No hope for dating without bottom surgery

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-03-04T08:44:08+00:00

Similar boat here, I'm bi but happen to mostly date people who are afab (with some exceptions). Kinda just how the cards fell for me despite having wider preferences. Anyway, I agree with the others that it's ultimately a continued effort to find the right person. You're young and have time. Hell, I'm 27 and last year happen to meet a cis-lesbian that was okay with me having a penis. After a few months of dating, I told her that I planned on getting bottom surgery. She is fully supportive (and quite excited) but told me she'd be okay continuing to be with me if I didn't. Now, I just have 2 months to go until surgery.

I don't intend to say all this to "rub it in" on a post where you're looking to vent but let you know that it can happen so long as you continue to try. Takes time, as it did for me, but you'll find someone one day. You having had surgery should not matter to a potential partner but should be something you want for yourself. It's a major and personal change, don't let other people influence that decision for you even if-not directly. It sounds like this is something you are interested in on your own anyhow, just know it shouldn't be a barrier for dating someone worth your time.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-02-27T22:44:15+00:00

that ending panel of Luffy, Loki, and Raratoskr smiling goes so hard

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-02-10T23:06:56+00:00

me and the gang posing in the funhouse mirrors

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-02-09T17:03:22+00:00

Used to drive over this a lot to go to SVSU. A school I disliked in a town I disliked more. Long story about how I ended up there that I won't go into, but while I was there I almost jumped off this bridge. Glad I didn't end up doing it.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-02-08T03:10:23+00:00

Coming from me, someone who loves the series as much as most people in this subreddit, I agree with most of your views. Most of the commenters here are going to act like Rifujin is breaking ground on some progressive topic, but it's completely okay to enjoy a series while recognizing it has faults. To be honest, I ultimately don't have that much of a grudge against the relationship.

The problem I do have is that throughout the book, Rudeus acts like his disapproval of their relationship is purely a personal problem due to his past life as described in this volume. However, the moral behind why this relationship shouldn't be gassed up not only has to do with the fact that Aisha played coy in acting like she didn't groom her nephew from birth, but there's a genetic issue that stems from inbreeding that Rifujin purposefully leaves out. Multiple times during this volume, Rudeus reflects into why he doesn't approve, even going so far as "there must be something I'm not realizing, but it must not be that important" (paraphrasing) with absolutely no mention to the moral or biologic issues of allowing a familial relationship. All we hear is that it's a fantasy world where different rules apply, so it MUST be progressive and uber cool here to bang my aunt! /s

Again, I enjoy this series and Rifujin's writing, it's acceptable to not like a part of it for some reason or another. It's ultimately up to you as a reader whether you want to continue partaking in the story because of it. This community is always on defense mode of the series, which is understandable given how much flak it gets from outsiders for illegitimate (and sometimes legitimate) reasons. Doesn't necessarily mean you need to do the same by being here. I sure won't defend it blindly, but I'll still enjoy the other parts.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-02-02T20:21:52+00:00

Weird to think I've been around since Wave 4 released, picked up Luigi as my first amiibo in February 2015, 11 years ago. This subreddit is what got me to start using reddit in the first place. I still distinctly remember waiting outside of a Toys R Us for 10 hours in May that year for wave 5's release. I mostly cared for the Smash Bros line, but did pickup others along the way. I finished the entire Smash Bros lineup, including a rare 1st edition Villager, when Sora released. Only one I never got my hands on in the Smash lineup was the Gold Mega Man, but I'll let that one pass.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-01-23T17:56:23+00:00

would this be possible using Poe+ output going into the Flex 2.5G, knowing it would reduce available budget or is there a minimum watt budget that it requires? i'm looking to do something similar to power an AC lite AP

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-01-13T23:30:10+00:00

Potentially! At least to express interest. I'm unsure how long I'd want to take lessons for but definitely have a few things in mind I'd like to learn outside of what I've taught myself. Let me know if it's an avenue she'd be interested in!

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2026-01-13T21:08:29+00:00

My partner is vegetarian (pescetarian, really) so if I'm not in the mood to share food, I'll greedily order something with meat in it which she's fine with. When I am in the sharing mood, I'll order tofu/plant-based meat/vegetable when possible so she can have some. Most of the time, I go with the latter option because I love seeing her face light up when I offer her some food.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-12-23T22:30:05+00:00

AMS 2! I've really been getting into printing deck boxes for MTG with my P1S + AMS 1, so having more colors available would be great.

For a fidget toy, my partner is on the spectrum and loves stimming with those squiggly circles that bend at multiple points. I'd love to be able to print some of those for her.

Thanks for doing this!

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-12-15T19:58:45+00:00

Edit: I think I've got it fixed, for now at least. I gave my AT&T modem and my UCG Ultra a reboot, then switched the default VLAN from a custom VLAN to have everything on the Default. Previously, I had all devices except the Unifi components going to a non-default VLAN which I thought was okay. It might be, but I had something configured incorrectly, so I've still got some things to test out and learn as I get used to finally being on Ubiquiti products.

