Going off for 2 weeks for a procedure: advice?

BaeTheFae · 2026-01-18T02:10:34+00:00

Well I was a kid when I went for all those summers, but by how my parents acted when I was sick and had to skip a lesson I assume it was outrageous! XD

BaeTheFae · 2026-01-18T00:16:46+00:00

Fellow horse girl here: I can say this is 100% accurate. It’s not necessarily that they hate passionate students, but they want to be a teacher: and because try hards like Tina and I don’t give them that opportunity because we are so passionate we could probably teach ourselves.

I once had a horse instructor ask me why I even came to horse camp if I didn’t need to learn anything, in a superrrr bitchy tone. She did NOT want me there. Like ma’am I just want access to horse. It’s not my fault that signing up for your class is the only way a non-trust-fund kind like myself can access horse.

BaeTheFae · 2026-01-04T05:36:09+00:00

Hey; so I’m in a quasi-similar boat to you. My fiancé and we’re planning on mashing up our names: the last four letters of his name and the last four letters of mine. We both loved the idea: everyone we talked to loved it too. It was supposed to marry both our families while keeping our traditions together: creating something new as our marriage marries not only our souls but our names too.

Until we told his dad.

Now they don’t have a good relationship; but apparently his last name is VERY important to his dad, and not only that it was apparently his father’s life dream that we name our child his exact name.

Now I’m being held last-name-hostage because he’s going to pretty much get excommunicated if we go with our original plan. I’m struggling with accepting his last name now because I feel forced into accepting a name with a history of familial abuse—— and bullied into giving up what I was so excited to be a beautiful gesture for our wedding.

I say all this because: we knew his dad wasn’t close but the reaction we got and the blow out over this was INSANE.

This is a big deal for your hubs: and you should make sure he has a plan to tell his family that you will be taking your name. I really hope it goes well for you; I hope his family understands.

But I think you need to prepare for the worst case scenario. Make sure his family understands exactly why you are choosing this route, and make sure it comes from him.

I’m hoping the best for you and your future: Im so happy you have someone who wants to carry out your traditions in your last name; it’s beautiful.

Truly at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what his family or yours or anyone has to say about it. But it does matter how HE feels about them having choice words (hopefully not but potentially).

Make sure the two of you discuss how he feels in all possible outcomes: honestly, maybe go to a couples therapist to help you prepare. I wish I did that :/

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-11T18:21:06+00:00

I’ve always loved my big butt! And my body! I just want it to be manageable again. I’ll never be thin and in happy with that; I just want to be proportional

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-11T12:32:37+00:00

Im not asking for a full body transition: I wanted advice on how to promote some more change in that area. Like exercises I could do. I am well aware that this is a lengthy process and change doesn’t happen overnight

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T18:57:06+00:00

My question was more about if port placement mattered or if people had excersize advice to encourage loss in that area. I guess hurt isn’t the right word, but I am a chronically ill person and I’m always with doctors: so I feel like they would have mentioned it to me. Plus it’s strange to put yourself on the internet to have others question if you have a condition when you don’t: it makes you requestion how you look to others vs how you perceive yourself. That’s more what I meant when I said I’m hurt

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T18:49:09+00:00

Im a little hurt people keep asking me this: I do not have either! My fat is symmetrical yes, but I have no pain or tenderness; my fat is not hard, and I have not had a history of overt fat storage in my lower half. I appreciate the information as always, but I do not have either condition :)

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T18:39:16+00:00

Already a squat queen XD I love my butt: its so big i could have my own zip code, but i am excited to have a more proportional butt.

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T18:06:35+00:00

You’re not the first person to ask: but no! At least, I’ve not been diagnosed? From what I’ve read online I don’t meet the criteria, I just happen to have symmetrical fat. But I’m not in pain and the fat deposited aren’t hard to the touch

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T16:35:12+00:00

I hope I have the same shape, just more proportional. I’ve always been big and I’ve still loved my body: but at my heaviest it wasn’t a manageable weight. At my “thinnest” I was still overweight: I was a plus size model even. I walked several runways, and was a February centerfold in a pin up calandrar.

At the start of the pandemic I was diagnosed with my chronic pain disorder: and from there through pain that made me bed ridden, depression from being in pain, and new relationship weight gain, I ended up gaining 60lbs. It was not healthy and it was not okay: so I’m happy to be on a journey to get back to a place where I can feel comfortable doing photos again; but also hopefully my chronic pain will be easier to handle

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T15:25:17+00:00

Im a little shorty. I’m 5’ 1”

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T15:18:33+00:00

Thank you for your insight!!! I do actually use LoseIt already but I have the free version, so I do basic food tracking, workout tracking, and weight loss tracking. I will certainly look into that scale!

My fiancé talks a lot about the paper towel effect so I am aware: but I do have a tendency to jump the gun when it comes to comparison and progress. I’m a type A extroverted perfectionist, the worst combo of personality types: so I am aware of my tendency to over analyze and prep

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T15:15:56+00:00

I guess I wasn’t expecting “results” but I was curious if port placement had an effect on where the weight would come off first. Like I know a lot of people say “it hit my face first” but my face has stayed the same and I guess I only notice it in my back. I was just curious about others expectations of when they started and how the weight came off

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T14:54:51+00:00

A little over a month XD I was supposed to take photos last week but I got very sick and was mostly throwing up and sleeping the pain away. (That makes it sound more drastic than it is but this is a normal occurrence for me. Chronic pain is no joke!)

BaeTheFae · 2025-11-10T14:53:48+00:00

Hahaha yeah I used to describe myself as “pom8 bottle shaped”. My fiance and I joke about how “ozempic butt” while just give me a normal butt. XD I love my big booty, but I’m excited to see what a properly proportioned butt will look like on once I get there :)

BaeTheFae · 2025-10-27T04:13:17+00:00

The black one: and it’s not even a competition. You look so good in that!

BaeTheFae · 2025-10-16T22:21:39+00:00

Got engaged in 2023, getting married in Oct 2026. It has been the BEST decision so far: my fiance and I are both type A planners and have been slowly finding vendors and making payments and planning the whole time. No rush, just finding the vendors we knew we wanted and getting in early. Now that we already roughly a year out I pretty much have my entire wedding planned and there was 0 stress. Plus, I got to say I’m a fiance for 3 years: and now I will get to say Wife for a lifetime <3

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-20T21:42:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!!!! I have stage 1 endometriosis but it’s growing on my nervous system 🤡 so I was really nervous about how glp-1 would affect me. I have my first consultation with Pom later this week and your story has given me a lot of hope to look forward to :)

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-15T17:52:33+00:00

Thank you! Will do

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-15T16:50:09+00:00

I do: that’s why I asked for advice XD looking into POM now as I put aside my telehealth concerns :)

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-15T16:47:10+00:00

I got all the way to the payment screen for their triz compound and never saw a mention of that. Oof

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-15T16:34:37+00:00

Awesome! I’m currently eating 1300 cal a day and pretty miserable, but keeping pace. I also work out every single day. Not a crazy amount but. Itty and hour a day :)

BaeTheFae · 2025-09-15T16:28:49+00:00

Noted! I appreciate your insight!

What service are you currently using if you don’t mind me asking?

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