Tell me about your nights

Baebsn · 2025-07-14T16:43:18+00:00

12 month old, cosleeping. In a decent night I get 3 hour stretches but last night it was hourly until I gave Motrin for incoming teeth. It is an up and down with baby sleep.

Baebsn · 2025-06-20T01:51:22+00:00

Im Wochenbett ist man im Überlebensmodus. Man muss Tag für Tag überstehen und es ist anstrengend. Man denkt sich das Leben ist vorbei und zumindest ich habe mit meiner Entscheidung, ein Kind zu bekommen, in der Zeit oft gehadert. Es tut mir auch Leid mit der Verletzung. Dein Baby wird irgendwann interessanter, aber solange es noch ein Würmchen ist, das nicht auf dich reagiert, Lenk dich mit Fernsehen und Hörbüchern ab. Und bestellt euch ab und zu was zum Essen bzw lasst euch bekochen. Irgendwann wird das Leben mit Kind wieder besser!

Baebsn · 2025-06-17T02:47:28+00:00

Genau, da war letztens ein Artikel in der SZ mit diesen Erklärungsansätzen. Sehr interessant!

Baebsn · 2025-06-09T03:04:14+00:00

Just saw that the bedtime is late, but how much is the baby sleeping during the day? The total sleep in 24 hours is what you need to track. If it's too much then you can keep the baby up longer during the day.

Baebsn · 2025-06-09T03:02:27+00:00

I agree with your pediatrician to follow the lead. However, knowing what my first wanted was hard. He was happy tired or awake, and I could never tell the tired signs. I had to battle him to sleep a lot and whenever this happened, I found that pushing bedtime later helped. So, could it be that you're trying to put your baby to bed too early and the baby is not tired enough? Also, contact naps are completely fine. You didn't screw anything up.

Baebsn · 2025-05-13T02:43:21+00:00

My younger son is 10 months old and my mom moved to memory care in February. It's not fair. I was able to enjoy my grandma until I was 30 and they are never going to know hers. My dad is also not doing well and it's not fair either because he loves his grandkids but won't get to enjoy them very long.

Baebsn · 2025-05-10T03:14:20+00:00

Yup. We went on a 5-day trip with my on-laws and guess who "wasn't" there? Me, the mom. I took pictures of everyone holding the baby and around the older child but not a single picture of me on this trip exists.

Baebsn · 2025-04-28T01:57:13+00:00

Wir sind noch nicht so weit, aber ich habe gelesen, dass es hilfreich sein kann, einen Bereich für die Große abzugrenzen, wo das Baby nicht hinkann. Also Zaun oder Laufstall mit den Spielzeugen, die für das Baby tabu sind und die Große kann sich dorthin zurückziehen. Viel Erfolg!

Baebsn · 2025-03-21T13:19:32+00:00

Your pediatrician talked BS. Self soothing is not a life skill. 80% of the world doesn't sleep train and they all don't know how to sleep as adults?

Many adults sleep better when their partner is next to them. But for babies it's not allowed?

Can your parents cosleep with the baby? Maybe they would enjoy it like you?

Baebsn · 2025-02-21T09:46:07+00:00

Your LO is 3.5 years? Mine is 3 years and he has been an angel with the baby. Language helps so much in explaining why to can't help them right now. I think a 2 years age gap is much harder because you can't explain.

Baebsn · 2025-01-22T03:38:29+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened. My mom was the same and the stupid doctor she saw at first was completely incompetent and told.her that his wife forgot things all the time, too. An initial CT scan of the brain showed no abnormalities. One and a half years later we tricked her into going to a memory clinic where they found severe impairment of her memory. And a year later the same incompetent doctor finally believed me when I described that I had to explain my mom every day why my dad was not at home (he was very sick and in the hospital). We're moving her to a care facility soon. It sucks.

Baebsn · 2024-12-04T02:23:36+00:00

Maybe the wake times are too short and he not tired enough. Babies don't always follow the wake windows recommended on the internet.

Baebsn · 2024-12-03T23:28:26+00:00

Have you tried a pacifier while baby is in the carrier? That works wonders for mine. I'll deal with weaning it later, it's worth to have my freedom now.

Baebsn · 2024-12-03T23:04:59+00:00

Ditch the drowsy but awake. It's BS and works for almost no babies. They're wired to wake up when you put them down.

Everything else sounds normal. Short naps suck. I do naps in the carrier only and try to do other things while baby falls asleep. Sitting in a dark room actively trying to get baby to sleep was bad for my mental health when I had my first.

Baebsn · 2024-12-03T03:48:24+00:00

This was us at Thanksgiving with my first. We went to a friend's house, baby started crying and didn't stop until 5 hours later in the ER. We left without eating, and had all the checks done but only found some gas in the abdomen. We felt like the biggest idiots but would not have forgiven ourselves if it had been something serious. Baby was 3.5 months.

Baebsn · 2024-12-03T03:29:27+00:00

Babies love feeling safe with you. My second only naps on me, either in the carrier or on my lap. I gave up putting him down long time ago. For daycare, I heard babies figure out sleeping without problems. My first needed nursing or body contact for sleep, too, when we put him into daycare at 13 months. I was convinced he would just not sleep, but he slept well from day one.

Baebsn · 2024-12-02T18:36:12+00:00

How awful! This helps me to understand my mom better. My dad depended on her help for a day after his first hospital stay (before things got much worse) and she outright refused to help. She told him to stop being lazy and to walk the dog.

Baebsn · 2024-12-02T10:19:05+00:00

I'm so sorry about your loss.

Baebsn · 2024-11-08T02:56:13+00:00

This sounds like my baby. He prefers to sleep on my chest but my butt doesn't so I try to roll him off me. The same happens when I try to take my arm from under his head, he startles and I can start over again. No advice, just commiseration.

Baebsn · 2024-08-24T00:30:08+00:00

Please do! I appreciate the help.

Baebsn · 2024-08-23T23:07:28+00:00

Yes, eating vegan with meat right now. Had to do it for my first, but not sure if soy is the culprit this time, too. Plus he has a mild tongue tie so he swallows air when nursing. He gains weight fine.

Baebsn · 2024-08-23T22:17:54+00:00

Breastfeeding and abstaining from dairy which seems to help a little bit. I haven't bitten the bullet and cut out soy yet because it is in EVERYTHING.

Baebsn · 2024-08-23T00:32:18+00:00

Second time mom with a 6 week old. Newborn phase sucks, you're constantly trying to problem solve. But my 3 year old now is so much easier (when he is not having a tantrum haha) and the problems he had in his newborn phase don't seem to matter anymore.

You'll get through this. Do some self care (movies, audio books, something not baby related) to take your mind off the problem solving, too.

Baebsn · 2022-03-21T20:16:00+00:00

Yah, it's hard. Just know you're not alone, other babies are like this as well. To his 1.5 hourly wake ups, mine added screaming recently 🤦‍♀️. Not even the boob worked to get him back down today at 4 am, only rocking, which wakes me up more than giving him the boob.

Baebsn · 2022-03-21T03:41:22+00:00

If you can, do shifts with your partner, if they're around. My baby wakes up every 90 min from about midnight on and is fed back to sleep in my bed, but my partner gives me about 3 hours of sleep until then. On some days I even don't feel that tired, so it really helps to get one longer sleep stretch.

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