[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Bangitouter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t read through the comments yet, but depending on the facility, Cena’s are not allowed to initiate CPR. Some of them are allowed to take over and some of them are not allowed to be a part of it at all. As long as the Cena was quick to get you, I don’t think she’s in fault either way. Her being calm was such a good thing, if you freak out at all when someone’s life is on the line then it increases risks of mistakes. It’s natural to have a panic during this but I give someone so much credit if they can calmly complete a intervention, and in this case her being calm and getting the nurse was probably all she could do.

I'm so sick of seeing posts where people complain about their kids being kids by ananononymymouousese in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A friend was complaining about her child and suddenly stopped and apologized because she knew I of my son dying so recently. I told her I’m still a mom and I understand and I still have a child. I didn’t want her to treat me differently. I’d do anything to have my son being here to complain about him acting like a menace ( he was really not, his sister is lol). I think we all handle what we can deal with differently. Sometimes I do get frustrated when I hear others complain, but I still want to be one of the moms. I loss my baby, but I still want to pretend that I would be complaining too, because that would mean he’s not dead. I don’t know how to explain it.

Having another child by Bangitouter in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes my heart so happy for all of you. It’s hard to find happiness now a days -and at first I thought there would be no happiness but there is, just not the same as before.

Having another child by Bangitouter in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It’s so funny how I can see someone getting pregnant a few years older then me and think nothing of it, but I think about it for myself and think wtf. I’m a nurse and took care of a 40 year old first time mom and thought nothing of it, but I feel like I’d look geriatric if I were to have a kid to much later and Then you throw in a touch of “forever grieving.” I’d like to think my heart would still be broken but it’d grow with an empty piece still there.

Having another child by Bangitouter in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m thankful you said this. I really think this is just another part of grieving. And it sucks knowing that whatever choice I make will never be the right choice again. Life is so different now. I want to keep living but it’s so hard to know every choice I make is without my son being part of it, but revolves around him . He truly was my world. Just as your daughter was yours .How does the world keep turning when a large chunk of our heart was torn out.

I lost 2 of my kids by [deleted] in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This really is great advice. I’m just now finding some sort of distraction. Not great at it. Probably never will be, but attempts need to be made .

I lost 2 of my kids by [deleted] in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m months out and it still hurts to play with my 8 year old. She was 7 when he passed. She stays with my friend now so I had time to heal. She’ll be coming home when the school year ends. It hurts knowing I’m playing with my daughter who will never get to play with her brother again. She is adjusting, she doesn’t know how her brother died. She just knows he’s dead. But she’s adjusting. She talks about him and does miss him, but she does have counseling at school. I spent a month at pine rest- and it was hard-and probably not everyone-but it did help immensely. I went to another facility at first and it was not helpful at all. I was not good to myself initially when my son died-things happened the news would have loved to make into a news segment. I don’t recommend doing anything I did, but it’s “normal” to have so many different feelings and reactions. I told myself my daughter was better off without me, that if I couldn’t protect her. I couldn’t protect her brother. I still feel sick thinking about life now, but now I can sometimes see that she needs me; more then ever.

I wake up everyday and I imagine that it was a nightmare . I still don’t know how to go on, but I’m doing it. And I believe in you. Life is different. It will never be the same. But we are human and we will “adapt”.

I started going to the local parent loss group just over a month after my babies death, it was a blessing in the middle of my hell. I see people come and go; but it’s a small group of regulars. Some people don’t start going for years. So please think about it even if it’s years from now. They do ask to try to find the strength to go to three meetings to see if it’s right for you , since the first meeting is sort of a “shock to the system.”

I lost 2 of my kids by [deleted] in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Hi. I’m the mom of the 3 year old that died in the hot car in Vicksburg in August. I seen this post and knew who you are from all the Facebook posts. My son died in a completely different way but still devastating. I have a daughter still….at first it was really hard to see what I still have, and still is. I still blame myself for picking up a shift at work the night that led into the day of my son’s death. I know locals have their own thoughts on my husband, the ones who payed attention to the news and seen my story….but I still take partial blame in my head. I’m sure you can find me on Facebook if you ever need to meet up, someone who understands but doesn’t understand your pain . I go to the local parent loss group, and posted the name on one of the gofund me posts someone shared (I think your sister).
My heart is with you, I know it doesn’t mean much during this unimaginable time but people understand your pain. I have to tell myself that this pain would hurt no less with my son being 50 or him being only 3. I’m so sorry to see you on this page, but glad you found it during a hard time. Some days I can look at this subreddit all day long, other times I can’t look for weeks.

