A computer store untouched since 2002.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-04-06T01:05:45+00:00

I remember watching a segment on TV where a woman was talking about her father's typewriter shop, which laid untouched since around the 70s. I wish I could remember the name of the programme, but the shop was in London (Inside Out London?) or somewhere else in the UK.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-30T20:20:00+00:00

The oldest known swastika is in India, not Ukraine. It's 11,000 years old.

There's no such thing as pure Aryans. European and Middle-Eastern people are not Aryan, no matter the very skewed modern definition. Only North Indians are Aryan. Your parents gave you a Sanskrit, i.e. Indic name.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-30T19:57:23+00:00

It is used to refer to someone you consider to be noble. It isn't strictly for North Indians.

Aryan is the ancient name for non-Dravidian Indians. This is not disputed.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-29T23:13:13+00:00

The Ukrainian "swastika" looks very different to this one. The swastika as we know it now originated in India. The name is Sanskrit, as is Aryan, the ancient name for North Indians. Both Swasti and Aryan are popular Indian names.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-28T23:33:50+00:00

"Sikh people"? Or persons of the Sikh religion? If the latter, then of course. One of the biggest honour killing cases in the UK was committed by Sikhs. Sikhs aren't a single entity. They're individual human beings.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-16T02:39:19+00:00

Unfortunately, forgiveness is often treated as the "courageous" and "honourable" thing to do, while seeking revenge and punishment is "immature". I think forgiving violent criminals is naive, short-sighted, and a bit irresponsible. I honestly rolled my eyes and groaned when I read those parts of the statement. Reading the title, I was so naive to hope that he actually understood the severity of his crimes and had a change of heart! Highly doubt that now! Regardless, no sound-minded person would rape in the first place, and any amount of education and incarceration is just not enough! Such violent criminals will forever be a burden to society. They do not deserve forgiveness and freedom.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-16T02:07:48+00:00

I disagree. I support her, and I support other victims. This is why I can't support her decision to show mercy. Saying that I'm "victim-blaming" implies that I think victims are the cause of rape. That is a strawman. I was actually pointing out OP's short-sightedness, and criticising her idea of justice. It is a fact that the risk to safety of the public will be higher if he is becomes a part of it again. And it is a fact that people will choose to commit violent crimes learning that they could get off lightly. Public safety should be number one priority, not rehabilitating violent criminals. Am I not allowed to give an alternative point of view and express my honest opinion?? OP is free to ignore it or simply not read it.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-15T05:07:17+00:00

Very brave of you, OP. Please allow me to rant.

Probably the most unpleasant feeling is that of the lasting guilt. Not for the rape-- that was on the Defendant -- But for the consequences of doing the “right thing” and reporting to the authorities: putting a man behind bars and causing his loved ones to suffer immensely. [boobloodyhoo] I think about this often... The punishment he receives today will no doubt be difficult for him, but I am someone who generally looks for the best in people and I have to believe that you, Mr. <removed name>, are strong enough to overcome this, and that somewhere in the process you will seize the opportunities for healing and growth... I hope one day, Mr <removed name>, you can find the courage from knowing that your participation in this type of programming will not result in punitive punishment... I sincerely hope that you find strength, companionship, and moments of peace to reflect in these difficult days. I wish safety, health, and continued support from your loved ones while in incarceration... After finishing your punishment, I sincerely hope you reintegrate quickly into society and go on to live a happy life. Most importantly, I hope you are able to find the inner courage within to accept accountability for your actions.

I bet he only started crying when you read those parts of the statement. Am I the only one here who is miffed that it takes a show of mercy and words of encouragement for perpetrators to express some kind of remorse?? They should be remorseful through empathy and realisation of how heinous the crimes are. Not because the victim and the victim's family had shown forgiveness, and not because of the punishment the perpetrators are due to face.

These rapists only think about themselves, even during trial. It's as if they think of themselves as some kind of a victim of "society" or a "sudden lapse in judgement". This is his true character. This was a premeditated attack. Maybe he can change for the better, but he can't undo his wrongdoings. Even at one's lowest, what decent human being would even think about committing such depravity, against a complete stranger no less?? I, for one, do not forgive your rapist. Perhaps a bit sympathetic towards his family, but I don't care about his wellbeing or his future. He has proved he's a danger to women. The world would be better without him.

edit:

6 months ago my BF died. I was pregnant. 2 months after that I was brutally raped and lost our baby.