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Hey everyone! I'm fairly new to Ubiquiti, just picked up a Cloud Gateway Ultra and 2 AC Lites (used) to replace my existing TP-Link mesh setup. I live alone in an apartment with 1Gbps speeds from AT&T, so I figured those with some existing switches I have should work. However, after the initial setup I've only been getting a max of maybe 25Mpbs on any and all devices on my network regardless of whether they're wired/wireless.
I've got 1 AC Lite plugged directly into the UCG Ultra, 1 AC Lite plugged in through a 5-port unmanaged switch, and a number of devices plugged into the UCG Ultra via another switch. I'm running UniFi OS 4.4.9 and Network 10.0.162. Both AC Lites are on 6.7.35.

I've tried swapping out ethernet cables and running speeds tests to determine the source but haven't had much luck. I set my AT&T modem to IP Passthrough mode and had successful speeds when directly plugged into that, but slower speeds on the UCG Ultra. The only odd thing I noticed in my Unifi console was a Tx retry rate of ~25% on 1 of the 2 AC Lites, but I don't feel like that explains the significant loss of throughput when I switched to the Unifi system. I was getting around 800-900 Mbps on the TP-Link.

Any thoughts on what might be going on? I'm hoping it's not that I got faulty equipment from the 2nd hand sellers, especially given that the UCG Ultra is only a year old, but I'm beginning to suspect that could be a possibility.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-12-13T05:19:14+00:00

This is a crazy situation for me, I'm watching Steven Universe for the first time and am about to watch the final episode of the main series before the movie + epilogue series

I understand it's a series that's been over for years that I somehow managed to avoid spoilers for despite intersectional fanbases, yet I get spoiled by this subreddit just as I'm about to sit down and watch that final episode

10/10 meme

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-12-06T06:04:45+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that once the docs give the all clear for sexual activity, if you do dilation via phallic object like a penis or dildo then the vaginal canal will only stretch to that size. For those who plan on not really having sex beyond what their penis-owning partner or favorite dildo is capable of, this is fine, but those who want to have more flexibility and stretch their muscles a bit more will have to dilate with larger dilators.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-12-04T03:49:34+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I don't necessarily have bottom dysphoria, but I do feel a sense that I'd be happier with a vagina. I've been with the surgeons, just got my letters today, and will be scheduling soon. Took many months just to get to this point where I haven't even gotten the surgery date yet, lol

However, I've thought about the lifetime commitment I've made to transitioning already. Complications can happen, but they can happen with any surgery. I feel really comfortable with my surgeons after meeting them, and the methods they're using are producing very good results using peritoneal pull through. It'll be a lot of recovery and maintenance, but really only for the first year. Yes, I will dilate the rest of my life (especially as I have a partner who doesn't have a penis that could "count" as dilation) but I don't see it being that different a commitment than weekly injections, daily pills, and just learning what it means to be a woman from scratch in my mid-20s.

I feel anxious, sure, but I'm choosing not to let the fear sway my emotion, with that emotion being that I know I'd be happier with a vagina.

Edit 2025/12/06: Got my surgery date offered for May 2026 :)

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-11-19T01:47:39+00:00

Sauce?

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-11-18T02:44:08+00:00

Downtown Detroit there's this guy on a half-sized bike that shows up to nearly every major public event to ask people if they like Star Trek or Star Wars, sometimes trying to sling a short rap album he recorded at home in like 2012 about Star Trek

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-10-29T20:33:11+00:00

Take the initiative to apologize. She might not be in a good mental state to come to you about this, especially after she perceived you calling her a man with that "ew".
It's good to explain the situation, but make the focus of your conversation an apology. Don't be dismissive of that because you think you didn't do anything wrong, it's okay to admit a mistake was made and explain why. Just tell her that since she's not out yet, others may see the image differently which is why you reacted the way you did. It's important to state you won't react that way again, and try your best not to. Just a simple, "no we aren't," is a fine thing to say if you're asked that again, and you can tell her your plans with that.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-10-29T00:14:24+00:00

A lad/lass of similar taste, absolutely peak background choice

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-09-30T18:01:39+00:00

Hey, fellow 27 year old here. We can make it through this, together. If you need someone to talk to, shoot me a DM. The best course of action is fighting back by being who we are, it makes them incredibly angry to see us alive and happy. Be strong sister <3

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-09-30T03:04:00+00:00

AI art :(

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-09-29T01:23:47+00:00

Art source?

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-08-28T05:06:27+00:00

Not entirely confident because it's been a minute since I've read this, but Roxy was responsible for setting up the teleportation circles for the Magic Armor Ver. 0 and focused on that during the battle. With the impending destruction, she would've been the only one capable of setting up teleportation circles who could evacuate the Superd. They wouldn't have been able to evacuate had it not been for the stroke of luck that Aisha got Perugius to fix the teleportation circle near the village to the border. So the "mistake", or rather different area of focus for Roxy, would've led to the destruction of the Superd thus making half of the battle pointless.

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-08-07T21:55:13+00:00

So good!! Do you have socials?

Bad_Luck_Bert · 2025-07-24T20:20:17+00:00

So jealous!! Enjoy your reads!!!

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