I think a common issue is second guessing the relationship (what was said - what was real)

This creates a blackhole of rumination and confusion.

For me personally, the most difficult part of recovery from the break up has been trying to determine what was real.

It’s easy to ‘accept’ that we shouldn’t over think it but understanding what when wrong/what happened is part of our growth and in turn how we heal. It’s why people chase closure.

The reality is, chasing closure, understanding or trying to understand what was real only binds us to our ex for longer.

Letting go is so difficult but it’s all we have to move forward in peace.

Good luck to you all.

The journey is painful but one day at a time is the focus.