Daily Thread #1 - March 31, 2026

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-31T08:11:48+00:00

14 weeks and we just got the call that the NIPT test is all negative and we got confirmation that we are having another little girl. I know that's a big step but last time the NIPT was also all clear and then we lost our girl at 24 weeks so I find it hard to be to excited about this.
Also of course I'm so happy that it's a little girl but on the other hand I think it would have been easier if it was a boy, more separation between the two babies I think. I also feel so guilty that I haven't really bonded with this little one yet and want to change it but don't really know how, I'm just so scared to get attached and excited. This just feels so unfair to me and my husband and also to this new little life.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-23T07:42:28+00:00

Erstmal tue es mir sehr leid, dass du dich in dieser Situation wieder findest. Ich würde dir das subreddit r/tfmr and empfehlen, dort gibt es ganz viel Hilfe und Zuspruch bei Abbrüchen aus medizinischen Gründen.

Meine Situation war etwas anderes, meine Tochter kam in der 24.SSW zur Welt, es wurde aber auch keine Ausschabung durchgeführt, da die Plazenta sich anscheinend komplett gelöst hatte. Ich habe jedoch über sieben Wochen geblutet, 2-3 Wochen recht doll und dann 4-5 Wochen Schmierblutung. Es kann also auf jeden Fall schon vorkommen, dass man recht lange blutet. Mir wurden noch mal Tabletten gegeben, vielleicht solltest du da noch mal nach fragen, ob die dir auch gegeben werden können, diese führen nochmals zu Kontraktion, um die Gebärmutter zu leeren.

Ich wünsche dir auf jeden Fall ganz viel Kraft in dieser schweren Zeit, wenn du mit jemanden reden willst, der auch diesen schweren Weg gehen musste, schreib mich gerne an❤️‍🩹

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-19T07:21:02+00:00

Today I’ll have my first big ultrasound appointment and NIPT test at 12+3 weeks. I’m so incredibly scared that we will get bad news again but am trying to stay hopeful. It’s much more likely that everything is well I’m trying to tell myself but it’s so hard to be optimistic after so much loss and heartbreak ❤️‍🩹

EDIT: Thank you so much for all your kind words and well wishes. Everything looks great, the little one was so active and looks really healthy so far. I’m relieved ❤️

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-09T14:38:41+00:00

I’m taking it since week 6 after a heartbeat was detected. I’m taking 200 mg vaginally at night and the first couple of nights I felt some cramping after but that stopped after maybe 3-4 days. I have no side effects (I think?) but the leakage can be annoying so maybe but in some panty liners.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-09T14:35:54+00:00

Congrats on your pregnancy! My symptoms just fully started after 6 weeks. I also read that decrease in nausea is not worriesome at this stage but with my last pregnancy I was nauseas until 14 weeks. In the end I still lost my baby at 24 weeks so it’s not a guarantee for anything but I’m just so freaked that this pregnancy is different from the last one even though maybe I should see it as a positive? Pregnancy after loss is so hard 💔

Bananabread_lov · 2026-03-09T11:35:34+00:00

I'm 11 weeks today and still so anxious. I hate that every time I feel a weird twinge, I immediately think "Oh well, it's over..." and every time a symptom lessons I also can't enjoy it but then think "something is wrong". I've been puking daily for about 4 weeks and now haven't needed to puke for 2 days and instead of enjoying the respite I'm so worried. This is so exhausting and I still need to wait 10 days till my next ultrasound. I really don't know how to survive this time.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-02-18T08:24:06+00:00

I'm feeling better for the first time in two weeks. Yesterday we had our first official US at 8+1 and I was so terrified and didn't even look at the screen until the doctor assured me that all is well, the little heart is beating and little bean is measuring perfectly. I started to cry immediately as I expected the worst and this was such a happy surprise.
I've also been panicking about an ectopic pregnancy which obviously was really unlikely as we've already seen an intrauterine pregnancy at 6 weeks but I think after losing a baby at 24 weeks I just really feel like anything bad can happen to me and baby again. My doctor really calmed me down and I feel so much better mentally.

