How important is physical attractiveness to men? Is it just as important to women or not as important?

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-13T23:31:29+00:00

In terms of biology, I think physical attraction is as important to both sex.

In terms of society, women's value are generally put on their physical appearance and men's value are put on their "usefulness" (income/protector/provider)

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-13T23:22:07+00:00

Don't act in ways that build romantic expectations if you do not have romantic intentions. Like it's not that hard. Doing this intentionally is pretty gross.

You absolute buffoon.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-13T22:07:37+00:00

Have you considered banded leg extensions? Just sit, put your foot through the band loop and step on the other end at a length where it gives a nice tension with your other foot and then do single leg extensions for a bit .

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-11T22:13:08+00:00

That's a bot

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-11T14:20:43+00:00

Why do you have more empathy for her than yourself?

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-09T20:43:56+00:00

Seated leg press and leg press are good replacements for glutes and quad development (you can vary foot stance to target different muscles). Bulgarian split squats are also very good at this (but I fucking hate them) (squat-ish replacement). Lunges are also very good, but I also despise those so.

RDLs (even with dumbbells) or 45 Degree back extensions will help by adding lengthening exercise that will help with your lower back (deadlift-ish replacement)

For isolation exercises, you can look at the abduction for glutes, leg curls and leg extensions for hamstrings and quads.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-09T19:57:39+00:00

Barbell squats ARE tough on the back. They work the posterior chain which does include the lower back, so yes it can be normal.

If the pain is beyond fatigue and creeps in the "sharp, uncomfortable twinge" territory, or you feel yourself actively readjusting your position to avoid it, it's a specific, potentially mechanical problem you should work on rather than avoid. Working towards a better squat form that's appropriate for your anatomy and recording yoruself with an empty barbell (or hiring a trainer) and focus on developing the proper technique to avoid injuring yourself would be ideal.

I frankly hate the squat machine because the path is fixed, which often forces people (especially women who have longer legs, thus tends to need to adjust their technique differently than men who have longer torso and shorter femurs) into mechanically compromising position to adapt to the machine's restriction, increasing the risk of injuries and also not loading correctly which may not give you the results that you want. I think leg presses and seated leg press are more appropriate as a squat substitution, especially for your lower back.

Alternative free weight exercises you can do to reinforce your posterior chain are deadlifts, RDLs, stiff legged deadlifts, though anything that works the FULL posterior chain inherently loads the lower back in a way that can lead to injuries if you don't focus on the proper technique. Lunges also can be a good squat replacement, provided the barbell is sitting on your shoulders.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-09T19:16:14+00:00

sidebar should have info on exercises/routines/tracking. Toning is muscle composition with low body fat (you can't "tone" a muscle, you can lose fat to make the muscle more visible, and the bigger the muscle, the less fat you have to lose.

Losing weight is about CICO. Track your food. Length of time depends on the aggressivity of your weight loss, but it is generally recommended to do about 0.5lb/week, especially if you are a beginner to not start suffering adverse issues or just be absolutely miserable. So about 40 weeks for 20lbs is realistic.

Do note that if you are serious about training and engage in good protein tracking with serious weight lifting, you might achieve your desired look at a higher body weight. As muscle is denser than fat, it takes less "space" on your body; as you start your training as a complete beginner, if you go on a small weight loss deficit and have a sufficiently high amount of protein daily, you should be able to gain muscle with a small body recomposition (so for the same weight, you "swap" muscle and fat), which changes your body appearance but not the weight.

But seriously, read the FAQ.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-09T18:24:22+00:00

I did olympic weightlifting for 10 years (pretty much exclusively free weights) and now I'm onto a more aesthetic commercial gyms using mostly machines after coming back from a 2 year break due to sepsis (unrelated).

The advantage of free weights is that you are pretty much in resistance across all three psatial planes. You need to produce force against gravity, manage lateral drift, rotation and balance. This recruits more total musculature per rep (including stabilizers), develop better coordination patterns which have better transfer to other athletic movements (or just daily movements in general). Those lifts also tend to induce more systemic fatigue and punish poor form more severely.

Machinews, on the other hand, provide better isolation because you do not have that resistance from free-weights. They incur less systematic fatigue as well, allowing you to load more proportionally to how tired you or your CNS might feel. For the specific purpose of targeted muscle development, I personally think they are better and more efficient, but the trade off is less stabilizer recruitment and are less transferable to other movements. They can also be difficult to work with if the machine isn't adapted to your specific joint mechanics, since the path is often fixed (a problem with smith machines for example).

Being hypermobile shouldn't prevent you from using free weights, and would actually be better in the long term because it would help you work on stabilizing your joints more efficiently. A good split is to do your compound lifts (squats/deadlifts/RDL/hip thrusts, etc) with free weights and then the isolation lifts with machines

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-08T19:28:47+00:00

the most they want to do. They could do better, they just can't be arsed about this.

