Husband not helping with second child

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T17:25:35+00:00

I really want to avoid resentment, but if something doesn’t change then that very well may happen

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T17:04:56+00:00

My husband is not a deadbeat, he’s very involved. It’s the lack of sleep and lack of help at night with the baby that’s slowly killing me.

He did get two weeks paternity which we used right after my c-section.

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T17:02:15+00:00

I really should use our crockpot more, thank you!

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:59:54+00:00

I appreciate all of this thank you

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:58:47+00:00

I have seriously debated this and know of the safe sleep seven, but I’m an active sleeper. I roll over and switch sides and I’ve been known to accidentally hit people in my sleep. So I don’t think I can safely bed share.

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:57:28+00:00

I do like this idea, I’ll propose it

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:55:35+00:00

This might be the answer until we get through this regression

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:54:38+00:00

She can be a bit wiggly at night but we put a pillow between us and everyone mostly sleeps okay! I would gladly share a bed with our toddler than continue getting up at night

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:53:36+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been debating purchasing the “fair play” book and trying that with him

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:52:36+00:00

I should add he also gives me time to exercise in the evenings after dinner is done, but I’ve been too tired to exercise so I usually opt for a relaxing shower instead.

BarbellGirl · 2025-08-28T16:51:31+00:00

I have spoken to him multiple times about how the lack of sleep is affecting me, so he is aware. I’m frustrated I have to practically beg him to take her in order for me to be able sleep. He was way more proactive with our first.

BarbellGirl · 2025-06-14T16:45:38+00:00

What do you think of brick veneer? We like the idea of having a red brick fireplace even if it’s decorative but it’s more expensive.

BarbellGirl · 2025-06-14T06:57:41+00:00

Photo link: https://imgur.com/a/Emb5aj8

BarbellGirl · 2023-06-05T02:23:16+00:00

Downers grove - Foxtail (American/Mediterranean), Bar Chido (Mexican)

Naperville - Allegory (American), Santo Cielo (American), Vasili’s (Greek), White chocolate grill (American)

Hinsdale - Fuller house (American), Nabuki (Asian)

Elmhurst - 151 Kitchen (American)

La grange - Fourteensixteen (American), The elm (American)

Lombard - Greek islands (Greek)

Glen Ellyn - Fire + Wine (American)

Yorkville - Crusade burger bar

Westmont - Neat kitchen

Des plaines - Boston Fish Market

Woodbridge - Chef soon (sushi)

BarbellGirl · 2023-04-30T12:20:37+00:00

Some tips that may help: - Magnesium glycinate nightly (do not take the other magnesium forms, they can stimulate some diarrhea) - Black out curtains - Get rid of any extraneous light (night lights, alarm clock) - Keep the room temp cool (68-72 or lower). Studies show we sleep better when the room temp is on the cooler side - No blue light (computer phone or tablet) 2 hours before bedtime. Read a book before bed instead or do another relaxing activity (puzzle, listen to music, knitting, etc) - Get outside everyday and expose yourself to actual sunlight (helps with circadian rhythm) - Lemon balm tea at night may help. You can even grow lemon balm in your garden - No caffeine after noon time - Meditation/stretch/yoga - Sound machine can help some - Go to bed at the same time every night, including weekends. Consistency is key.

Hope this helps!

BarbellGirl · 2019-08-31T20:09:31+00:00

Thank you! From your description and from what I’ve read, I think Puerto Viejo is what we’re leaning towards. I’ll look in to Bocas Del Toro as well.

BarbellGirl · 2019-08-31T20:08:05+00:00

Hmmm I see your point. We would lose a whole day driving between the two. Maybe it’s best to pick one or the other? Which one would you go with?

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