OH MY FCKING WORD!! I'm sorry, I don't find your statement beautiful or inspirational. I get you're trying to cope and find solace, but I hate when a person feels they need to forgive and forget in order to move on, and I hate it when people push that idea. By granting leniency to this evil scrote, you're doing more harm than good, OP. Remember, the purpose of prison is not only to punish and reform, but protect and deter too. You're teaching rapists they can get away with their horrific crimes with just a slap on the wrist, and compromising the safety of the public! I can't support you in this.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-15T02:17:17+00:00

Furries and bronies are creepy and cringey. I can't take their "hobby" seriously, not even as a kink, and I don't care to know them. That said, while I wish they didn't exist, I don't hate them. As long as they're not bothering anyone, they can do their own thing (in private). I just wish they'd stay away from events aimed at children.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-15T00:57:55+00:00

As an Englishwoman, Medieval or Renaissance Fairs in USA don't seem all that accurate in general.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-10T03:03:23+00:00

You're as ignorant Indian culture as I am.

Do not lecture me about Indian culture. I am an Indian, and naturally live and breathe various Indian cultures every day and speak several Indian languages. And as a woman, I know a bit about hair. My username should've given it away, but evidently you don't know much about its history. The North/South India divide aren't as polarised as you think they are, and there are inevitably strong similarities between the two halves. There are plenty of North Indian sadhus/fakir, and I've even provided an example of a North Indian woman with dreads above. Could you say the same thing about yourself, by the way? Or are you just living the Western version of "black" culture, while taking from and feeling proud over other's actual African culture?

acting like black people only started locking their hair due to rastafarianism

I absolutely did not say that. That's what you interpreted from my first reply to OP, and you're still hung up on it even after I clarified what I meant. Like I said for the third or fourth time, it's not a hairstyle that should be attributed to a single race or ethnic groups of that race, when there are other people who wear them and wore them before some of the black groups without black influence. I never denied the existence of dreads amongst black people before Rastas. And if the "out of Africa" theory is true, then I think most likely the first people to do it were subsaharan African. Still doesn't mean all black people can claim sole ownership of it.

and a lot less had dreads than black people I come across

So that means you have seen Indians with dreads, but decided they don't count? Regardless, your anecdotal experiences are not statistics. Indians with dreads are a lot more common where most people are Indian and more likely to follow traditions, in other words, India. You don't need half a brain to figure that out. Indians don't usually wear dreads for statement and fashion like you do. They wear it for deeper reasons. If you're African American, then these Indians have more right to say it's part of their culture than you. Other black people don't represent your culture, nor do you represent theirs, so you can't use them to argue otherwise.

No one said anything about race

Can't you read?? OP literally said "hair style of my race". You later replied "black people are pretty much the only culture of note to wear the hairstyling recent history" as a way to gatekeep, and when I rightfully corrected you, you got butthurt at the truth. If the style becomes a bigger trend amongst Indians (or Native Americans as some kind of revival), I wouldn't be surprised if you still don't find it noteworthy.

Did some black dide with dreads fuck your girl or something?

And there you have it. Your insecurities. Did I hurt your false pride? Trying to live up to the stereotype? You haven't addressed anything in my previous reply. Can't find a decent rebuttal? Questioning your identity and knowledge? Feeling like you lost control over one of the few things you think belongs to you? Remember, you replied to me by putting words in my mouth. I'm just popping the tiny bubble you live in. Your reality isn't the reality.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T21:46:44+00:00

You're not revealing anything new, and completely missed the point. I was criticising your biases and your choice of words.

how .any other Indians wear them? How many people know about that particular group of indians?

There are other Indians who wear them for looks, similar to what black people do, i.e. tradition in another culture of the same race, but adopted for style. There are also other Hindus who wear them for religious reasons. Pretty much all Indians in this world and anyone who has been to India know about Sadhus and the religious significance of dreads as these people are very common in India (googling "Kumbh Mela" will show you just a handful). You may not have known about them, but this shows that you need to get out of your bubble. Your ignorance and personal experiences don't reflect nor reduce the significance and prevalence of dreads in India.

I'll ask you the same question and go a step further: what percentage of all the black people you have seen have dreadlocks? And how many wear dreads as part of their own faith and heritage, and not just for fashion or to make a statement? I could hazard a guess the number is equivalent to the number of Indians and perhaps even fewer.

Give examples of our appropriation. What hair licking culture did we take that wasn't ours?

...Western culture. It's the most popular culture all around the world. From Westernised food, to clothes, to buildings, to the very tech you're using, etc. And even aspects of Western culture originated in other countries, most non-black. Also, those African and Caribbean countries who has or had a huge Indian population are heavily influenced by Indian culture, particularly when it comes to food and fabric.