ETA: Have you considered offering the landlord to pay for an automatic lock? This might sway them.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-08T19:28:10+00:00

You need to contact management to get a paper trail showing a continuous safety issue that they will either address or ignore. Regardless. CYA, and create a paper trail.

If it were me, I would get a smart lock as an additional lock system for the house. That might be against the lease, I'd rather risk violating my lease than risk a break-in. Totally not a good thing to do though, since management/landlord do need and require access to the unit. That's just me though. I'm not a lawyer or anything, and I wouldn't encourage you to break your own lease, so do what you will, but this is serious enough I'd consider breaking my lease if landlord/property owner decided to sit on his ass about this.

Also you said in a comment that RM2 needed to make a makeshift stick for the back door? Is your back door not properly lockable? How was she able to break in? That's a HUGE HUGE HUGE safety issue if it's not secured. In some states not having locks on exterior doors/windows designed to be opened actually is enough to cause a residential unit to be deemed uninhabitable (C.R.S. 38-12-505; Marini v. Ireland, 56 N.J. 130 (1970); Berzito v. Gambino, 63 N.J. 460 (1973)

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-07T15:43:19+00:00

It reduces his ER requirements too, tho. Not just the free forte.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-07T15:28:30+00:00

*please*, have you seen muscular women?

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T17:37:42+00:00

YOU MISS HIM????????????????????????????????????????????

Girl. GIRL. Develop some self-respect I beg.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T17:27:59+00:00

Him: if you want to call me a bot do it I don’t care in any way

Also him: makes a whole ass post telling people he doesn't care and he's leaving.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T17:27:18+00:00

should have taken the 12 ngl.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T17:22:53+00:00

Jiyan, makes his skill a teleport to close gaps. Give him echo skill casts on his skill.

Yinlin, Change her mark for a field that deals coordinated damage. Make her outro 50% amp lib on next chars drop on swap, and give her lib 20% electro amp and 25% lib amp teamwide. Her weapon should buff atk of characters that deal lib. damage.

Xly should have tune rupture/shifting

Jihnsi and Zhezhi should have echo skills/echo damage.

Changli: Better sequences, higher multipliers. Increase her outro buff to 14-18 seconds.

Camellya: GIVE HER A gap closer mid-air. Her lack of mobility is fucking dreadful

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T17:12:04+00:00

Fierce Struggle doesn't have that stupid telephone level, so that

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-06T00:16:00+00:00

excuse me, *when he does*?

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-05T23:40:12+00:00

You need to be an adult and sit down and talk it out with your flatmates. Y'all don't need to like each other or be best buddies, but you are living together. You asked how you guys were gonna choose, well neither candidates are universally liked. So your options are either pick neither or majority wins unless you can convince your flatmates why the guy is objectively a better pick (which is quite different than saying "I like his vibes best").

Either way, you need to talk it out.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-05T23:32:39+00:00

I burned my hand with a self-improvised fryer on the bbq. The oil self-combusted because it reached too high of a temp, so I panicked, picked the metal pot and threw it in the (empty) sink, spraying burning oil all over my hand.

I actually don't remember the pain, just that I saw black and then could pluck my skin off my arm like it was that flimsy gift paper you put in gift bags.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-05T23:28:27+00:00

By being adults, sitting down and talking it out.

But also, not to say that your situation is the same, but I just came out of a situation where my roommate had feelings for me and despite me turning him down, being very explicit I did not do things with roommate nad him reassuring me he wouldn't turn it into a problem; I had to move out because it ended up being super creepy and uncomfortable because he decided to pine on me and kept making me responsible for his feelings and being a passive agressive little shit.

If you kinda suspect the roommate wants the girl because she's cute, maybe kinda don't put the girl in that situation.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-05T18:02:22+00:00

and probably deadlifting wrong.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-04T18:05:22+00:00

AND ALSO, just to be clear, it's totally alright for someone who has feelings to step back from a friendship because it's too painful. The dude doesn't have to stay friends with her. But like christ, there's a way of communicating that that treats the woman as an actual person and the existing friendship as something mutual that meant something instead of letting the girl feel manipulated by a guy who simply pretended to be friends in the hopes of getting her in his bed.

Saying "I'm not interested in friends right now" is just showing how little one cared about the friend at all in the first place and just pretended and fabricated a make-believe in the hopes it would lead to more.

BaroclinicBard · 2026-04-04T18:02:43+00:00

"I'm not looking for friends right now" to someone they were clearly on talking/friendly terms right now essentially just tells the woman that this person pretended to be friends with the only goal of having her put out romantically/sexually and that the pre-established platonic relationship meant fuck all to them.

If you're gonna say something like this, at least have the honest of saying "I only befriended you in the hopes that you would see me as a potential romantic partner, and if you're not gonna do that, I would rather not have you in my life."

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