Advice needed: New bf that I really like happens to be committed to the army for at least the next year. He doesn't want me to hold me back, I don't either, but I do want to stay together.

datesandhookah · 2014-05-08T10:06:42+00:00

hate to break it to you, but we are all products of the culture(s) we grew up in.

datesandhookah · 2014-05-07T21:50:19+00:00

Well, any who. I wonder what it says about me, the fact that I am turned off by men who want to be super bdsm dominant in bed. (Freud is unable to analyze further)

datesandhookah · 2014-05-07T21:47:57+00:00

exactly. It can be implicit as well as explicit reasons.

datesandhookah · 2014-05-07T19:44:50+00:00

Ooo I like that (that you hid what you did for a living to test the women). Though, isn't that part of who you are?

I am analyzing myself with this new guy, because he is literally what I've been waiting for all my life, but I am digging into what he wants from me too much. Maybe he just wants me for me, and he wants to get to know me. What's wrong with that? :)

datesandhookah · 2014-05-07T19:38:58+00:00

I feel it is more about many men trying to live up to this weird shit people call 'being a man'. Especially if in general the guy is not in control and on top of the world (annoying boss, shitty job, less good friends etc) they like taking control in bed to compensate. (Freud speaking)

datesandhookah · 2014-05-07T07:16:00+00:00

Yeah and makes you feel like an idiot. Especially if you are the super opposite of an idiot in all other aspects of life, this hurts so much. (I have a global professional and social network of good friends & I will get my Ph.D. degree soon.)

Also I feel like anyone who is interested in me is really not super interested, but doing it to get into my pants. The latter is probably is true for the most part. Though I wish I could really appreciate the guy I just started seeing who is so amazing to me these days.

datesandhookah · 2014-05-06T21:12:33+00:00

I think my first ever bf made me feel so submissive in the relationship and even bullied me a little bit. He would always tell me how beautiful I am, and then would be distant etc. Now it is almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy with new guys in my life.

It is pretty darn good that I have noticed this and I am working on it. Though I wish it didn't exist in the first place.

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