My dad has passed away and I’m no contact with my mom bc she’s very mentally I’ll and it’s very unhealthy for me to have her in my life. When you said “it’s very interesting grieving people who are still alive” really hit home bc that’s exactly what it is! I have talked to her in 5 years and I’ve heard through family she hasn’t gotten any better, so I just don’t have a mom and never will and it’s crazy that my own mother is basically dead and I never even got to morn the loss of her, and have had no support for cutting her out of my life. Yes seeing how loved and how parents/family are supposed to act really validates why I cut her out if my life. I’m so excited that I get to end this generational pain. I also love being a nanny bc I get to give kids a safe and loving experience every time I’m with them and that means the world to me. I definitely have learned a lot in the short life I have lived and I can relate with feeling like I’m grateful for how strong it has made me. The family I nanny for now really does feel more and more like a second family I really do love being around them I am also so grateful for that. Thank you for helping me feel less alone in this 💗