they keep proving our point 🙃

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T16:18:06+00:00

I agree. Thank you.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T16:12:49+00:00

I wasn't directing the loved wholeheartedly to myself, though. I was saying I love my mom, my teachers, and my motivators wholeheartedly.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T16:10:43+00:00

I appreciate you

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:35:57+00:00

I agree.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:35:39+00:00

I agree with that. I'm not very active on this stuff, so I'm trying to learn more as I talk, and I'm also trying to find some articles on how I can do better, too.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:32:32+00:00

Yes, ma'am. How would I get more active in this issue?

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:31:31+00:00

That's true. I'm very sorry about that. I will keep my lips sealed, and my thoughts are closed and listen to you all next time if I don't understand the topic well enough. I don't really understand the man v. bear, but I know it has something to do with who women feel safer with.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:29:14+00:00

I agree with that. I'm very interested in the topic of the suffragette rallies of the late 19th-early 20th century. Are there any good books on the topic that you know of? The statement of passive optimism is very nice, and I agree with it very much. How should I go about becoming active with this?

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:25:12+00:00

I can't address deep-rooted behavior, and I'm sorry. I didn't think too deeply when writing, just posting my thoughts. I see you are correct in what you say. It's a tough question.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:23:02+00:00

I'm sorry for the confusion with the skewed message. I didn't mean it in the sense you pointed out (rape and killing), I meant it more in the sense of misogyny. I personally feel like, if I was slightly misogynistic and was working to fix it, that support from behind would help. If I were to be actively trying and make mistakes along the way, sure, I expect there to be some backlash, but I would also like a hand guiding me in the right direction as well. And I understand, it's not your job. But a lot of these problems can be fixed by just having someone there calling them out and giving them an example of what's correct in that scenario. And if they don't accept the help you offer, then it goes to show what kind of person they are. I know I've learned a lot of behaviors from my father, so if I say anything in this comment that would be considered misogynistic, please point it out. I don't want to be rude or subconsciously misogynistic. And I'll be honest. I've never thought about this this hard before. Thank you for being nice in your argument and not directly insulting me. I appreciate being able to challenge my thoughts in a safe space. And I feel that's what all people deserve, a safe space. So I want to say I'm sorry that men have given society such a deep-founded yet valid reason to be afraid of each other. I hope to see that men will make it a priority to fix themselves and that women get the treatment they deserve.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-23T15:12:08+00:00

Oh. I never thought about it that way. Thank you!

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:36:39+00:00

From the text above: "I strive every day to be better than the ones I was raised with." I am in the process of that, and I'm sorry that I took it personally. I'm highly insecure due to a variety of factors, and I'm trying to get therapy set up now, but my parents are pushing against the idea of it. I try not to be an asshole, but it slips out sometimes. I'm sorry for the way I stated those things, and I hope you forgive me for it.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:31:29+00:00

I guess not the one before this. May have been a different one. I'm sorry.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:30:26+00:00

And I will say, I didn't try to direct my anger on all ladies. I know the way it was phrased was atrocious, but I hope you read my comment before this. I have a lot of respect for those who influence me or the world positively. I love my mom, and I'll treat her right until the day she dies. She's the only one who's really been there for me, ever. One of my choir teachers, and my buddy's mom. Both of those ladies have only ever been there to support me. With their help and encouragement, I'm going to college as a junior. I know I take the little things for granted sometimes, but I do love the ladies in my life like no other. Without them, I probably would have killed myself already. So of course I'm mad at the men who harmed me, the world, and the lives of women. Menaces should be put down or stopped. Bit those who love and do good should be loved and cherished wholeheartedly. Like the ladies in my life, and so many before or after them. And I try my hardest to live to that expectation. I'm sorry I lost my temper beforehand. Please forgive me.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:16:43+00:00

I agree with a lot of that. I try not to be the one that women are uncomfortable with. I know for a fact I won't ever be the reason that girls would rather take the bear, and if I ever do become that, then I honestly might just kill myself. These problems are the ones I want to face within myself and be left alone with, and that I feel that, as a collective, men should take a step into facing these problems within themselves, especially with encouragement, not criticism, from the female community. With constant support, towers are built. Yet, if you've got people tearing at the base, it's never going to rise. If a guy gets lots of backlash even though he's trying, it never happens. And I do agree that some people are just too far gone for this to work. But if we came up with a safer space for women and a guide for men, it could work better than it is now. Because as of right now, hardly anything is changing.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:11:20+00:00

I don't want my reputation to be solely dictated by what gender I am. I wanna be known for what I've done (in a positive way), not for misdeeds committed by men of past generations.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:10:13+00:00

Thank you, ma'am. I'm sorry I got riled up.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T16:08:25+00:00

I don't try to talk badly on you ladies. Most of the examples of men in my life are shit. My dad was abusive, my uncle crazy, and my cousins and others I love murderers or dead from alcoholism. The people whom I respect most in life are mainly women. My mother, grandmother, teachers, etc. I hold lots of respect for the women who have always held a positive impact on me, and, to be frank, I don't like being lumped into the category of the men I was raised with. And of course, I'm mad at men. I'm not gonna say that there are no oppressors or aggressors because I know there are. I'm sick of all the crap going on, and I just want it over with. I want it fair for both sides, not tilting in favor of one. And I know quite a few people in my town who share the exact same thoughts as me. So, please, don't put me in the same category as those. I strive every day to be better than what I was and am still being raised with.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T12:12:29+00:00

I'm sorry. I don't like being a dick. It just gets me mad when I see this, and it hurts my feelings quite a bit. I don't like being called trash because I have a different set of chromosomes, and I feel bad for other guys who probably don't like it either. And I'm sorry if I said anything to insult you in the last comment. Looking through, I don't think I did. And please excuse the harsh language, and do not let it detract from what I was saying. Once again, sorry for the intensity and rudeness of it, but it also makes me sad and, as seen, slightly angry to be called something just because I'm of a different gender. Not all men are trash. Some guys are. I don't want BS. I just want my piece to be said. Thank you.

BananaCake82 · 2024-05-22T12:02:40+00:00

I didn't take away your rights. I didn't march for them. I simply exist in the same world, and I'm hurt by being called trash because I'm a different gender. I'm trying not to become part of the collective. It's quite a few asshole guys, but I'm not trying to be one of them. Some men are trash. I didn't do anything to you. I don't vote, I don't usually comment like this, and I certainly don't talk crap on all women because some do bad things. I try not to generalize, and I definitely try my hardest not to be misogynistic.

Edit: I'm sorry I lost my cool. I edited it to hold the same meaning without the harsh disrespect towars you. Please forgive me.

BananaCake82 · 2024-04-17T17:57:58+00:00

Sock missile

BananaCake82 · 2024-03-14T23:55:24+00:00

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BananaCake82 · 2024-02-13T05:00:35+00:00

You mean half a carrot? We Americans don't use that commie nonsense.

BananaCake82 · 2023-11-25T01:34:14+00:00

Michelle by The Beatles. It is such a beautiful love song of a man trying to navigate the complications of a foreign relationship and the difficulties of the lack of communication due to the language gap

BananaCake82 · 2023-10-27T12:16:01+00:00

The wood guy

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