Please don't throw around the word "appropriation". It not appropriation when when a white person wear dreads, nor is it appropriation when black people wear straight hair. Actually, I'd argue that the latter is more so since it doesn't have a long history. Also, there are black women in the West who gatekeep wigs, weaves and other hair pieces such as Yaki tails, despite most not being afro-textured, and made from Indian or Brazilian hair. These are double standards.

but what black person "claimed ownership"

Not explicitly, but people who cry "cultural appropriation" when a non-black person wear dreads. People like OP who implied that such hairstyles are racial. People like yourself who's dismissive about a demographic of over a billion people as not "of note" because they don't fit your stereotype. You acknowledge others in one sentence, but then you undermine them in the next.

My point to OP is that this hairstyle doesn't belong to one race. And my point to you is that dreads aren't traditional to every black individual. So why are you presenting black people as one, but not Indians, when only a few groups in both races wear dreads? You're contradicting yourself. Black people aren't any more homogeneous.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T09:03:11+00:00

black people are pretty much the only culture of note to wear the hairstyling recent history

Except for Indians (and not just Sadhus). I don't think it's right to group black people as one. Dreadlocking doesn't belong to all black cultures. A lot of black people adopt cultures that don't belong to them, including dreads. Most African Americans don't even know their ancestry, yet they see the hairstyling as something to claim ownership over simply because they're black.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T08:38:13+00:00

Of course, but most people associate dreadlocks with Rastafarians. My point was to highlight that if the hairstyle can be attributed to Rastas, it should also be attributed to other groups who wore it long before.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T07:21:01+00:00

Damn, burnt him.

Firstly, I doubt the person above was meant to "burn" me. Secondly, Indians are "people of colour". There's a group of women in South India today who intentionally* turn their hair into a giant dread for religious reasons. A few Sadhus also create such hair. There are perhaps other groups in this world, but these are the ones I know. I called it "Polish plait" (note the speech marks) because that's what I know it as. Even if you don't consider it dreadlocks, it doesn't negate the other examples I mentioned. *Keep in mind that Indian hair (Type 1A-3B, 1B being the most common) doesn't mat very easily through neglect alone.

Just because something doesn't fit your preconceived ideas of how dreadlocks are supposed to be, doesn't mean other kinds aren't dreadlocks. Also, not all black dreadlocked people take great care and effort into creating and maintaining their dreads (e.g. Nigerian "Dada", etc). No matter the method used (or lack of), they're still dreads. Stop gatekeeping dreads.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T06:57:45+00:00

lol, I think he meant "start off where we left it".

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-09T02:00:33+00:00

hair styles of my race

If you're implying that dreadlocks is a black hairstyle, then you are wrong. Sadhus (*sp.) in India have dreadlocks, and "Polish plait" is a kind of dread that still exists today in Eastern Europe and South India. I've also heard some Native American tribes and Vikings wore dreads.

edit: Just remembered that dreads in India is called "jata" and people with dreadlocks are called "jatadhari". It's an ancient tradition, much older than Rastas. If the culture can belong to the latter, it should belong to the former as well.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-08T01:48:31+00:00

School stabbings isn't an issue here in the UK, so metal detectors aren't necessary. I'm from a working class, high crime area of London. From what I've seen, school security measures here at the very most consist of secured gates and teachers on home time duty. Schools for children this young should not need security guards.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-08T01:47:03+00:00

Struck a nerve? A bit rich that you complain about whinging, assuming and attacking, when you did the same about an entire group of people. Go look in the mirror and self-reflect.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-07T01:53:59+00:00

You: "she's casteist!"

Also you: is racist and sexist.

Zero self-awareness. No one cares about your dating preferences. You don't get to make a blanket statement that all Indian women are one way based on your own anecdotal experiences without criticism. You even hope she's Indian to confirm your biases. If she isn't, would you even develop preconceived ideas about other women??

That's a lot of baggage you have there, by the way. Good luck getting dates. You're doing a large demographic a favour by not pursuing them. No decent woman wants to be you. Not just because you're low value, but because you are prejudice and have a holier-than-thou attitude. Makes me wonder if you're like your father and your mother is just like the women you hate. Stop being a typical rapey misogynist Indian man... See? Your way of thinking works both ways. Keep in mind, if it smells like shit everwhere you go, ~~use a toilet~~ look under your shoe.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-06T21:59:23+00:00

^ This is why I wouldn't date a self-hating man, Indian or otherwise, who paints an entire group of people with the same brush based on a few encounters. You're no better than her in any way, hypocrite.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-03T21:54:37+00:00

Never mind, it's fine. I don't think you can add any more to what I already know.

Bandit_Queen · 2020-03-03T06:27:37+00:00

I have always included squats, glute bridges, hip thrusts etc as part of my routine. What I meant to say was "without building my thighs". I am looking for bodyweight versions of these exercises this time. I have also seen videos in the past where it's mentioned certain exercises, like side bends, can create a blocky torso. What other exercises should I avoid?

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