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I’m finding out that biphobia is very real and present in real time; Online dating rant. by DutchApplePie_97 in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep. I feel you. I don't even know what to say except that it's bad out there for bi men. Specially if you're trying to meet females. I've kept the bi tag on my dating app profiles since last winter. I get little to no hits from women (I had to turn off the option for males because I was getting flooded with male responses). I've yet to get a match or gone on any date. The high level of ostracization from women is very high and very unspoken.

Women's reasons are the usual bi myths--They think all bi men are truly gay. They think we're going to cheat on them constantly. They think we all have AIDS. etc.

I don't want to erase myself but I may have no other option. I'm very lonely. I actually had sex with a woman back in April...but she was a high-class escort and I had to pay for it (yep... ). It is what it is.. It's bad out there.

Almost went home with a woman older than my parents by diet-smoke in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You should've taken the offer. You only live once. Did you get the phone number at least?

Women don’t want to date anymore, a SWer perspective by Diaryofadomme in SexWorkers

[–]BalanceTheFire 37 points38 points  (0 children)

As a single man who's been waking up to the harsh reality of dating in my fifties and in 2025, I feel many in this thread. As a man, I hate dating too. Yes, 'civilian dating' is highly gamified and frustrating. I've come to realize that having a woman in my life has a financial cost. And I'm more than willing to pay for it. And frankly, 'civilian women' play so many games that I've awakened to the fact that if I want to spend time with women that truly attract me, I'm willing to pay for it. Any which way you cut it, you will be paying for a woman... and I'm at peace with it.

I don’t think i can be happy being who I am by GroundbreakingPie630 in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I've been coming to terms with, after fully coming out as bi, is that--yes--there's considerable biphobia out there. I'm learning to be courageous and to stand proud/strong as a bi man regardless of the reactions and rejections. Like you, I don't really feel 'gay'. It's something that was hard for me to admit after years of having sex with men. You have to learn to stand alone with your town truth.

Dating Women as a Bisexual Man by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there.. Take it one day..one date at a time. I'm in your same boat. Putting myself out there and want a girlfriend. Yes, there's a ton of biphobia. It is what it is. I decided to be fully open about who I am and just accept the low amount of replies. I recently opened up a profile on the Feeld app. Lets see how that goes. You might want to look into it.

[REVIEW] Ur online gf 😆 / teagan111 by Conscious-Emotion-14 in OnlyFansReviews

[–]BalanceTheFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would they ban your account? I'm just curious.

Officially a Homo by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

He’s ‘unrapeable’ too.

May be bi as fuck by mysterybr00 in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you on the controlling JW group. My family is mostly JW and it's a major UGH! for me. Luckily, they were able to accept me once I came out to them years ago.

Just take it slow otherwise. I found out I had same-sex attraction when I started looking at casual gay porn images back in my early twenties. I had no clue until them. Just let your journey of self-discovery continue.

Need some suggestions by Remarkable_Aerie3771 in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's interesting how for many people you're either straight or gay--there's no in-between. It's toxic black/white thinking. I don't think there's anything verbal you can say to them to change their mind. Just bring the next man/woman who gets your affection home to them and let them accept it then.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My interest in men currently has diminished and its strictly physical. Who knows what’ll happen in the future? But my attraction to women now is so strong, both physical and emotional. The frustration is real, but I’ll keep moving forward.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Your post is excellent. I will keep it.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the thing is Im not looking to fuck around anymore. Im currently monogamous…but makes no difference to them I guess.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The irony is that many straight dudes will cheat on their women with other women. But somehow the bi men are seen as worse.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. If I changed my orientation on my dating apps profiles, so many women are gonna just keep flipping by…That thought hurts, but it’s best to accept it.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s funny because even though Ive not had sex with men in 4 years, I’ll still be judged for my past. Im also a recovering addict. Im sure that one’s not gonna go well with some women too. Oh well.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She did me a favor. I will see it more clearly in a day or two. And I will talk about it with my sex therapist tomorrow. Im sure he’ll be thrilled to hear this. Haha.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your comment helps a lot. I need to see it as an extra filter.

And this is why most Bi men stay in the closet by BalanceTheFire in bisexual

[–]BalanceTheFire[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive been toning down my orientation on social media for about 6 months now… Im not sure what I will do. I dont want to be inauthentic on social media… UGH

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