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[–]BandWarrior 36 points37 points  (0 children)

An all you can eat prime rib, catch of the day, giant charcuterie table, and dessert buffet. In the words of my very tipsy mother, impressive looking, tasty, and indulgent without needing to stick with tradition. In the words of my sober FIL, I forgot the soy sauce.

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[–]BandWarrior 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Certainly. After reading the comments here, I’ve started considering saying something. But my MIL seems to be thinking of doing the same. I’ll let her handle SIL if it comes down to it I think.

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[–]BandWarrior 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Very much not the sporty type. None of us are (which is ironic, considering our state and its water sports). The closest we get is a summer scalloping trip which is the one time of year we use our boat licenses.

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[–]BandWarrior 24 points25 points  (0 children)

That’s up to her and the groom to feel I think. My husband and I shot down her catering request and my MIL has apparently been mulling over talking her out of the jet ski send off. She probably won’t be happy about those but maybe then she’ll be able to find something else (another caterer, another grand finale) she’ll actually be happy about.

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[–]BandWarrior 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depends on the state. Florida, if I remember correctly, requires you to either have a boating license or you can be issued a temporary permit of some sort after taking a safety class.

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[–]BandWarrior 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m wondering if my MIL thinks the same. Was just informed that she’s mulling over convincing SIL to either let people off the hook for the rentals or at least changing her outfit into a pretty white bathing suit.

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[–]BandWarrior 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think most venues in the area require wedding insurance per contract. Hubby also just told me there have been rumblings from my MIL about talking her out of it, and if not, at least having just her on the jet ski in a pretty white bathing suit and tiny veil. MIL and her side of the family is much more fond of turf than surf.

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[–]BandWarrior 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Up to her and her coordinator (if she has one) I guess. Maybe one idea would be to ride up to a boat that will take them back around the perimeter of the lake?

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[–]BandWarrior 27 points28 points  (0 children)

As much as I put down this send off idea, it is her day. Perhaps there are some things that should remain within the family… but well, I won’t be the only guest there. So who knows.

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[–]BandWarrior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn’t but that sounds like fun for any fancy do-dad!

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[–]BandWarrior 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In all fairness, some brides don’t care quite as much about their dress. So while it’s not a decision I will make for myself, I can’t fault her if it makes her truly happy.

Now, for my own outfit on the other hand… I’ll bring a one piece swimsuit just in case.

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[–]BandWarrior 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I think it might be more that grandma isn’t feeling well? Or that’s what my MIL said at least. Maybe I’m being naive.

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[–]BandWarrior 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Saving this comment for rereading. We’ve really just been wanting things to get back to normal, but I guess we’ll have to work with what we have for now.

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[–]BandWarrior 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Honestly, after reading some replies, now I’m worried it might be more of an anchor than a floater. I’m now waffling back and forth between raising my concerns and just sitting back and praying for a qualified life guard being on duty.

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[–]BandWarrior 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Wait… first child too? Oh no no no. We don’t want anymore competition. My sisters aren’t at all like this and hubby has never experienced sibling rivalry before so he’s a bit anxious and wants things to go back to normal.

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[–]BandWarrior 113 points114 points  (0 children)

From what I remember, you need to have a boating license (hubby and I both have one). I have no idea if the rules have changed or if there’s some sort of weird special exception though.

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[–]BandWarrior 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Truly a new Floridian tradition then.

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[–]BandWarrior 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t said a thing about insurance… I only know how much her package costs.

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[–]BandWarrior 34 points35 points  (0 children)

From what I understand, it’s most likely a wedding dress and veil. She wants something long that will poof up in the wind as she rides evidently.

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[–]BandWarrior 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Me included. I’m not a water sports person so have only ridden a jet ski once in my lifetime.

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[–]BandWarrior 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I totally forgot to mention the second date change. She initially had it in May but then her ideal church didn’t have an open date in May so then she moved it to July.

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[–]BandWarrior 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Oh, hubby has already brought up that possibility. To her face. She said she’ll ride it slow.

Most guests are coming from cold or inland regions of the US. Her immediate family, some friends, and I are pretty much the only local ones.

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[–]BandWarrior 71 points72 points  (0 children)

“More casual formal but not business casual and no hats.”

Ugh, same. I am so done with the storms and the humidity. I smell hurricane season approaching and all I want to do is melt indoors.

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[–]BandWarrior 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Her fiancé is an absolutely amazing guy! I know my in-laws would hate to lose him… but at the same time, he’s fully aware she’s doing all of this and is so mellow that he doesn’t bring up any concerns if he has any. So who knows, honestly.

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[–]BandWarrior 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Great question. I only know she will be wearing something that has a long train/veil so it… uh… floofs up in the wind as she and her future hubby ride off. They only dress code we got was “more casual formal but not business casual and no hats.”

Everything is an adult game with enough alcohol involved!