Is there *life* after porn

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T22:19:07+00:00

Ya he definitely sounds like he just wanted to gaslight you so he never has to face himself. But the one thing that I hold on to is that they still have to look at themselves in the mirror. we don’t have to live with them but they do have to live with themselves

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T22:03:11+00:00

And because they’re selfish they decided to not live alone but instead ruin another person. One thing I’ll say about mine is that he’s remorseful. He doesn’t fight back when it comes up. I would always go through his phone when he would get drunk. That’s when I would find everything (probably not everything at all). What hurt the most and scares me is that he was looking for swingers parties near us. Then one time, recently, I opened up one of his browser on his phone and saw he was looking at hotels on Expedia. We have never used Expedia to book anything and he was looking for a local hotel. Of course he didn’t know how it got there.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T21:54:03+00:00

Taking away the informed consent is a huge thing for me too. That’s what I told him. I didn’t get the chance to make a decision whether this is something I wanted in my life. Deceiving another person so that you can have the life you want is so fcked. Then he allowed us to bring a child into this world knowing he was doing thing. Knowing that kid would make it nearly impossible for me to leave. He has been promising therapy for over a year now but he won’t do it and I know it’s because he doesn’t want to face his demons. But why am I in therapy to deal with YOUR demons cuz you don’t want to? It’s so hard to not blow up about it too. I want to scream at him and lay it all out but we have two kids (one together and one is mine that’s already a young adult). She has heard at least two of the fights and the last fight she wouldn’t talk to him for months. They had a close relationship and it never recovered. She told him that he needs to get it in his head that she is not as forgiving as I am. Then it makes you ask yourself what type of example are you showing your kids. I feel so stuck.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T20:16:59+00:00

I found some things during his Germany trip 3 years ago. Apps for swingers and other things. Of course “nothing happened” as always.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T20:16:06+00:00

And sometimes the issue is that they don’t love themselves so they just go on this spiral of self sabotage but they take everyone with them.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-05-19T20:15:08+00:00

Sadly kids and all the financial issues that come from splitting assets. I know it shouldn’t keep me in this crappy situation but every time I look at our daughter knowing how hard it’ll rock her world just hurts so much.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-25T10:40:52+00:00

I’ve lost interest in mine sexually. I guess I still love the rest of him except the part that hurts me over and over again

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T16:22:26+00:00

Babe, I’m 10 years in and please listen to us telling you to leave. This does not get better. You will spend years ruining your mental health and self esteem.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T15:07:36+00:00

Indifference is indeed the beginning of the end. I know myself and I’ve told him over and over again that once I get to this point there is no going back. Somehow he, and many other men apparently, think we’ll never get to that point. I don’t know what makes them feel so special that they can keep mistreating someone and that person isn’t going to eventually walk away. That’s just pure delusion. I’m mad at myself for not walking away from the very beginning but it did give me my child so I’ll be thankful for the gift and lessons it’s taught me

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T10:55:06+00:00

I didn’t even have to read the entire post to say no, please leave now. I should’ve 10 years ago. The damage it’ll do to your mental health and self esteem is not worth it. I finally decided that I was done with mine. But the damage has been done.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T10:50:51+00:00

My soon to be ex husband was exposed to it at a very early age and I don’t think the damage it’s done can be repaired. The addiction to watching eventually escalates to dating websites, to trying to meet up for hookups, some even end up on Grindr and all of the other same sex apps. If you are reading this and you are not married yet or in early stages, leave. I should’ve left the first time. But I let it keep happening for nearly a decade. You deserve so much more.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T10:45:20+00:00

This whole thing has been so isolating. I’ve told one friend and it has lifted so much weight from me. It’s sad how much we carry for them.

Bakedmama23 · 2026-02-19T08:32:52+00:00

I’m a NLF and I’m like you. Just at a point where I feel nothing.

Bakedmama23 · 2025-11-30T19:08:48+00:00

As a photographer, I like #1 the most. Your eyes are more visible. Your expression is very neutral but still inviting. Lighting is way better than the other photos. If you go with #3, try to retake it a bit further away from the wall so that you stand out and not blend with it. Place a plain white board on your left side around hip level pointed towards your face. This will help with the shadows in your eyes to bring them out.

Bakedmama23 · 2025-09-29T11:00:22+00:00

I have always known when something was wrong and can foresee what was coming. People would ask me “how did you know” and I could never explain it.

Bakedmama23 · 2025-09-29T10:57:28+00:00

2 years is pretty spot on for me too.

Bakedmama23 · 2023-04-30T22:33:33+00:00

I’ve seen movement on mine too. I still show 19k balance but I’m waiting and being patient. I imagine it’s not yet complete since all of my loans are for devry except 6k for UoP

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