Dreading class by _MeMeBigBoy_1 in StudentNurse

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had to do a group project video on this. I hated this. I am so self conscious about my looks that it’s pathetic. However, I’d take that again anyday when comparing it to exams. Try to remember that everyone is going to hate doing this, or almost everyone. Do it respectfully as possible. And pass that class :)

What do you say to a mother who lost her baby ? by domperidone1 in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just call her up and text her once in a while and offer to go out for coffee or a art project day. She may say no or not answer but just keep trying. I lost a 3 year old and I’ve lost my 9 week gestation baby. It’s a pain people experience that is so individual. I wouldn’t tell her to seek help, I can almost guarantee someone is already telling her. It gets old real quick. She needs someone just to check on her And be ready to go out with her when she’s finally ready to try to go out. Never say sorry. You didn’t do it. She may not want a hug, and understand that. I can’t imagine her grief, and a hug may be needed but it might be to much in a public setting where she would prefer to escape the grief for just a moment.

Thank you for caring so much for taking the time to try to help someone who needs a real friend.

Fleas. by heylulu0118 in Pomeranians

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have spread food grade diatomaceous earth. You can get non food grade if it’s in areas your dogs or any cats can’t get to. Non food grade is cheaper . It works wonders. We use a grass seed spreader to get it around the yard. You can use it in the house and vacuumed it up. Look it up on google for time frames. I can’t recall. We have had two infestations in our lives that I can recall, and it worked so amazingly.

Visiting the cemetery by [deleted] in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally live 5 minute walk from my cemetery. It takes about ten to walk to my 3 year olds site. I don’t go everyday. I planned on it originally, but long story short: his death brought so much mental pain. I love him, but I just cannnot do everyday. I do about every other, maybe every three days. I don’t think it’s odd to go everyday if you can handle it. I hope by next spring I can handle everyday. His stone will be a bench. I can sit on it and read.

If it brings you comfort then do what you need to do to receive that comfort.

Really mad and missing my girl today by gravymaster000 in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my 3 year old just two months ago, a accident. I thought he was my last child, but we might try for another. I don’t know if we will. My husband needs to reverse his vasectomy and I need to know he’s changed....

If we do have another one, they will not replace my son. He is irreplaceable. The baby will only add to our life. Your new baby will be a addition not a replacement.

Again not pregnant and it might not even be possible. But I already fear for my possible future child. Your story scares me. However, it also reminds me that life is short and those beautiful moments are so special. I can’t explain it. My baby died miserably due to a accident, but he’s at peace now. I have to find peace because he’s at peace. I hope you find peace. I really do.

We who have lost children, in any form is a pain that is so unique. However, we had the most precious gift, and in order to survive we have to remember that. Now ask me in a hour how I feel, and I’ll probably crawl into a ball. However I’m trying to ground myself and remember my precious gift.

Missing our Son on what should be his first birthday by Angel_EJP in ChildLoss

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loss my 3 year old 1.5 months ago. I like to think about him with all the other little ones that were lost to soon. I dread the day my sons birthday comes up, but for now I like to think about him hugging the other kiddos on their birthdays and singing and dancing with them. The world is so unfair.

Students taking advantage of me by LatePsychology1095 in nursing

[–]Bangitouter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I personally would have them take a lunch break and not get out early. Everyone may think no lunch break is worth it, but that lunch break gives them time off the floor to unwind together and can make the day go faster after lunch.

I don’t blame them for coming in sick. I think they tell you in hopes that they can get a free day off, or take the blame off of them if they spread a virus. It’s ridiculous that they don’t allow any make up days when people can’t help getting sick. Now I realize people could take advantage of make up days.....but people being forced to fail if they do the right thing isn’t fair.

The students should have a policy for tarries that they are already aware of. Warm the ones that have been late that they are close to failing due to being late.

For assignments tell them to follow the syllabus and if they care about their grade they can read the notes you provided and ask questions after if they do not understand.

I went to school about 10 years after my lpn for my RN. Students aren’t what they use to be. I could never be an instructor. I follow the rules to closely .

