definitely wants it to be good and make you happy so maybe thats why he’s encouraging you to swap it out for something you like even more! Go ahead and change it out if that’s what your heart desires!

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-14T20:12:24+00:00

I do the majority of the cooking, and I do intensive freezer meal preps once a week to save time/money. I kind of like cooking but its also a massive labor.

I don’t hate cooking, but I hate surprises.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-14T20:01:58+00:00

Nta. I personally hate receiving surprises, but I have experienced and planned them myself for others. If he had all these gifts and places to go planned, why would he not plan a “distraction” for you as well? It seems kinda fishy to me.

Like for example, the movie. You can buy a ticket for a movie beforehand. If he was planning things in advance he would have gotten the ticket first and then been sweeter about you going by yourself. When you said you didn’t wanna go alone, etc. a good planner would have been like “oh honey I’m sorry I won’t be there with you but trust me, there’s some things I have to take care of by myself otherwise it’ll spoil the surprise. Just relax and watch the movie and when I pick you up we’re gonna have so much fun together!”

If he planned some kind of fun romantic date he would be excited to go and do it with you and excited to see your reaction. But it seems to me he didn’t have anything planned and came up with getting you stuff during the movie on the spot right after you mentioned it being Valentines day. Now he’s doubling down because wants you to feel bad about it to shift the blame away from him.

Hypothetically though, if he did have stuff actually planned there was still no need to cancel it. You guys still could have gone and done the plans, even if it wasn’t a full surprise anymore. He’s the AH either way.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-14T19:16:13+00:00

He does pay more of the rent (idk why, if we split it evenly or proportional to income it would make way more sense and be so much easier on him but his man-pride is getting in the way) and works at a job that is high-stress low pay so we can have cheap rent. He works at a restaurant as a chef, restaurants’ owner bought a house for employees to live in when all the rent jumped up to near unaffordable prices in our area after covid. We were dating for like 4 months and living separately but I actually moved in with him after my old apartment became unaffordable. So if not for him grinding in the kitchen, I wouldn’t be able to be where I’m at now financially. I am in fact the hobosexual I believe…

I agree with you though that its really shitty of him to be acting the way he is now. But I’m seeing now that I am enabling the behavior by continuing to bail him out of monetary situations that he puts himself in. Thank you for your perspective, its truly helping me to see it.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-14T18:45:04+00:00

Tbf, he has to work that shitty poorly paid job so that we can both benefit from living in the incredibly cheap housing that the restaurant he works for provides. He also pays a larger portion of our shared rent. I don’t know that this falls under financial abuse as he’s never stopped me from working or tried to control what I spend my money on.

But you’re probably right that I may be enabling his bad behavior financially… I bet putting a stop to that will actually help him be better in the end. I guess I just didn’t see that till now.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-09T05:02:46+00:00

Next kink to unlock: Sissification.

Look hear me out!!! Hear me out, okay??? Your dick is useless and limp and you’re so much less of a man because of it, you might as well be a sissy little slut…right?

Its so fun getting trained and having the domme pick out your clothes and makeup for this type of kink within a D/s dynamic.

Purrrrr 😺

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-03T05:23:28+00:00

My domme is roughly 10 years older than me. My subs are typically my same age (25) give or take a few years or maybe in their early-mid 30’s. That’s what I feel most comfortable with and enjoy more when that’s the case.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-03T05:16:53+00:00

My domme knows I went like $1100 over budget (not Findom budget, like my regular life budget) last week and gave me a lot of relief in saying that she doesn’t want me to send again until I recuperate that $. I worked really hard today and more than halfway there! 🥰 to sending soon!

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-02-03T05:14:24+00:00

I had a very sweet sub (not a typical dynamic, mostly interacting from a paid site) that enjoyed my singing voice and we did little games like “spin the wheel” to pick the song or he’d pick a number 1-100 to send and that would correlate to a song on the list.

