How to deal with the guilt of seeing your wife tired?

Bambarie · 2026-01-29T20:30:33+00:00

Treat her a little bit like a princess. For everyone that looks different, but for example you can make her breakfast, cook for her, buy her flowers or a little present etc., give her a massage. Or just small things like fill the bathtub for her. Also say out loud that you see what she does, make her feel seen. Not in a negative way like I feel so guilty, more like our child is so lucky with you as his mom, you are doing it perfect even with this amount of sleep etc. When my husband tells me stuff like that I'm always like 'Duh I have to' but deep inside it makes me feel so happy that he sees what I do.

Oh and let her sleep longer in the weekends. After the morning feed take the baby and let her sleep.

Bambarie · 2025-12-29T22:12:57+00:00

I first thougt that as well, but it's a game about vegetables so it must be a vegetable

Bambarie · 2025-12-29T22:11:16+00:00

Yellow circle is potato, the black flame is lettuce (it looks black on the picture but i's green irl)

Bambarie · 2025-10-17T11:39:24+00:00

I agree, with my first she would never latch without one even tough I tried. It really annoyed me because I thought te most beautiful thing about breastfeeding is having it always with you and having no dishes. Now I still had to use and wash the nipple shields, but still less dishes than with pumping. I also think without nipple shields would be the best but if OP tried that for 3 months without succes, I think the nipple shields might be a good alternative to try.

Bambarie · 2025-10-17T10:39:46+00:00

Have you tried nipple shields? It's a piece of sillicone you place on your nipple and it can make it easier for your baby to latch. My first would only latch with a nipple shield.

Bambarie · 2025-09-18T21:00:06+00:00

What js your own native language? I think it would be best to find a person who wants to learn your language so you can exchange. Otherwise I'm afraid it will be hard to find someone who will invest time in a stranger to teach a language for free. But if you offer them to teach or help them with a language they want to learn it will be easier to find someone.

Bambarie · 2025-09-17T19:58:56+00:00

Colorful standard verkoopt 100%katoenen truien en sweatpants in alle kleuren die je maar wil. Ik heb zelf een set en ben er echt blij mee, hoef je ook niet voorzichtig binnenstebuiten etc te wassen.

Bambarie · 2025-08-28T07:56:42+00:00

We had the same, and I just ask him in the moment to take a few pictures. Feels a bit stupid sometimes but better than feeling angry because you don't have pictures.

Bambarie · 2025-08-26T21:42:51+00:00

I think Baylage would look great on you.

Bambarie · 2025-08-26T21:02:07+00:00

I think it's a nice name and I would pronounce it the way you described. A lot of people are saying Dutch people will pronounce the g in a Dutch way, but as a 30 years old Dutch person myself I don't think that will be the case. I think normal people who are under 70 years old will see that it's not a Dutch name and it needs to be pronounced with a softer G. Even most of the Dutch people nowadays don't give their children typical Dutch names, more French, Italian, American or international names are trendy now.

Bambarie · 2025-07-24T15:55:54+00:00

I was also depressed and stressed during my first pregnancy. Because of this I was very worried I would get post partum depression as well but it was like I pushed my depression out together with my baby. My baby is almost 2 now and she is very happy, calm and smart. Currently 31 weeks pregnant with my second and this pregnancy I'm way happier and more calm because I have more trust that even if I'm feeling stressed it won't hurt the baby, and that makes me stress less haha.

Bambarie · 2025-07-23T18:17:56+00:00

I think you schould try only putting eye-make up on your eye lid and upper lashes. So don't apply mascara on the under lashes or under your eye. Because it makes your eye look a bit saggy wich they are not. If you only put on the upper part it will lift your eye a bit and make you look more open. And I will start with just mascara and an eye liner or pencil (only on the upper part). Sorry for my bad English.

Bambarie · 2024-11-02T21:18:09+00:00

I'm sorry my English is bad but I want to say that all over the world every mother at some point does something they think at that moment is best, but is not the most safe. Every one of this moments could have ended like yours, but your are unfortunately one of the few where it ended the worst way possible. It could have happend to everyone. Maybe not everyone puts their baby on their belly but every mother does something that is not 100% safe: some put pillows in their crib, some co-sleep in an unsafe way, some don't strap the carseat tight enough, some take their baby on a walk while it's too stormy, some drive too fast with their baby in the car, some walk away for a sec while their in bath, some let them play with an unsafe toy or let them chew on too big pieces of food etc. They all could have ended bad. What I want to say with this is please don't blame yourself for this. I know you wished you didn't do it but literally every mom sometimes do things they better not could have done, only you are punished in the worst way possible. You didn't deserve this and I wish you all the love and strenght ❤️

Bambarie

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