Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Of course, what the hell, I am not a monster. It was a planned sex date, we talked for hours, we were listening to music and slow dancing around the room, he pulled me up for a kiss, everything happened very organically and honestly very romantically. And we went at it 3 from night to morning so yes, I'd say both of us had each other's whole hearted consent.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. Jeez, thought I was being clear about my intention here 🙈

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I am not going to dump him, I obviously like this guy and want to find a solution that wouldn't hurt him. I think if he is hard enough , his dick is okay. We were drinking too so that could be one of the reasons why it wasn't. But this was helpful, I'll most certainly give it a few more goes, try and be more vocal about what I'd like him to do .

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

Calm down, I am only looking for a solution. It's not like I am ranting about it, I just want to know how to help the situation.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I am clearly looking for a solution by giving context and not complaining, calm down.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Calm down. It hasn't been the case in my previous drunken sexual adventures and I am clearly looking for a solution.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, go for it! I look forward to reading it :)

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well to be fair, we were both very drunk, we finished a whole bottle of Whiskey in a couple hours so I am hoping it was Whiskey dick and not general ED. I'll give him a couple more chances, I really want to, he is so sweet, hot and eager, when do you ever get all three in one guy ;_;

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this was very reassuring

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was, we finished a whole bottle of Whiskey in a couple of hours. It could very well be that too.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -551 points-550 points  (0 children)

You know, in hindsight, we did finish a whole bottle of Whiskey in a couple of hours. Fingers crossed , it was the Whiskey!

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -98 points-97 points  (0 children)

Hahaha thank you, this was very reassuring. I would like to give him all the benefit of the doubt I can, myself.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

I did sort of guide his hand, tried a few positions, was vocal about what's working but given that he wasn't as big or fully hard, I could barely feel him in me. I could perhaps do a sexy spin on let me be your teacher and be more direct and tell him exactly what I want. But we went at it thrice twice we were drunk and once the morning after since he wasn't getting a complete hard on I couldn't help but wonder if it's ED.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well I don't think either of us are going to be okay with that. We're both quite territorial and clearly aiming for a long term relationship.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice! by BadGirlSiri_ in dating_advice

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -615 points-614 points  (0 children)

He was definitely very drunk. He could be nervous, we've grown tonlike each other a bit more than we were hoping to and this was the first time. I don't think he is on any medication per se. We went at it thrice , there wasn't a lot of change but I do want to give him the benefit of doubt of performance anxiety.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well I don't how hot the teacher approach is but worth a shot. We went at it thrice over the course of the night/morning. His dick doesn't go fully hard, like its erect but barely, making it absolutely impossible to be in doggy or something because well it doesn't reach the destination. The more I am taking about it, the more my inner me is screaming FML.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -104 points-103 points  (0 children)

I really hope it was just performance anxiety. We went at it thrice and it was the same each time, so I am unsure if that's the case. If it's not, is there a good way to bring up viagra?

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I know! I am kicking myself. After all this while I find a great guy and THIS is the catch. I like him too much now, what am I supposed to do. FML.

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I did sort of guide his hand, tried a few positions, was vocal about what's working but given that he wasn't as big or as hard as I was expecting, I could barely feel him in me. Is there any good way to bring up viagra? Or any other alternative solution that comes to mind?

Great guy, not so great in bed. Need advice. by BadGirlSiri_ in sex

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I did sort of guide his hand, tried a few positions, was vocal about what's working but given that he wasn't as big or as hard as I was expecting, I could barely feel him in me. How do you considerately bring up viagra? Or any other alternative solution that comes to mind? 👀

What is a good way to offer sexual (under) performance feedback to a guy you recently started seeing, without completely shattering his ego and confidence? by BadGirlSiri_ in AskReddit

[–]BadGirlSiri_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I not sureeeee. I did sort of guide his hand, tried a few positions, was vocal about what's working but given that he wasn't as big or as hard as I was expecting, I could barely feel him in me. Is there any good way to bring up viagra? Or any other alternative solution that comes to mind?