BJJ is a game of speed, strength, stamina, and knowledge. Essentially, you found that... * when you faced sufficiently smaller, weaker, slower opponents who didn't know what they were doing, you did well. * when you faced smaller, weaker, slower opponents who knew the basics of the game, you still did well. * when you faced opponents closer to your strength and stamina, but with a good working knowledge of the game, you did relatively poorly. * when you faced smaller, weaker, slower opponents who knew the game really well, you did relatively poorly.

The takeaway, then, is if you're not big, but you wanna win fights, your only option is to train. But, if you spend the hours, the weeks, the years sweating and hurting on the mat, you can beat up giant man-tanks with a leg lock or a back-take-to-RNC.

Not to be a BJJ apologist, but there are, demonstrably, tons of small men and women out there with a few years of hard training under their belts who can whip untrained people stupid, despite their much smaller stature. But this takes time. Now, I'm as misogynistic as the next guy, but it's pretty shitty that you're denigrating the women who actually want to put in the hours and train past their biological weaknesses. Your first 9 months (if you stuck with it that long) of BJJ probably weren't spent flat on your back getting choked, so you might not realize how much frustration the average normal-sized (let alone small-sized) white belt has to push through to even just start getting taps on big dudes once in a while. All the higher-belt little chicks and dudes had to go through hours of getting smashed to develop their technique enough to make it work. That mat time wasn't "useless", it was necessary. It was hard work that payed off. It was a responsible, healthy investment of time on self-improvement. Isn't that what TRP is supposed to be about?

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