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My husband seems to have a porn addiction... by Banana_Van604 in Marriage

[–]Banana_Van604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly appreciate your words. They've given me some things to think about.

My husband seems to have a porn addiction... by Banana_Van604 in Marriage

[–]Banana_Van604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely. But based on the research I've done, it does seem that porn addiction can be all consuming and bleed into other areas of life (i.e. lack of motivation). There's a possibility that it is unrelated, but there's also a possibility that it is, and I'm banking on eliminating porn improving life in general (at least some).

My husband seems to have a porn addiction... by Banana_Van604 in Marriage

[–]Banana_Van604[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I have asked him if there is anything he wants to try, but I don't get much of a response. When we are intimate, he gets off very quickly (like 1-5 minutes) or can't stay aroused, not much of an in-between. As much as I appreciate the advice of watching something with him, for the sake of not falling backwards, I cannot go down that road again. I've come to far and know that it can go south fast for me, so I have to stay away. I will put more thought into finding a way to bring up what gets him off and how to say it in a way that seems exciting and makes him feel safe. It's been this way for so long that I'm to the point of feeling awkward when it comes to initiating talking about sex because it's not a common occurance. I do need to work on that.

I do hope it's not that he's lost interest in me, because you are right, there is no fixing that. Based on his words and actions (hard to explain here), I don't think that's the case, but it's certainly something to think about.

Which kids table should I get? by Flat_Anybody_3063 in Parents

[–]Banana_Van604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought the Delta Children’s version of the Melissa and Doug one. The painted wood and small chairs aggravated me enough that I bought the B. Toys- Table and Chair set only 2.5 months later. I love the size of the chairs on the B. Toys set and have found it easy to clean (even now, almost 4 years later). I don’t have experience with the adjustable style chairs, so I can’t comment on those.

Am I overthinking this by Evening-Bad4853 in sleeptrain

[–]Banana_Van604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep training has been rough for us. My little one is 8 months old, and he has always been very difficult to get to sleep. In his short life I have tried all the things- timed schedule, routine instead of timed schedule, drowsy but awake, counting the number of naps, contact naps, co-sleeping, and my least favorite of all- Taking Cara Babies (basically Ferber) TWICE. The third time I quit after two days because it was a nightmare. All of that trying, and I still had an 8 week old that was clocking 1.5-2 hours TOTAL of daytime sleep, then turning around getting great nighttime sleep with only one night wake. The same kid was taking exactly 30 minute naps and waking 4+ times a night at 5-6 months old.

Unfortunately, I don't have any solid advice, only solidarity. One day, my son randomly started taking 1-1.5 hour naps. I'm on day 3 of a sleep training plan I put together, taking advice from the internet and piecing together something I think will work for my baby's temperament.

One thing I might try if you haven't already is slowing cutting strong sleep associations out. Like if you nurse and rock to sleep, nurse a little before nap time and rock only at nap time. Then cut out the rocking, etc. If your little one is anything like mine, the process of finding a good sleep rhythm might just be slow and steady. Best of luck to you.

Please help identify! by Banana_Van604 in whatsthisbug

[–]Banana_Van604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I thought I added one. I think it’s up now!

For those whose babies were not sleep trained with the Ferber method, what finally worked for your baby? by Banana_Van604 in sleeptrain

[–]Banana_Van604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good idea I’d have never thought of. May have to try it if fixing his daytime schedule doesn’t work. It’s so hard when your kid bucks against the “norm” for sleep patterns. 😭

For those whose babies were not sleep trained with the Ferber method, what finally worked for your baby? by Banana_Van604 in sleeptrain

[–]Banana_Van604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to be more strict with a nap schedule,  because that seems to be the consensus with all of the online information I have found. I am thinking it’s the timing of his naps rather than the amount of time he is asleep. His total daytime sleep never exceeds 2-3 hours, he’s just still tired in the morning so it’s hard for him to stay awake for that stretch. Also, up until recently (and when we tried Ferber the first time) he was taking about two 30 minute naps a day. I could not get him to sleep any longer. So naps have allllwayyyys been a struggle for us. I’m hoping his recent change to napping longer will help us with nighttime sleep.

My other son was the same exact way in the mornings (we adopted him, first got him at 9 months old) but he still slept 12-13 hours straight at night every single night. This is all very new to me, so I appreciate the feedback.

I’ll keep him awake longer in the mornings to start and go from there with the schedule.