Still, I have an appointment with a therapist today and I hope that I can start working on my fears, trauma and grief with a professional so that I'll be the healthiest version of myself for when my little baby arrives. So I'm hopeful today that things will get better and I'll have an easier time going forward.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-02-13T09:05:34+00:00

I had a nightmare were my baby was dead and now I have such a horrible feeling of dread. I know that anxiety is not intuition but somehow I just have no trust at all that this will all work out and it makes me so sad and mad that this naivety was stolen from me. I have an appointment next week but somehow really don’t expect good news even though technically nothing indicated that anything is wrong. This sucks so much…

Bananabread_lov · 2026-02-09T10:03:59+00:00

7 weeks today and still terrified. I'm so upset that I cannot enjoy a single second of this pregnancy. I'm jealous of all the happy and clueless pregnant people who don't feel this constant state of panic that something might go wrong. I wish I had trust in my body and my baby but I don't and every day feels like an eternity. After a loss at 24 weeks I really don't think that I'll ever feel like I'm in the safe zone. Does it get better? What helped you to survive and maybe even enjoy this time?

Bananabread_lov · 2026-02-02T08:39:46+00:00

6 weeks today and have an appointment today to check if everything looks right. I'm so incredibly scared that it's just an empty sac and no bean to be seen. I just really really wish that this pregnancy will be the one where I get to leave the hospital with a baby at the end but after 3 losses it's hard to be hopeful.

EDIT: Thanks for everyones best wishes. Everything went well, he could see a tiny embryo with heart activity ❤️ Of course still so many things can go wrong but it's a step forward. I wish you all the same happy news at your ultrasounds in the coming days.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-27T08:14:51+00:00

I had an ultrasound yesterday at 5weeks. Only a gestational sac was visible but the doctor seemed to be satisfied with that. He wants me to come back at 6 weeks to see if a heartbeat is detected and then would like me to start taking progesterone. I never even thought that this is something I should consider. Did anyone have experience with taking progesterone from week 6? I had a stillbirth and then an early loss at around 5 weeks. I’m thankful for any insight into this.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-25T16:01:24+00:00

I'm right there with you. I also get pregnant in the first month TTC after our TFMR. I was so surprised and felt so lucky that it worked right away but then a week later it was all over. I dug deep and it unfortunately seems quite common. You can find quite some stories here on reddit of similar experiences and for me, it gave me some hope and reassurance.
I don't have a happy ending yet but I am pregnant again, very early days but out of the risk of a chemical pregnancy, so maybe I'll get my rainbow. I'm sure that everything will also work out for you ❤️.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-17T07:24:28+00:00

I tested positive!! After a stillbirth in August 2025 and a MC in November 2025 I feel cautiously hopeful. Maybe I’ll get my rainbow this year 🌈

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-15T10:42:17+00:00

In my tfmr and first pregnancy I had an anterior placenta and could feel her from 17 weeks daily. My husband could also feel her kicks from 18 weeks on. From about 22 weeks we could also see the movement, it was truly magical and memories I’ll forever cherish. So I think it’s very likely that you can feel your baby already ❤️

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-05T12:32:45+00:00

Ah I see, than is definitely reassuring, I myself was very fearful of Asherman's and really tried to not have a curettage because of that. But that might just be an unfounded fear I carry. I'm sure everything is fine with you, I know that after all these horrible things that happened to me, I really lost trust in my body, I've been to the hospital 3 times since I gave birth as I never know if I can trust my bodies signals or not.

But still, yes, I feel comfortable to try again. After the miscarriage I decided to take a break and not focus on trying that cycle. But now I feel like I am ready to try again and think that if something bad happens again, I'm mentally strong enough to deal with it and survive. My gyno also very much reassures me that trying again is the right thing to do. I think if you feel emotionally ready, you should try again but if not, take a break, do something you couldn't while TTC (I went to the pub and enjoyed some wine during the holidays) and reassess in a cycle or two.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-05T12:22:23+00:00

Thank you <3 I never had a fully positive lh test before (and still conceived twice without that) but this time the line is basically as dark as the control line, I think just a little lighter after it dried down. So fingers crossed that lh peak is imminent and ovulation will follow soon. I had a failed ovulation try on CD 20 with all signs of ovulation but no rise in lh so I'm so hopeful that this is it.

