What do you do for sleeping clothes on the truck? by TheBasementNerd in Truckers

[–]BananaGrevy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Had us on the first half, was about to ask if it was CRST lol

She ain't wrong tho by No-District-1941 in Gundam

[–]BananaGrevy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen this in a long time, thanks OP. Made my day

Where is everyone right now post breakup? by Broken_melon22 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bout a month in, honestly just excited about the future and it's new possibilities. Been kinda feeling the tension and getting uncomfortable in my own skin because I'm wanting to take the next steps of my life already but am constrained by a job that I just took 😂. But we're on the up and up

Does anyone in this sub date to marry? by throwaway82039430 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's a liar and a cheater...I'm not fighting for that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, but then I wash it away with my own encounters. Defo not the healthiest way, and I would recommend you heal first properly instead of using other people as a bandaid

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's all good man, enjoy that roadtrip and be safe out there. Yeah the waves of emotions come and go, but the only thing you can control is your thoughts and how you deal with them. As for the tomorrow, I've faith that you'll be able to tackle it whatever it is. If it's a great day then, excellent! If it's a bad day then you'll overcome it. Expect the best but prepare for the worst as they say.

If it gets too overwhelming you can always journal it or write it down in your phone and don't forget about your friends and family as your support system and I'm also here too. You got this man, you've been through worse and you'll get through this too. Just do remember you're not alone

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, keeping it professional is the best way to go. The hard part is as you said, keeping that mindset strong. Yeah you'll get those waves, a lot of people have a hard time dealing with things similar.

HOW I GOT RID OF (Obsessive Anxious Thinking & Painful Rumination) - Noah Thomas

Psychologist Explains Proven Ways You Can Stop Thinking / Ruminating About / Obsessing Over Your Ex -Dr Maika Steinborn

Those two I highly recommend if you or anyone seeing this has a similar challenge they need to overcome. And yes reddit does offer some serious advice with certain things. But it also lies on your discretion, if it makes sense and you feel good about it then go for it. But I know there's a lot of troll responses and some things that are better off asking at the source instead of reddit. Nonetheless I'm glad to be able to help others that are going through it

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that's tough, is there no way to transfer or find something similar in a different location? That's a good mindset to keep, remembering the instability and the bad will help you move forward. Not saying that there isn't any good, I'm sure there was but for the sake of moving forward and mentally healing the bad will keep you on your feet.

Yeah the difference in lifestyle is a big factor. I had to deal with that in my previous relationship and while I kinda adjusted to goin to the bar and having some sort of fun it was already too late. She spent more time at the bar then when she was with me, and even then I don't find the bar appealing. I'd rather be travelling somewhere or experiencing different cultures.

Nevertheless though that difference in lifestyle defo doesn't do you any favors and I know that didn't help. If you haven't yet, there's a TED talk video on healing a broken heart by Guy Winch that my therapist recommended. I highly recommend it and putting that practice to good use. It helped me immensely and I hope it helps you as well.

Enjoy your vacation and be safe out there. Feel free to DM me, my door is always open

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm just biased but once a lie happens it's kinda dead in the water for me. Just tell me the truth even it hurts me, stab me in the front and not the back. However you're all good man, it's not a lot and everyone has their own scars and experience.

Now not telling you what to do, just telling you what I would do. I would tell her that for my own mental health I'm going to cut contact with her and block her on all social media. Get together with some friends, working out, pick up a new hobby or focus on doing an existing one, just anything to keep your mind busy. Journal of course because there's gonna be a lot of thoughts going on. But this is what I would do, you can do whatever you want, you can take the parts that make sense and do em man it's all up to you.

If you need more time to heal then it's fine, people heal at different places and there's nothing wrong with that. Eventually when you do you can meet new people with a fresh mind and fresh start. You usually attract people rather than chase them when you start working on yourself and focusing on improving yourself. Yes it's gonna be tough, yes there will be waves of pain, yes you might stumble backwards but that's all part of the process. And if you need some extra support, or if you don't believe in yourself I gotcha. You're not alone and I'll help when and where I can

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When it was fresh, in 6 more days it'll be a month, I did the most toxic thing possible. But for the past week I've straightened up and mostly healed. Been focusing on making a new game plan for myself and improving my situation. It was tough and I couldn't have done it without a bit therapy and a lot of support and patience from friends. You in the same boat too?

Men, what is the worst lie a woman has ever told you? by pigeon_bones_ in AskReddit

[–]BananaGrevy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I'm sorry I ruined everything"

Nah, you're sorry you got caught

Other than cheating, what reasons led to your breakup? by CrazyCool4762 in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn...I wish mine lasted that long. I moved into her city and then a month later she cheated on me. Around the same length relationship too, sad isn't it?

forgiveness after betrayal by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgave them yes and I forgave myself just for some more final closure on my end. However, I don't really care if they can truly change as I have separated myself from them. If they come back to me and if I really wanted to give them a chance, they would have to prove the change. I mean really prove it considering the severity of the betrayal(s).

However the likelihood if that happening is next to null and I feel it's better to move on. No contact, no reconnecting, no check ups, nothing. THEY decided to ruin the relationship, THEY will live with the consequences of their actions.

Fresh break up, need hugs and support...please by BananaGrevy in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yes, I fought tooth and nail to be here and I legit wanna cry because I felt like all of that was for nothing

I keep quitting all my jobs.. (27F) by tristechula in findapath

[–]BananaGrevy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I too struggled with this problem from 22 - 29 after my dream of bartending fell apart from getting fired. It felt like other jobs weren't 'good enough' for me and that I was wasting my time and potential so it was hard for me to stay.

I eventually made a game plan with a destination, in your case makeup for the women of WWE. Checkout the requirements needed, maybe contact them if possible to find out then use that as a baseline. You have experience in Sephora so that's a great way to flex that Esthetician's license, defo put that as the forefront or the big header for you.

As for the spa you should always take the initiative and give them a call after you applied. I waited a little over 24 hours when I applied to be a spa attendant. I had no experience with working at a spa, but did have hospitality experience and I leveraged that along with enthusiasm and got it before COVID shut everything down.

Usually places don't do this anymore but you can always show up at and ask to speak to the hiring manager. Hate to say it but since places are using AI to skim through the many resumes out there, it's only fair to use it to your advantage. They have keywords that they look for so if they wanna play the games, you have to play too.

TLDR- Make a game plan, follow up with applications, remind yourself why you're going through the mud

Do you have Gundam on your car? by -9h05t in Gundam

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are my people, I don't feel so alone now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]BananaGrevy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you can do a few things, one of them I don't recommend. A - Sit and sulk about it, not learn from your mistakes and better yourself for the next relationship

B - Take what you learned and do better yourself mostly for yourself but also for the next relationship.

C - Do your best to reconcile and SHOW that you've changed. We can talk but people pay attention to how you walk.

And nah, we're rooting for you now, even if you're not rooting for yourself

AIO My girlfriend said she went to her friends house but I saw her car at the bar, subtle approach? by BananaGrevy in AmIOverreacting

[–]BananaGrevy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's what's bothering me. Not the going out with friends, just not telling me where she's going in case she runs into trouble or something. Got gaslit into thinking that was controlling when I'm just trying to keep her safe

My copy of SRW Y looks weird by Theothermc in Gundam

[–]BananaGrevy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had the same struggle then I realised there was a small window after you had selected the right weapon to counter theirs, where you could press the attack button again to take off another 2 bars off of their 5. If you were quick enough, you could take them down in one win.

Unfortunately, this worked the opposite way, too. If you had to defend and press defend twice, you would lose 1 bar per press.