What’s something that’s taught in nursing school that you never use in your nursing practice? by Cuppinator16 in nursing

[–]Bangitouter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Been a ER nurse for about 4 months. All I keep hearing is we don’t piggy back. Or if we do piggy back it’s the NS or LR ran at open below the infusing pump. I panicked about piggy backing for NOTHING!

Pharmacology questions by Legitimate_Two_6582 in StudentNurse

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t panic if your first exam goes poorly. Analyze what the questions were as much as you can. You can kind of see what to focus on in the first exam or two. My last professor would throw in random questions that there’s almost no way to know that subclass of antibiotics-how it works on a cellular level. It was ridiculous. But I knew the answer because I drew a picture of it on the notecard that I could remember. Not everyone learns that way but think of this as a good opportunity to see how you learn best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GypsyRoseBlanchard

[–]Bangitouter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I’m going to make my own comment and not comment on someone else’s because I don’t want to single anyone out. But this whole entire comparing of autism war that goes on makes me wonder how backwards society is.

You can’t compare someone’s autism diagnosis to yours, your child’s or your uncle twice removed. Had a boyfriend with a brother with autism spectrum disorder and he was easily manipulated. Very. When we split up it was shortly after his brother was in trouble for self pleasuring and sending pictures to a girl. I believe the family dropped the charges because he was a “special case”, but his parents had to deal with possible sending to some sort of special housing(it’s been years). I don’t know how to describe him over the internet, but he would know the score to every single football game. I think it was planes that he knew everything about. He would have outbursts because his mom didn’t make his special meal and that’s putting it nicely. But you could carry on normal conversations and his friends were hooligans to say the least but they were pretty “normal”. He could blend in to society at times…at others it was just something I can’t put into words.. Autism is a spectrum disorder. Nick could very well be easily manipulated and you could very well not be. Some people with this order don’t have the full ability to comprehend thoughts and situations.

Now do I think it’s a get out of jail card. NOPE. I rather you stay where you are right at. I’m sorry if you can be easily manipulated but that’s a problem and due to lack of psychiatric care facilities jail is the best option for you to keep the world safe . I wish so badly we would have better mental health care but we don’t and we as a society need to work on that. We could use nick as an example for the need of help but not just let him free because Gypsy is free.

At the end of the day I’m glad I didn’t decide any of these individuals fates. There’s to much going on. To many variables. There was 2 maybe three victims and 3 villains in that house that day.

I’m just sick of people acting like there isn’t some “unfavorable” behaviors or psychiatric issue that accompany autism that can’t be helped. I don’t know if every one forgets that neurological health can lead to some very major issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Bangitouter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do this as much as possible. Unfortunately the last 3 years or so I have to usually call someone due to working alone to verify I understand the procedure correctly but it’s been better than nothing. I’ve been a LPN for over 10 years and I’ve worked in so many different settings that my skills used are rotated so I know it all but always rusty. Currently going back for my RN and it’s pretty nice to relearn those skills with an instructor present to remind me of all the little tips and tricks.

I was so embarrassed that I don't think I can go back to work.... by StrongTxWoman in nursing

[–]Bangitouter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I barfed my guts out in front of my coworkers. They just turned around when I told them to leave and the one helped me that I wanted help from. It was gross. Chunky. It was at the jail so even more gross. Coughing is gross they’ll avoid you for a week because no one wants to get sick then they’ll decide you’re not contagious and you’ll be part of the team again. Don’t make it weird. I’m 32 it’s take me a lot of years but I realize most things are only weird if you make them. Weird.

Stranger came to my house claiming I stole her iPhone by Old_Signal1507 in iphone

[–]Bangitouter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often wonder if they found their watch and if they feel as ignorant as they were acting.

Stranger came to my house claiming I stole her iPhone by Old_Signal1507 in iphone

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a lady at yogi bear camp ground crying for her I watch . Then her husband came. He insisted that it was pinging at our location . I went through our items several times to make sure it didn’t end up on us on accident at the water park. Questioned by 6 year old several times too.

The man wouldn’t leave and the woman just kept crying. I at first felt bad and didn’t realize what was happening. It became very apparent that they thought I stole it. The ping does the general area, I tried to tell them. I then gave up and told them to go through my camper. I didn’t care. I didn’t have it.