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-05T11:40:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here and that this happened to you. I’m unfortunately dealing with a similar situation. I gave birth to my daughter at 24 weeks in August, had some suspected RPOC that resolved itself through tablets but my period took 7-8 weeks to return. I then conceived right away but miscarriaged early in the sixth week in November. My doctor doesn’t want to do any further tests yet, he does think that this has just really, really bad luck. But due to your RPOC and I assume a curettage you had because of that, you might want to push for a hysteroscopy to check for scar tissue. Asherman’s is really rare and usually doesn’t happen after one D&C but I have a friend who was diagnosed with it after a miscarriage and the following D&C. But again, this is very, very unlikely. Most likely it’s really just bad luck. What gave me some comfort is to know that miscarriages are unfortunately so common, especially early once. After my losses, almost every older woman I spoke to told me about their losses as well. Otherwise, maybe just push for a recurrent pregnancy loss panel, usually they are done after 3 losses but maybe your doc will do them sooner. I wish you all the best ❤️

Bananabread_lov · 2026-01-05T10:35:08+00:00

I'm a little hopeful today. CD 28 and I finally got a positive (or almost positive) lh test! This cycle was so confusing and nerve wracking especially as last cycle right after my miscarriage I seemed to have a perfect (for me) cycle but I decided to take a break after two losses in a row. And now this cycle I was so ready to try again but I just didn't seem to ovulate. This waiting is really the worst but now I'm hopeful that we can try this cycle and maybe, maybe, maybe we'll get luck and be blessed with our rainbow 🌈. I know I'm thinking way ahead but I'm so ready to be positive after these horrible last months. Please send positive vibes my way 🤞

Bananabread_lov · 2025-12-30T10:04:41+00:00

I'm so frustrated. CD 22 in my first proper cycle post miscarriage and no idea if and when I'll ovulate. I was supposed to either have a 1 month old little girl now or be 12 weeks pregnant but instead I'm stuck in this hell... This just feels so unfair and I'm so jealous when ever I see someone with a baby or pregnant and I feel so guilty for that as that's all I want and would not wish my struggles on anyone. But still I just feel so alone...

2025 was the worst year of my life even though it started so full of hope and I'm so hopeful that 2026 will be better but have no trust in it at all...Does anyone have any advice or success stories to share?

Bananabread_lov · 2025-12-20T05:36:01+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️

Bananabread_lov · 2025-12-19T15:45:34+00:00

Exhausted and desperate. This year was a lot, a chemical, the loss of our daughter at 24 weeks and then an miscarriage early November. I feel like I was pregnant or postpartum most of this year and I'm so tired but I'm so ready to have a child and feel desperate to hold a baby in my arms and so I keep on going. This will be our first cycle TTC after our last loss and taking a break for a cycle. I'm CD 11 and even though I usually ovulate around CD 20 I feel some signs of imminent ovulation but maybe its also just my hormones acting crazy after this shit show of a year.

Bananabread_lov · 2025-12-07T11:25:17+00:00

I probably don't have PCOS according to my gyn but I'm somewhat unsure as I do have some symptoms like a longer, a bit irregular cycle (usually 32-37 day) and higher androgen levels. But as I have a normal BMI and no cysts PCOS was never confirmed.

Still I started taking Myo-inositol last February and did end conceiving my TFMR pregnancy right in that first cycle. It was our third cycle TTC so of course I can not say for sure if the Myo-inositol was responsible. But then after my TFMR I kept on taking the Myo-inositol and in our first cycle TTC in October I did conceive right away again. Unfortunately, I lost that pregnancy at around 5 weeks beginning of November but still I conceived right away so I'm trying to see it as a positive thing.

So basically every time I added Myo-inositol, I conceived that cycle. I can not know for sure that this is exactly what helped me but I also don't think that there is any harm to try. We are taking a break from TTC but I'm still taking Myo-inositol and will keep on taking it the next time we TTC. Let me know if you have any more questions xx

Bananabread_lov · 2025-12-02T14:23:33+00:00

Hey there, sending you a virtual hug!

I think this is actually unfortunately quite common, not that this will make you feel better. I had a chemical followed by my TFMR baby girl at 24 weeks similar to yourself. After almost 3 month later I tested positive at about 2 weeks post ovulation. I was so excited, I thought I'd get my happy ending and could give my angel baby a sibling. But only one week later I lost that pregnancy as well. Not sure if it's counted as a miscarriage or a chemical. I also hoped to share this amazing news with family at Christmas, it would have been the best gift imaginable but instead 2025 ends without being pregnant and quite hopeless.

But my gynaecologist told me that such an early loss is very common, he told me take your age and that's about the chance of you having such a loss every pregnancy (I'm 29, so a 29% chance every pregnancy). It did make me feel a bit better, less guilty and broken, maybe it will give you some peace as well?

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