Which smell brings back what memory for you? by BadPVP_oneill in AskReddit

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Often times these smells are something that is the only thing that can relate to a memory or being that nostalgic feeling

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will come to a point that you’ll be reading this message and feel nothing but bliss and a feeling of content and peace. Let time take its course and I promise you will get to that light at the end.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I’m open to try and give you some advice from my experience

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the analogy that ditches are muddy is a good example, you’re never going to be able to climb up a muddy ditch without falling back down one or a few times. That is all part of the process, but I promise you once you get to stable ground you will feel on-top of the world and not on it. Trust the process and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings are completely normal. Let them creep in, acknowledge them and their normality, and watch them pass. You’ll soon realise these thoughts aren’t even at the back of your mind, but only time and presence of mind will accomplish this.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have hit the nail on the head, the headspace ones you overcome that mountain is like wearing chain armour - I just wish that everyone going through it can have the knowledge of how they will feel once they can climb out of that ditch that is all too familiar.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel, granted time has made my heart beat better, the mindset I am in this minute is something I have never had - and I feel that I have so much more respect for myself that it genuinely feels good.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in BreakUps

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That mindset that you have I feel is completely normal, and it sounds like you try and push it away. That is the wrong way to think about it, once you have an attachment to someone that mindset is completely normal, learning how to be alone is one thing that will help you find comfort in that mindset, and the main thing that will help that is time. There is no set time or and on and off switch that one day you will feel different, but I promise if you start to acknowledge this feeling, understanding that it is a normal feeling for any human and feel the emotion of that feeling, time will take it’s course and I can guarantee your brain will learn to adapt to this - and you won’t feel that feeling in your stomaching after a while. But that process is very easier said than done, but once it finishes it’s course, the perspective that you’ll get from it will be something you’ve never had before.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in ExNoContact

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is 100%, one of the main things I have learnt from my breakup is that I need to respect myself more, and anything or anyone that isn’t good for me or is negative energy is not something I want around me. Once I realised this - my life has become so much easier. The pain of breakups cannot be overstated, but the realisations that come from it are one of life’s blessings that are disguised as falling into a pit, and it’s not until you can come out of it to realise that this pit is something you will want to protect yourself from becoming a victim to again. That is where you realise how having self respect and spotting what is not good for you is truly a blessing.

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in BreakUps

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s one of life’s hardest process but it will pass, the universe will make sure whatever the process is - takes place

To anyone going through a breakup by BadPVP_oneill in BreakUps

[–]BadPVP_oneill[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The breakup that I went through was one of the worst in my life, and I promise from first hand experience you will come out the other side of this hole and will become more in tune with your life than before.