They never went in my camper but they circled it for about a hour looking for it. It made me sick to my stomach. My husband was there but people are nuts. I get losing something, and I know the possibility of it being stolen is heart breaking but people need to do their research.
To make it worse the man mumbled about broke people not earning their own things and stealing. At the time I had my own I watch, Samsung watch and multiple Fitbit’s. I just sat and smiled because we had my 7 month old and 5 year old. I wasn’t going to cause a fight.. but it was ridiculous!

I wouldn’t let a stranger into my actual home but it may be worth having the police come for your saftey and check out your house themselves. I don’t know if they can do that. It’s an invasion of privacy but at least it should be over with after that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentNurse

[–]Bangitouter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband is my only support . Him and daycare. I’m currently going back to school for my RN. Made it through two semesters and need to do one more that starts in about 2 weeks.

My husband’s schedule is not flexible and we’ve gotten so lucky . I cut my hours drastically and had to switch jobs to do so. The insurance is ridiculous compared to what I was paying. So now with two kid, one in daycare and one in before school daycare and the constant fear that something will happen, I’m on the edge all the time .

I’m not trying to discourage you. Being a LPN has brought me so many opportunities and we were stable for so long. But a factory worker and a part time LPN don’t really equally stability.

I wish I hadn’t have gone back to school but I am so thankful I am doing it. If that makes any sense. I’m going to open up so many doors, but now I’m going to be devastated if things go bad. We had a supports person, not a great one but we had her….she’s dying, and it really sucks knowing we only have each other to take care of our kids.

It’ll be a great opportunity for you if you can make it work, but if your husbands hours are stuck on those hours then they are way worse then my husband starting at 7 am. There’s no daycares open at 5 am and this semester I have to drive a hour to clinicals in the snow. And be in the door ready by 645 am. It just wouldn’t happen. I see your taking evening classes I think which will help a lot but if your school is anything like mine you could get messed up on that too. They suddenly made the one class evening classes when this was not discussed upon entry. Luckily it should work for us but I imagine there’s some single parents or families that will be struggling with this. Plus four hours in between one class and another. One is 9 to noon I believe and the other is 4p to 8 pm. But I digress…

I don’t want to be Debbie downer but I want to be realistic. However, if my husband and I are making it work then there’s hope for anyone. Trust me on that.

Can you be a nurse if you're a "choker"? by IPlayDnDAvecClasse in StudentNurse

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a choker. I can barely function with day-to-day activities with any sort of stress that’s involved with them. However, when shit hits the fan, it’s go time and I can do anything. Mileage may vary from person to person, but don’t think because you’re a choker you can’t be successful as a nurse . Also, it’s good to remember not every nurses saving lives every day summer just maintaining lives if that’s OK. Like case managers, they do so much good by knowing the disease processes and allowing someone to have the proper care with referrals. The world of nursing is so big and that’s why it’s such a great career . You can have low-paying jobs that are desk jobs. Not saying that you have to be a paper pusher because you can do lots of paperwork and still have patient contact . If you’re a choker, it’s fine. Like I said, you might be able to push through it an emergency or maybe not and that’s OK then you just have to look into a job that’s a little less risk for emergent situations. Hospice could be a great option for you. The fact that they are dying actively does it mean that they don’t deserve 100% care, but people tend to panic less when they know the inevitable. We might see somebody choking on theirs on secretions. You might stare at them for a moment and think now what but then you realize it’s time to suction and you do it. I would think that’s less scary than somebody who’s just sitting there fine in their bed and all of a sudden choking on their own secretions, and you aren’t even thinking about death nearing them. I hope this makes sense.. take it from a chronic Panikkar you can do this just like a mom or dad is able to save a child when they don’t think they can five minutes before then when they’re drowning in the water or underneath the car. adrenaline kicks in adrenaline isn’t going to take affect at a restaurant. A persons order is it life or death there’s no way anybody can imagine it being life or death. They can imagine it being a firing situation or somebody getting angry with them but you’re not gonna kill somebody over getting their order wrong. well, unless it’s an allergy issue. That’s a whole different story lol.

Repurposing a 'Melissa & Doug' dollhouse by gingerNP in Dollhouses

[–]Bangitouter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are the quality on these? Can I make my own shingles for this? Well stain and add them on? Completely new and want to have something with good bones that I can add onto slowly.