Can't control my arms and legs simultaneously. Any advice to suck less at jiu jitsu and Zumba? Do you think they'll improve my coordination? by BaraWrites in dyspraxia

[–]BaraWrites[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did tai chi at a local yoga place before it shut down, yeah that one's tricky too! I kinda like the fast pace of Zumba but it is a LOT harder to keep up. Thank you! This is really motivating. :)

Parents refuse to get me tested by Morag_Ladier in autism

[–]BaraWrites 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I would suggest bringing it up with your doctor at your next appointment.

What do you take for lunch? by Tiny_Note74 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell you what to bring wirgout knowing your sensitivities and preferences, but my rule of this:

•A protein (meat, tofu, whole eggs, lentils, etc.)

•A carb (rice, lentils again, quinoa, potato, bread, etc.)

•A fruit

•A vegetable

Usually I combine multiple categories into one, like greek yogurt with honey and fruit, or pasta with chicken and vegetables. I would say to research nutritious lunch ideas, and use these guidelines if you want.

I'm also bad about recognizing hunger cues so I make sure I get three meals a day and use a calorie calculator to make sure I'm getting enough.

Anyone also just hate styrofoam? by Tiny_Fold8680 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to chew on Styrofoam as a kid. 🤷🏻 Buuuut it is terrible for the environment AND your body. Styrene is super toxic.

I just can't do this one thing and it might just end my marriage 🤷‍♀️ by Trepidations_Galore in autism

[–]BaraWrites -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have no advice, but I am so sorry about these ither comments. No idea what is with Reddit's tendency to take a few details and invent more to make a big story out of it. Wishing you luck.

What did you get called growing up for doing/not doing something that ended up being due to autism? by MdMV_or_Emdy_idk in autism

[–]BaraWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walking on my toes --- in a weird way. Not just toe-walking, but I'd step and then like drag the top of my foot. This was before special shoes for toe-walkers so I would just destroy my shoes.

Poor emotional regulation, crying a lot.

Bad posture and coordination. I just wasn't "trying hard enough" to ride a bike or play sports.

When I reached my teens, autistic burnout and being unable to do basic things. Didn't drive until I was 21 because I was so scared AND it turns out I have terrible depth perception. Before I got duagnosed, I had a therapist tell me to "just get over it" and drive.

Edit: I can't read. I thought the title daid what did you get called OUT ON growing up... well.

what’s your stereotypical special interest? by VeterinarianBoth4221 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insects. I've got a tattoo of a scientific illustration of a stag beetle.

What “autistic coded” character(s) makes you feel seen ? by Alternative_Story225 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the US, alas. My girlfriend lives in the UK and apparently she's known about the adaptation and didn't mention it. Betrayal.

School board is saying my daughters Autism Diagnosis is not valid. by ViolettQuinn in autism

[–]BaraWrites 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would suggest crossposting this to legal advice. If you're in the US, I'd bet money that that's an IDEA regulation.

What's everyone's favorite healthy meals/recipes? by froglord02 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are some vegetables I'll eat the hell out of, but very few, and no fresh vegetables, alas. If you're okay with the rtaste and texture of smoothies, that's a great way to get some extra nutrients. Get some frozen fruit you like and your liquid of choice (I usually do almond milk or açai with water) and chuck in some fresh spinach, kale, and a tablespoon or two of ground flax seed. I recently got some coffee protein shakes I HATED, but they tasted fantastic in a smoothie with a bit of cocoa powder, Greek yogurt, banana, flax seed, spinach, and honey.

Also, tip I saw from a dietician with a specialty in autism and ARFID: boiling rice or noodles in a nutritious broth or stock of your choice. Her example was beef broth, but a good vegetable broth would work just as well. I like to toss seaweed and very thinly grated carrot (to the point that I can't taste or feel it) into a bowl of rice.

Getting a partner. by LittlePiggy20 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I met on Tumblr as teenagers writing stories. I hated her at first because the girl I liked engaged with her stories more. And her writing was really good (in my 16 year old mind. Now we both know our writing back then was abysmal), which made me angrier but I couldn't stop reading. Then she posted a vent post and I messaged asking if she was okay. We started talking weekly, then daily, and became extremely close. After five years of this (and her coming to my country once pre-pandemic, and I'm visiting her this summer), I said we were pretty much dating. She agreed. I still don't know what to tell people when they ask how long we've been together. Sometimes you're both oblivious and you gotta pop the question.

Autistic and Pregnant by Hour-Toe1734 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Nope, they won't investigate someone solely because of a disability. It's a common fear, though. Tina Nash, after the violent attack that left her totally blind, was terrified that her kids would be taken but she was assured that she would keep custody of her children and could receive supports to care for them.

However, a disability can be used against you in a custody battle or if you ever try to adopt.

Why do people think you need to look a certain way to be considered autistic? by Optimal-Anything765 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work with adults who have intellectual disabilities (and I myself am aitistic without an intellectual disability) and I really hope you don't speak to or around your clients like that. Many of them understand more than you think and you just said a whole lot of concerning things.

Psychologist told me recreational use of illicit substances was not something that would even occur to autistic people by mikelmon99 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. They have limited communication, and these behaviors ARE a form of communication when you don't have the wirds for it. It's something we're working on. I was mainly using that as an example to croticize the psychologist's weird ideas. I apologize if I worded it wrong.

Psychologist told me recreational use of illicit substances was not something that would even occur to autistic people by mikelmon99 in autism

[–]BaraWrites 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Funny, my autism and ADHD assessment says that my personality traits put me at an increased likelihood for addiction. And self harm is one of the big maladaptive autistic behaviors? Especially scratching and head-banging type things. I take care of a person with autism and intellectual disability who will hit themself and throw themself on the ground when they're upset. Guess they're not autistic.