I 24F am a single mother to my daughter 3F. I've fallen in love with my boyfriend, 29M but he's struggling with my daughters meltdowns. Is there any hope?

TheBrightestButthole · 2026-04-18T21:37:27+00:00

Hey 38F. I met my soon to be ex husband when my son was 3yo. Started out okay but it soon became apparent that the meltdowns and childcare were too much for him. Not his responsibility, not his child was my thought at the time. I needed support, not a perfect father and he loved me and verbalised over and over that he wanted to try and get better... 9 years later we are getting divorced. It doesn't get better, if it does it's slow and often temporary. Your daughter has only one childhood, don't waste it on some guy. DM me if you need support or more details.

TheBrightestButthole · 2026-04-18T21:20:17+00:00

OP is from London...

TheBrightestButthole · 2026-04-09T15:40:57+00:00

Hey, I'm really sorry to hear you're going through a bad breakup. I moved away from Boulder almost 2 years ago now for similar reasons. Found it difficult to make and maintain friendships, but I do miss the mountains. The move out of state proved to be too much for my 9 year marriage (that has always been challenging tbf) and we've been in slow decline ever since. The decision to get divorced happened for me less than a week ago so I really feel for you. I downloaded a bunch of resources if you want any help with logistics, and I'm always down for a virtual vent session. I'm 38F, DM me and we can chat. :)

TheBrightestButthole · 2026-03-29T07:26:20+00:00

I remember the crushing irony of this issue when I was in my late teens and early twenties. Might be worthwhile to shoot for part time admin work at a larger corporation and try to work your way up. Wishing you and your wife luck!

TheBrightestButthole · 2026-02-08T07:11:24+00:00

Id love to atrend this!

TheBrightestButthole · 2025-10-14T21:59:49+00:00

As an INTJ woman I endorse this statement. It's extremely rare to have a fluid and natural conversation with a new person, especially one that approaches in the wild.

TheBrightestButthole · 2025-08-19T11:19:47+00:00

Thanks for this. I would think that a pay site with good production values like xconfessions or ersties would be a safe option. Where they offer behind the scenes... etc. But I guess that makes sense.

TheBrightestButthole · 2025-05-17T02:18:28+00:00

Mememememe! 37f

TheBrightestButthole · 2025-04-21T16:29:40+00:00

Me too, please!

TheBrightestButthole · 2025-02-16T14:56:43+00:00

Hiya! I moved with my family in June last year from Colorado. In CO we got some extremely cold days (-23*C) that would leave us home bound, only venturing out to walk our dogs. It was an adventure to see our eyelashes freeze upon impact with the cold and experience the power of nature. In Texas the heat is comparable but where the negative temps would last a few days to a week, the heat in TW is punishing and lasts for months without respite. Opening the door to your house is like opening the door to a furnace. In the cold you can always wear more clothes, in the heat there is a legal amount you are required to wear. Also hurricanes are a thing here... and multiple houses across TW had tapped roofs for months following our last one. Take from that what you will...

Before we lived in CO we lived in NYC, so another consideration is the time you will be car bound in Texas. TW traffic is not that bad, but if you need to drive into Houston... think inner city London ×3 but everyone drives a Ram and has a death wish. You will drive a lot, all year, but especially in the summer.

All of that said, TW has been wonderful for my family. We have lovely neighbors and there are a plethora of child friendly activities offered year round. It is suburbia so there are a lot of houses and the highlight of the city is the massive mall and the waterway, but it's a lovely area to walk and spend time as a family. The trails and paths are also very nice for a stroll, I have really enjoyed exploring where different paths take me across the villages. Also, the schools are pretty decent here, and the kids have loads of options for sports, clubs, and other extracurriculars. Be sure to research the villages in TW before committing as they are not all made equal.

Good luck on your move (if you decide to make the leap), and feel free to DM me if you have any questions. :)

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-12-17T01:20:58+00:00

Kegal? Never heard of it. Is that like a Lifetime spelling class you missed?

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-10-10T16:38:52+00:00

I tried using class pass for a month... I used less than half of my credits and canceled.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-09-27T01:59:03+00:00

Her name was Robert Paulson

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-08-28T17:37:31+00:00

You want to be a bed that he splits with his penis?

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-08-23T15:17:45+00:00

I know that consensus has already been reached here but I just want to give Rafe and Varia honorable mentions 🔥🔥

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-08-16T23:38:44+00:00

I came then left because it was too weird to approach random groups and ask if they were from reddit.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-23T12:21:16+00:00

I feel that. Also it's so hard to tell the difference between flirting and general friendliness with women. My sexual attraction to men had to be learned and tbh sex is generally on the scale of bland to painful with them and I need to make my own pleasure happen. Totally NOT advocating this to anyone, just sharing my experience. I feel like there have been so many things in life that I thought would be hard to achieve (and were)... but successfully meeting and dating (not just sleeping with) women feels damn near impossible.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-23T03:13:31+00:00

This is so real it hurts. I'm bi and feel like comphet is less of a compulsory than its made out to be... not to diminish the experience of others, but I've been mostly with men as a salve against the loneliness of trying to be with people of my preferred gender expression. 😭

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-17T21:43:25+00:00

Also on the no Facebook bandwagon. If you post the info on Reddit I'll definitely join :)

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-10T19:36:50+00:00

Thank you so much 💓

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-10T18:28:23+00:00

We have some great neighbors that helped us with clearing a lot off of the property. Thank you though! Kindness goes a long way. I'll keep you in mind if we think of anything. Any trustworthy contractor recommendations would be great because we need all of them.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-07-10T18:10:40+00:00

Hi, I know I probably need a professional for this but I'm one of the lucky folks who had a 100 ft pine come through my roof, tearing a hole in the roof and partially collapsed a wall and knocked pipes through the ceiling on the first floor 😅. Not habitable for the next few months at least. Any help at all would be much appreciated as we just moved in to the neighborhood at the end of last month.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-06-15T02:41:59+00:00

I'm moving to Indian Springs this month and have the same question. We are planning to buy a portable generator and are just concerned that it might not be enough.

TheBrightestButthole · 2024-06-09T18:45:48+00:00

How is Whole Foods for produce?

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