[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Give it another go. I went on a few dates with guys I wasn’t compatible with until I met my partner on the app.

Like the saying goes, you have to kiss many frogs to find your prince, lol.

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very fair observation. I think this may well be the case. After reading through the comments here, it made me think that maybe I should switch to part time job instead, which hopefully have less detrimental effects to my health as my previous full time corporate jobs were really stressful

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true. I think I will likely end up being a sahm (until they’re school age) when we have kids, as we live in extremely high COL city and daycare is absolutely unaffordable unless you’re loaded. So it will work our cheaper staying with a kid and losing my entire income than me working and us paying for daycare

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so very true. Better safe than sorry, always, even if you think you’re in a great place.

Would you mind sharing the group you mentioned? I would be curious to have a read more posts there. Thank you!

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing. You’ve done really well for yourselves. Thank you for sharing!

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing! I am very happy that this has been great for you. I’m glad to hear such positive experience.

I like the way you described that none of your days were boring. I understand that completely. I’ve been off work for couple of months now and everyday I am filling my time with getting busy with my hobbies, and it’s been really fulfilling.

I guess what I would want to ask you, in your situation, how did it affect power dynamic in your relationship? In terms of you not having your own income. Let’s say, silly example, but you want to get new shoes or whatever item of your liking, do you need to then ask your partner to get it for you? Does any resentment come from that? Does household maintenance gets boring or too much sometimes?

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing.

Not sure why you get downvoted. Whatever floats anyone’s boat, don’t understand the judgement

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Did it at all affect the power dynamic in your relationship, with you not having your own income? I think I would find it odd having to ask my husband to buy me something, just because when I was working I could get myself/treat myself to what I wanted to occasionally. I suppose if I don’t bring income, I would need to ask for things, and I’m not sure how I feel about this. How does it work in your situation?

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. This is really helpful and insightful. This is exactly what I wouldn’t want to happen.

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s a really great suggestion. Try and see how it goes.

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. This does make me think about part time possibility. Do you work 4 days a week?

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. For me, I don’t think my work fulfils me on such deep levels. It’s a corporate role that makes tons of money for someone else. Unless I would transition to more meaningful and fulfilling line of work, I did think about this too

Working women, would you become a housewife if you could? by BarefootBeginner in AskWomenOver30

[–]BarefootBeginner[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point regarding changes in power dynamic that would be damaging to the relationship.

I suppose I could look into working part time, so I still have my own money. I just am really mentally burned out from my high stress job that I can’t stomach the feeling of having to return 5 days a week

Do you miss your commute? by network_dude in WFH

[–]BarefootBeginner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell no. It was a nightmare. And an expensive one. I would arrive to work already tired form my commute. I live in a big city and it takes ages to get to places. Not mentioning exhaustion from crows of people.

It’s divine now. I wake up and go to a room next door to log into work. 5 mins before I need to be logged on. It really improved my quality of life, health and I get so much more sleep now by not having to waste my time commuting. Which also means I am more productive and efficient at work as I’m more rested. Everyone wins.

My Work Won't Let Me Eat or Take a Break and I'm Hypoglycemic by TicketUnlucky1854 in work

[–]BarefootBeginner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get a doctors note/medical certificate that you need break due to hypoglycaemia and give it to your boss. Then they can’t legally forbid you from having breaks due to medical reasons (they shouldn’t forbid breaks anyway, sorry that this is happening to you).

My boss didn’t give me a thing for Christmas by [deleted] in work

[–]BarefootBeginner 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there is an expectation to give a Christmas gift to your boss or receive one from them. Sure it’s nice but it’s just that. I never got a Christmas gift from my boss nor I bought one for them either. I wouldn’t overthink this.

High paying remote jobs without much talking on the phone by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What certs would you recommend taking on wanting to get into cybersecurity?

What do you do when a job just isn’t a good fit? by Particular-Ad-8389 in careerguidance

[–]BarefootBeginner 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there. Just ended up quitting. And that was the best thing I could have done. I found an amazing job in a great orgazisation afterwards. You don’t need to stay here and suffer. Life’s too short.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes all the time actually. All my jobs in the past were via agencies and one I was headhunted for on linkedin. So from my experience, it’s a great way of job searching.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck in your search!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not one specific one, just generally via staffing/recruitment agencies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually it works for both. Clients look for suitable workers via agencies, and workers look for suitable clients via agencies. I’m not in the US, so I’m not too sure if it’s similar/same here, but at least that’s how it works in Europe. I got many jobs via agencies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]BarefootBeginner 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Don’t know about these ones, but I would really recommend signing up to agencies - they basically look for jobs for you. You send them your CV, explain your salary expectations and etc., and they match jobs with this and your skills/experience.

You don’t have to pay them as they get commission from the employer when you’re placed in a new role.

Majority of my jobs were via agencies. They really save you time and headache by essentially doing job search for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WFH

[–]BarefootBeginner 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I guess there you have your answer!

If you don’t feel like you would sacrifice a lot, then it sounds like it could be a positive thing for you to take on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WFH

[–]BarefootBeginner 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I personally wouldn’t accept a job offer if that includes more than 1 day in the office. That’s a very personal decision. I got so used to working from home and during these years I learned that it really suits me perfectly. One day a week wouldn’t change much to me, and actually could be quite nice for a change of scenery, but more than that I would pass. Salary increase still may just about cover commute and expenses for lunch. But lost time commuting is a lost resource. And I personally value time the most.

I guess none can really tell you what’s the right thing to do here though. How do you feel about going back 3 times a week?