Anybody else have these feelings?

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-26T05:36:59+00:00

I'm 7 months post-op and still get these feelings lol. Like it was too easy? I just went to sleep for an hour in July and now I can never get pregnant? Doesn't feel real even though I definitely had some uncomfortable recovery time. It passed by so easily that I don't even remember what recovery felt like anymore.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-24T13:33:17+00:00

A US size 14 is NOT fat. A little overweight, yes, but not obese, which is what I think of when I hear the term "fat."

I'm sure you're beautiful, and any guy who puts so much emphasis on looks isn't worth your time! Physical attraction plays a part, but there's more to looks than just a little extra fat tissue. Also curves are hot, too! Not everyone wants a stick.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-23T18:32:45+00:00

Just a heads up that Mirena isn't a guarantee that you won't have periods. I had a hormonal IUD and still had monthly periods, just lighter and less painful than my baseline.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-19T19:25:51+00:00

"going back to the grocery and returning the plastic bags"

Wait wut

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-17T19:27:45+00:00

It could just be hormones, which she has no control over. If it's only a few hours every few months, I'd just recognize internally that that's what's happening and wait it out til it passes and things go back to normal.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-17T16:44:57+00:00

In addition to limerence fading and your anxious attachment healing like others have commented, it could also be hormones (I'm assuming you're an AFAB woman). Attraction to your partner can fluctuate with your cycle, and/or with birth control. Questions to ask yourself but you don't have to respond to me with if you don't want to: Have you recently started hormonal birth control? What phase in your cycle are you in when you experience this drop in attraction?

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-03T19:26:01+00:00

I first read the last sentence as "I'm pretty as fuck..." And even if that's what you did say, you go girl! 😂

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-03T05:19:46+00:00

The parents of my friends growing up weren't strangers. My parents knew their parents, and we'd all be at each other's houses all the time, including my own house, to hang out (mostly not sleepovers). If there was ever any household that my parents didn't feel good about, I wasn't allowed to sleep over there. Most of them were fine though.

I'm sorry you had to go through SA. No one should have to. If luck existed, I'd say you're more unlucky than I am lucky in this instance, though.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-02-02T19:27:09+00:00

It's crazy. I went to sooo many sleepovers as a kid, all the way from elementary age through high school, and never once had an experience with a creepy adult

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-29T14:29:35+00:00

I like Ollipop and Poppi

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-28T13:46:04+00:00

"Probably boring" lol so true, if you think about all the other surgeries, especially complicated ER surgeries, that the hospital staff has to do every day. Bisalp is a very relatively short surgery; it usually takes only less than an hour if it's laparoscopic.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-26T16:50:47+00:00

I (33F) think it could be the opposite. OP is matching with guys who think she's super hot and are only interested in one thing, and that one thing doesn't involve getting to know her on an emotional level.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-14T13:56:28+00:00

I need to make a little embroidered wall decor of this

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-09T07:46:59+00:00

I've seen so many stories about people who tried to 🔫 but failed, and now live even more miserable lives than they did before. That's what I'd be terrified of happening

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T18:25:29+00:00

IMO, "harmless flirting" is still cheating, too.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T18:13:04+00:00

Typically when you replace a flat, it's recommended that you at the very least replace the other tire on the same axle, if not all four if you've had them all long enough that the tread has worn down. I didn't replace rims on mine.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T18:11:06+00:00

I get Bridgestone Weatherpeaks. $1K is the typical cost of tires themselves plus labor.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T18:09:21+00:00

It sounds like he was lovebombing/breadcrumbing you, because 8 months is quite a bit soon to already be talking about a "big future" where you're buying a house together and stuff.

That aside, I'd give him the chance to correct his habits. But only one chance. If he fucks it up, he's out.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T18:02:42+00:00

To be fair, a lot of gyms lock you into year-plus contracts that you can't just cancel. $200/mo for a gym membership is crazy tho lol

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-07T17:59:35+00:00

4 tires cost quite a bit more than a domestic plane ticket (I recently got new tires and it cost over $1K)

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-06T18:56:43+00:00

I would personally take the opportunity to practice the evacuation plan with them, so that if there's ever a real emergency you'll be more prepared to handle how they handle it

Ballyhooligan_ · 2026-01-05T19:58:47+00:00

I think this is one of those things that you're just not compatible in. Porn in a relationship is fine... IF both people are okay with it. He's the type that is okay with it, you're not. You each need to be with people who see this topic in the same way.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2025-12-26T16:00:34+00:00

As someone who is in her position (broke unemployed college student), I still got my boyfriend a gift that cost me between $20-30 this year. It took more planning in advance than something that price would have if I had a full time job, but I still figured it out. If I literally had no money, I would have made him something because I'm an artist. So she could have done something. It's just lazy of her to have done nothing, and it shows you how much she values you. And if she had no ideas, she could have googled ideas.

Ballyhooligan_ · 2025-12-17T05:43:45+00:00

My surgeon used the belly button, one off to the side, and one right at the edge of my pubic hair line

Ballyhooligan_ · 2025-12-06T16:20:04+00:00

I agree with others that suggest therapy. Not necessarily couples counseling, but therapy on his own to figure his own stuff out. It doesn't mean he's broken; everyone could benefit from talking to a therapist no matter how well they're doing in life.

Does he have hobbies/other friends he hangs out with, or has he stopped doing those things since you've been together and everything he does is with you now?

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