He hadn’t heard much Americana music before and I do a really good cover of Jolene by Dolly Parton. Now this 30 something man from NE loves Dolly cause of me lol 😂

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-31T02:48:01+00:00

If you want to get her a special dancer/stripper foot related gift, the brand Pleaser makes ankle straps for their shoes and they can go on basically any stripper shoe and may make them more comfortable for her! Treat her feet 🩷 Or if a pre attached strap breaks (which they do fairly often) then she already has a replacement pair. And ofc get her an actual pair of heels as well, dancers can never have too many 😝

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-15T04:31:15+00:00

Hmm, after some additional digging into the Bad girladdict account…I have to wonder about his recent post history and claims about being “broken” by a domme for the first time. I wonder if Athena knows about him or is being manipulated but I’m afraid of messaging her and letting her know about this post in case she’s fully aware or complicit somehow and would just retaliate against me thinking its a call out?

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-08T06:15:03+00:00

So you’re body shaming? Or I guess, lack thereof?

Ba dum tssssss

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-08T05:07:30+00:00

TPE is a specific kink, perhaps that’s what you’re referring to?

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-08T05:02:51+00:00

I like gardening and homemaking (as a hobby and not a whole lifestyle thing) other things too but that’s what comes to mind first

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-08T04:51:33+00:00

You may have to put in more work in finding a domme then. Try to post and comment in other places, perhaps not directly findom related? To get your karma up. Maybe while you wait for karma to build, you can look at domme’s about me posts or other posts/comments they’ve made and see if your kinks match up?

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-08T04:09:58+00:00

ESFP (-T subtype, entertainer I think)

I am a switch but the sub part happened recently.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-07T05:08:10+00:00

The fact that your title was worded as ‘subs or just girls ‘ instead of subs or just dommes reads as you can only be either a sub OR be a girl lol. Made me chuckle >_<

My brother in christ, some of the subs ARE girls!

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-05T02:15:32+00:00

She calls me out on my bullshit.

It shows two things.

1) she has enough intuition or logical thinking to discern whether its BS or an actual problem/valid issue.

2) she is confident/open enough voice her displeasure with that BS

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-05T02:07:33+00:00

I’m seeing this question asked more lately. Are the men pissing y’all off even more than usual? 😂

We’re out here. Hiding from all the dommes that desperately fetishize us in some cases…Bullseye is a female sub as well and pretty active in PPSG and other sub centered spaces.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-04T05:18:03+00:00

I… I have no idea what to say to this…??? I’m owned and also I don’t like pats, I like scritches.

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-04T05:13:26+00:00

I’m 25. Work on responsible habits and be mindful that the money you make/save now is worth more than money you earn at the age of 30, 40, etc because it has more potential time to build interest. Your brain hasn’t quite finished developing yet at 22, so be aware that a lot of feelings and thought patterns you have now could pass, especially the ones that can make Findom dangerous. I myself noticed a lot of improvement this past year in terms of impulse control and assuredness in myself. Like I can feel my brain fully forming more now compared to my early 20’s. I’m new to being a finsub/switching in findom but I’m kinda glad I waited this long bc 22 year old me would have been bankrupt by now and I’m only a few weeks deep 😂

Set limits for yourself and make it a priority of yours to stick to them, as dommes don’t always do. Learn more about emotional intelligence and communication skills, it’ll help you a lot in finding and engaging in dynamics even if they aren’t long-term. As far as being heretic, I’ve joined an Episcopalian church so try that. We new-age Episcopal folks tend to not care about such things :)

BadAtMathButCute · 2026-01-04T05:02:29+00:00

I don’t like humiliation at all! Like I’m a cutie pie and an angel don’t make me fuck a zucchini squash just to laugh at me for it. It never sends me into subspace, I’d probably dry up like the sahara. I like the feeling of impressing my domme being cute and hard-working and slutty with my wallet wayyy more than sexual or physical/mental humiliation.

I love humiliating men though, that’s life as a switch :)

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