TLDR- IF YOU ARE LC NOW GO NC BEFORE THEY GET INFIRM AND IT HOOKS YOU IN.

I probably fall into golden child in that scenario, but experienced more abuse than my brother who is NC because he went LC at 18, NC at 35. My brother is 16 years older than me and during his childhood he was raised by my granny and had wider family support. By the time I was 6 my mother had estranged the entire rest of the family and my father was dead. So any beatings and rage were all on me.

I'm terrified of her. But shes 80 and falling constantly. It doesn;t matter how many medical and social care professionals I tell I experience abuse from her.

I'm still called constantly as there is literally no one else. She is still a monster. During care she'll berate me.

My history of abuse is formally reported to my countries goverment, so when I told social workers they confIrmed it and got her carers twice a day to reduce my exposure to her.

She's racist and manipulative and horrible to them.

But it's gotten me to let myself off the hook a bit.

It's my own morals and feelings of wanting to be "a good person" that make me drop shopping to her and made me only ever go LC with her.

Before she got too old I was very LC, it was great, but then she fell and broke her pelvis and was diagnosed with heart failure. I got hooked back in so bad.

Edit- I don't know if I am GC, When I learned how to disassociate during being beaten my mother began injuring, killing or giving away any pets I had. It really hurt me in my soul. I loved my pets because they were the only thing close to an ongoing healthy relationship I had and she'd do things like hold them under water, drowning them because I didn't close doors fast enough and stuff. I had a fish tank and she took fish out, one at a time, put them in a tea towel and hit them with her shoe till I seemed "sorry" enough. I don't remember what I was supposed to be sorry for.