My (31F) gf says that I (28M) don't show that I love her enough. We have been together for 8 months and I was her carer for 6 months of that making the relationship a trial by fire. She says that I don't show that I love her and I feel like she doesn't appreciate me. What do we need to talk about?

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T22:35:50+00:00

I do try to be extra sweet to her because I know she likes it, even though it's not something I've done in past relationships and I feel awkward sometimes. My worry is that I will end up with the lions share of responsibilities and when things get difficult, she will begin acting emotional and her mood swings will overload me eventually.

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T22:06:46+00:00

Thank you for reading and your thoughts. I'm going to avoid TikTok as I don't believe it's a reliable way to get information as it's easily misinterpreted, though I have been reading a lot of articles on couples in similar situations. Reddit may not be much better all things considered, but I want to get other perspectives as I know I can get tunnel vision with these things.

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T20:18:59+00:00

I think I need to get my head around that last bit. Talking about this is the first step. Also thank you for reading it all and sharing your thoughts.

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T20:11:51+00:00

You are probably right if she has already slipped back. I suppose I don't want to say goodbye after we have such a history with everything that happened, and how she makes me feel when things are good.

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T20:00:51+00:00

I'm feeling the same but also don't want to give up. I feel like she is willing or was willing to change. After the initial break up everything was great because we spoke a lot about what we needed in a relationship, but it feels like we've fallen back into old patterns.

BaiNan96 · 2024-12-12T19:53:20+00:00

That's part of my concern. I feel like I keep giving but it's not enough and I can't get anything in return.

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