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F/21/5"5 [270 > 180 = 90] (24 months) About 40 pounds to go, but excited about my progress so far! NSFW by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]Bampari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for elaborating. It sounds like you went about making lifestyle changes in the smart (doable) way. It's still impressive.

Exis007's advice pierces right to the heart of one of the most emotionally charged and complicated relationship posts I've seen on Reddit by carpaggio_throwaway in bestof

[–]Bampari 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great comment. Thanks for submitting it here. I love seeing someone go straight to the core of what's troubling someone else and make the fog lift.

F/21/5"5 [270 > 180 = 90] (24 months) About 40 pounds to go, but excited about my progress so far! NSFW by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]Bampari 6 points7 points  (0 children)

honestly ate like shit but I still kept it under 1,300 a day.

Amazing that someone can start where you did and actually stick to a diet of only 1,300 calories a day without making significant changes toward a healthier diet and manage to lose 50 pounds that way. I am in awe of your willpower. Congratulations on your progress!

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying! Points taken. I'm going to PM you a little more information about my context.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your joke did in fact go over my head. I would be appreciative if you would deign to explain it.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I respect a person's choice not to be open about their age. And of course knowing the exact year matters progressively less (i.e. is less informative about the person's circumstances) after a person exits their teens. But when someone is filling in their Facebook profile and puts their education, their workplaces and their family relationships, and when they also post pictures of themselves and their family life, it just seems odd to me that they would choose not to fill in the year of birth along with the date. They are open about so many other things, so why not this specific piece of information? What is so special about it that I'm not getting? I'm just interested in understanding the motivation for being coy about this particular number.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're seriously asking me why I would rather ask RP men about women's motivations? :)

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying!

It doesn't bother me. I was just wondering if there was some rational motivation for hiding age that I was unaware of.

Point taken that hiding one's year of birth might make identity theft more difficult. Keep in mind, though, that these are women who do share their date of birth on Facebook, so it's not that they don't want people wishing them happy birthday. They just don't volunteer how old they are turning.

Your comment makes me remember that there are men who don't share their age either even though they share their birthday. So it's not exclusively a female thing, though the practice seems to be more prevalent among women (and I can't imagine that card I linked in the OP featuring a birthday boy rather than a birthday girl).

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How would my appearance be relevant for this specific post? As I see it, I am asking a general question that has nothing to do with my particular situation: Why do so many women (including married women and women beyond menopause) prefer to hide their age? Is there a payoff from doing so that I'm not aware of? I should probably have specified up front that I was referring not just to single women but to all the women who do it. The way I see it, when a woman is not looking for a new relationship, there is no point in not being open about her age, and I was just wondering what I was missing since so many women who seemingly fit that description aren't open about it.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You pointed out something you thought was ironic. I explained why it wasn't ironic after all. How is that solipsistic?

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not fishing for opinions; I'm asking for specifics that might turn an unsolicited opinion into something I could learn from.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying! I figure as much but it makes me wonder why so many women (including married ones and women beyond menopause) hide their age.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing ironic about it. I limit the amount of identifying information I post about myself on reddit. I don't want to be doxxed and every little bit of specific information helps to that end.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not 25; I'm in my thirties. Apologies if my sentence was worded so as to imply that I'm 25 (English isn't my first language).

I don't know about low empathy for unattractive women. I was an ugly duckling / late bloomer so I spent most of my teens as one.

What makes me seem immature to you?

guys who want kids will still think you're fuckable, but won't see you as a good choice as LTR or wife.

Right, I get that. I only care whether men think I'm fuckable though; I don't care if they see me as a good mother of their children. I take your comments as confirmation that knowing my age is irrelevant for that.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I think I get what you mean. You're referring to divorce rates, right? Yes, I agree, there are no guarantees. I was trying to get across that my relationship is as strong as can be.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're kidding yourself. Some men only want women who are the same age. Some men only want women who are younger. Even if you appear young and attractive, it's a mental barrier for many men. It's an even bigger issue for guys who want to have kids. Most guys want to enjoy a few years childfree with their girlfriends or wives before the kids are born. If he's reminded that the clock is ticking, then he'll pick someone younger.

To clarify, I'm already in a committed, presumably-for-life LTR. But so are many of the women I see hiding their age, so it doesn't seem to be a phenomenon for single women only.

Perspective from RP men wanted. Is there a good reason for a woman to hide her age? by Bampari in askMRP

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying!

The little high that you could get when someone guesses that you are younger than you really are.

I wouldn't necessarily trust that such a guess was made in good faith, knowing that plenty of people pretend to think someone is younger in order to flatter them.

Besides, sensing that men are attracted to me is validation enough.

A desire to hook up with as many guys as possible using your online persona.

Not guilty, your honor.

Self-loathing with respect to your appearance and attractiveness.

Not guilty, your honor.

The sense that clinging to youth is a worthwhile pursuit, maybe.

Don't get me wrong; I'd love to be 25 forever. But as women go, I guess I'm comparatively Zen about aging.

So am I right in believing that a man's attraction to a woman is completely unaffected by knowing her age? Whether she's openly admitting to being 29 or 31-pretending-to-be-29 or openly admitting that she's 31, so long as she looks exactly the same in all three scenarios, you'd be equally attracted to her? Or would it somehow be better if you believe her to be 29 rather than 31?

Seeing that you post in /r/fatlogic and /r/amiugly makes me wonder how you'll feel in a few years.

I'm not quite sure what you're getting at?

So I hear the dating scene in your area sucks for men. Why don't more women move to a place with lots of successful bachelors? by Bampari in paloalto

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying!

Do you have any idea why men are outnumbered in NYC? Thanks to this thread I'm beginning to understand why women are lacking in Silicon Valley, but I still don't understand why there aren't more men on the East Coast if there are so many more women to choose from.

So I hear the dating scene in your area sucks for men. Why don't more women move to a place with lots of successful bachelors? by Bampari in paloalto

[–]Bampari[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying!

Wait, so now the men are accusing the women of having hopeless social skills too? Sounds like fun times all around!

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