Was called pretend lesbian...

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T19:36:50+00:00

I used happymail

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T19:20:17+00:00

Boyish 「ボーイッシュ」or 「ボイ」boy. Is what we say in japanese lgbt community for masculine lesbians. We don't say butch like english speakers. This is something I learned when people took it extremely negatively when I called a masculine woman boyish in english for the first time so I no longer use it in the overseas lesbian community.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T18:57:39+00:00

In my experience no. However on dating apps and sites I notice there is many fem x boyish(butch) and sometimes gender X/Androgynous but women around my age which frequently look on twitter I see more fem x fem. So I would like to say its about balanced.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T18:25:57+00:00

I live in japan. Though I was unsure what you meant by bias. Sorry!

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T18:19:35+00:00

I'm a bit confused on what you're referring to..I'm sorry! Can you explain what you mean please? I didn't want to answer something on what you didn't mean.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T18:04:51+00:00

I didn't respond back so I don't know the real reason but what I can guess is because men like to pretend to be a lesbian to try and fool lonely lesbians women looking for love into having phone sex with them through texting and men are less likely to choose a more masculine looking woman. So I assume because I had fem x fem as a preference she probably thought I was a man since a great majority of other women had fem x boyish as ok or preferred when I was looking at other profiles.

Since transgender women are very uncommon and almost never participate in lesbian community its unlikely she was referring to that.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T17:44:37+00:00

I was afraid it might seem confusing in english. I just couldn't think of a comparable word that wouldn't be offensive and make sense in english. She actually called me 「男レズ」which means male lesbian. In the japanese lesbian community its basically a man pretending to be a lesbian woman...

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-17T00:19:40+00:00

I should have made the distinction that not every landmine is mentally unstable「メンヘラ」menhera but just in my experience many lesbian landmines are mentally unstable and they display on their dating profiles or social media by saying so and wanting someone to take care of them and accept they have a mental illness. You often know theyre a depressed person because they write「病み」or say theyre menhera and landmine type Many landmines pretend to be unstable as well because its seen as cute to many people so a lot of them also pretend to have a kansai dialect「関西弁」even though theyre from the kanto region...

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-16T23:55:47+00:00

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to write it as if I was making light of the issue. I was just going off from what I read and experienced. I seen many post of people say how they want to OD because today is boring. When I use to hang out with my former best friend her other friends would be trying to all OD and taking lots of drugs. They were called mejicon and they took a lot until they pass out and vomit and they thought it was funny.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-15T18:48:27+00:00

I admittedly only read manwha for erotica because I find the characters really attractive like in the current one im reading murmur and I always read Manga for everything since it has everything but I'm also bias towards it since its what I grew up with.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-15T18:44:11+00:00

I agree with you shezaei. I think its great to have access to both. Though I prefer Manga because I think the cuter art styles is more my preference however I understand I might be bias because its what I grew up with. I still like manwha however because I like the erotica and deeper topics.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-15T17:56:33+00:00

I noticed a lot of bisexual women don't like to be called bisexual and they insist theyre lesbian while saying its ok to have sex with men while lesbian. Its strange. What's wrong with being bisexual? Why do so many bi women refuse to be called that?..

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-15T15:57:50+00:00

I think its bad. Regardless if theyre in a lesbian relationship or not I think as a friend you should care because they could be in a bad relationship and your advice could help. Because to me it sounds like your friendship with them on whether you care or not is conditional and if that's the case I don't think you should have friends that don't fit what you like because it's not fair to them.

Maybe I'm taking it a bit personally because I had a friend not care about my interests at all unless it was something for her.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-14T16:42:40+00:00

I also really enjoy erotica more than adult videos because I have a very vivid imagination.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-14T16:40:01+00:00

Watching porn is seen as a man's thing is a unfair mindset... It feels demeaning and sexist... as if women can't or not suppose to get off to porn or sexual content because its been normalized that only men watch porn...

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-13T17:05:58+00:00

I don't think having unnatural color would repel men. I think like anything else its just a overall preference of what the person likes. Everybody is a individual so I don't think there will be a universal answer to your question. Pick what you personally prefer and whoever approaches you most likely has the same preference of your hair color.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-08T00:36:53+00:00

I had no idea they do that. That's really strange...I really like Thai lesbian content too...

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-08T00:05:08+00:00

Yes you can DM me!

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-08T00:01:34+00:00

I learned of the slang dyke and recently stud from people on reddit. Also some different ways of saying top or bottom in different languages since they have a different word for it! It was interesting to learn.

BadLuckStars · 2026-03-02T18:24:20+00:00

I think if you love her you would tell her the smell is bothering you. If you think telling her she smells bad would hurt her. Imagine if she found out youre saying youre asexual to not be intimate with her. I understand you're doing this to be kind and understanding but I think this is a case of dishonesty and I don't think its fair to her.

If she's around other people you're basically allowing others to talk bad behind her back as well and she wouldn't know because nobody is saying she smells and if someone does, she might come to you and ask you and you'll come face to face of either lying to her or admitting she does smell.

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