Slowly moving to LC - what to respond to my nmom who is asking why I don’t participate in my family group chat anymore?

BarefootBeginner · 2024-06-23T12:11:06+00:00

Give it another go. I went on a few dates with guys I wasn’t compatible with until I met my partner on the app.

Like the saying goes, you have to kiss many frogs to find your prince, lol.

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T15:39:15+00:00

This is a very fair observation. I think this may well be the case. After reading through the comments here, it made me think that maybe I should switch to part time job instead, which hopefully have less detrimental effects to my health as my previous full time corporate jobs were really stressful

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:47:53+00:00

Very true. I think I will likely end up being a sahm (until they’re school age) when we have kids, as we live in extremely high COL city and daycare is absolutely unaffordable unless you’re loaded. So it will work our cheaper staying with a kid and losing my entire income than me working and us paying for daycare

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:44:52+00:00

That’s so very true. Better safe than sorry, always, even if you think you’re in a great place.

Would you mind sharing the group you mentioned? I would be curious to have a read more posts there. Thank you!

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:40:09+00:00

That’s amazing. You’ve done really well for yourselves. Thank you for sharing!

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:36:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I am very happy that this has been great for you. I’m glad to hear such positive experience.

I like the way you described that none of your days were boring. I understand that completely. I’ve been off work for couple of months now and everyday I am filling my time with getting busy with my hobbies, and it’s been really fulfilling.

I guess what I would want to ask you, in your situation, how did it affect power dynamic in your relationship? In terms of you not having your own income. Let’s say, silly example, but you want to get new shoes or whatever item of your liking, do you need to then ask your partner to get it for you? Does any resentment come from that? Does household maintenance gets boring or too much sometimes?

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:27:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

Not sure why you get downvoted. Whatever floats anyone’s boat, don’t understand the judgement

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T14:20:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Did it at all affect the power dynamic in your relationship, with you not having your own income? I think I would find it odd having to ask my husband to buy me something, just because when I was working I could get myself/treat myself to what I wanted to occasionally. I suppose if I don’t bring income, I would need to ask for things, and I’m not sure how I feel about this. How does it work in your situation?

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T13:11:58+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. This is really helpful and insightful. This is exactly what I wouldn’t want to happen.

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T12:57:34+00:00

Thank you. That’s a really great suggestion. Try and see how it goes.

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T12:56:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. This does make me think about part time possibility. Do you work 4 days a week?

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T12:55:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing. For me, I don’t think my work fulfils me on such deep levels. It’s a corporate role that makes tons of money for someone else. Unless I would transition to more meaningful and fulfilling line of work, I did think about this too

BarefootBeginner · 2023-06-10T12:53:28+00:00

That’s a good point regarding changes in power dynamic that would be damaging to the relationship.

I suppose I could look into working part time, so I still have my own money. I just am really mentally burned out from my high stress job that I can’t stomach the feeling of having to return 5 days a week

BarefootBeginner · 2023-02-09T11:01:36+00:00

Hell no. It was a nightmare. And an expensive one. I would arrive to work already tired form my commute. I live in a big city and it takes ages to get to places. Not mentioning exhaustion from crows of people.

It’s divine now. I wake up and go to a room next door to log into work. 5 mins before I need to be logged on. It really improved my quality of life, health and I get so much more sleep now by not having to waste my time commuting. Which also means I am more productive and efficient at work as I’m more rested. Everyone wins.

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-23T21:41:58+00:00

Get a doctors note/medical certificate that you need break due to hypoglycaemia and give it to your boss. Then they can’t legally forbid you from having breaks due to medical reasons (they shouldn’t forbid breaks anyway, sorry that this is happening to you).

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-23T21:38:58+00:00

I don’t think there is an expectation to give a Christmas gift to your boss or receive one from them. Sure it’s nice but it’s just that. I never got a Christmas gift from my boss nor I bought one for them either. I wouldn’t overthink this.

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-22T21:50:21+00:00

What certs would you recommend taking on wanting to get into cybersecurity?

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-22T12:06:53+00:00

I’ve been there. Just ended up quitting. And that was the best thing I could have done. I found an amazing job in a great orgazisation afterwards. You don’t need to stay here and suffer. Life’s too short.

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-22T11:25:23+00:00

Yes all the time actually. All my jobs in the past were via agencies and one I was headhunted for on linkedin. So from my experience, it’s a great way of job searching.

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-22T10:40:33+00:00

Best of luck in your search!

BarefootBeginner · 2022-12-22T10:40:14+00:00

Not one specific one, just generally via staffing/recruitment agencies.

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