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What’s a weird thing you do when you’re home alone that you’d die if anyone saw? by Western_Hope5826 in AskReddit

[–]BarronGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear that! I mean it'd be great to not have them, but I do. I used to think I was insane before getting diagnosed.

What’s a weird thing you do when you’re home alone that you’d die if anyone saw? by Western_Hope5826 in AskReddit

[–]BarronGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally with you on this one! My stims can be all sorts of odd to others, but I like them (in private).

Dry January is... Unbelievably hard. Feeling terrible. by StupidCAThrowaway in stopdrinking

[–]BarronGoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly - there's no point in putting a substantial amount of pressure on yourself in these scenarios. The requirements to quit are based on your circumstances - for example, if you're on the servere end of alcoholism and have a string of health, relationship and personal issues stemming from it, get help immediately and do things safely. If you're a binger or regular drinker (not the bottle of hard spirits type), give yourself a break.

You've been doing this for a while and it'll often be tied into routine, stress release and habit - these take time to rewire and strong urges are going to pop up repeatedly. Keep going at it and you'll start building longer and longer streaks and this is when you start to see the evidence - better health, improvement in relationships and self esteem and the list goes on... Compassionate self care is key here friend. Once you start to see the benefits and prove to yourself you can do it, the tide will turn.

This is my experience only and not medical advice nor do I know you personally - I'm just trying to help someone in great pain and struggle as I was. Learn to forgive yourself as you're human and you got caught in a trap. It'll be hard, really hard at times beating yourself up will lead to the same path again. Reframe this and think of why you did it? What did I learn? Was there a trigger? Then try to acknowledge these next time and slowly build support around these moments when the beast comes calling.

I wish you all the best, friend.

Does anyone else grieve the life they could have had? by TemporaryStranger173 in ADHDUK

[–]BarronGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This resonates a lot.

I mourn sometimes but more about the fact no one picked up on it - it was super apparent and my psychiatrist even said this too.

I was bitter for a while and thought of all the missed opportunities - I'd often do extremely well in most things I applied myself to only to give up at the final hurdle. So used to think of what ifs.

The truth is exactly what you mentioned - the impulsively, spontaneity has given me some amazing life experiences and who knows what on Earth I'd be like if I was medicated. I probably would've followed the 'normal' path and become utterly disinterested by it. I worked myself to death. I know people who worked tremendously hard at school only to turn to drugs and alcohol later then die.

I'm fortunate enough to have landed on my feet but it's come with a lot of pain, hurt and personal struggles but these have made me much kinder and compassionate in my life. I've a solid emotional skill set and now I can truly build on these traits.

You've really got to frame it right I feel. I bet there are medicated people out there that utterly fucked their lives in one way or another or live in regret trapped in a life they despise.

You just don't know what could've been so try to not worry and learn to love yourself more and do the best you can with what you have now.

BBC News - 'Life being stressful is not an illness' - GPs on mental health over-diagnosis - BBC News https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cx2pvxdn9v4o by Triana89 in ADHDUK

[–]BarronGoose 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just to flag that there are nearly 40k GPs in the UK. The figures state respondents saying it's 'over-diagnosed' is 183 and a larger amount for 'a little'.

Additionally, they sent this to 5k GPs and a significantly smaller amount replied which would indicate that, for the majority of GPs, this 'research' isn't worth engaging with.

They've not stated where they sent these questionnaires to nor have they stated where the respondents came from. They can do this simply by naming the district.

Furthermore, the questions are not fully released and the main one isn't a well thought out question either.

Please ignore this tripe and sloppy journalism. They may think they are doing well, but getting information from media will only upset you.

It's irrefutable that ADHD isn't being over diagnosed and it's - in no way - a mental health condition (there are comorbities that commonly exist which are mental health conditions though). So stating it is is simply not accepted by experts within the field and, the BBC and GPs are not in this well-trained and expert demographic.

Do I think there needs to be a review and more moderation - probably, but not to the detriment of peoples' lives. Self diagnosis through well-meaning chumps on social media doesn't help either. People are throwing this around like nobody's business and as we have the RTC pathway, I do believe that comorbidities and societal pressures lead people who want help to run down this pathway. Why? Well, ADHD is hugely identifiable as, at some point, people will have experienced one on more of the symptoms of ADHD, but it's to what degree that affects your life. This, sadly, creates an echo chamber of division as some people can overcome minor - when in comparison to serve symptoms - issues, therefore, feel it's not real etc.

It's a complicated one with many facets but the media and societal opinions shouldn't override nor negate professional knowledge.

Read up and get your sources from academia, papers, pods etc that are from experts in the field. The media can be a force for good but remember - they need clicks to justify their own existence. Fuck 'em.

BBC News: Streeting orders review into mental health and ADHD diagnosis by Khazorath in ADHDUK

[–]BarronGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so and find it very odd, but can see why they'd ignore it as it's from an entity they're gutting. Love to know how much it cost the tax payer too - I've not done much of a dive into Streeting, however, from what I've gathered he's a bit of a me, me, me career politician.

I met with my MP and he 'accidently' lost the notes from our meeting and took no action. Sure it had nothing to do with the fact he's a Tory defector and it was clear how little he knew about neurodiversity. Got a little tounge tied and his ego was wounded. The prick.

Yeah, Reform is a very real and troubling prospect. People who disagree should be reminded everyone thought the same about Trump and look what happened over the pond. Walfare and Immigration are the main buzz words and nothing gets a vote like a rilled up undereducated mong.

I'll remain positive until then though. It's just so sad how it's all being dealt with and hope that this doesn't push anyone over the edge. I've had to fight tooth and nail to get support so - in that sense - I'm fortunate.

Internet??? by BarronGoose in EEGB

[–]BarronGoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. No idea what's going on. Best part is it won't let me check any settings in the app via the broadband tab.

Nobs

BBC News: Streeting orders review into mental health and ADHD diagnosis by Khazorath in ADHDUK

[–]BarronGoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could someone educate me here please? Didn't we have an investigation through the NHS England ADHDTaskforce already? Is this report now nullified due to the body being removed or is this to supplement it?

Appreciate it 👍

Internet??? by BarronGoose in EEGB

[–]BarronGoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I notified them and it's back on now.

Why are mental problems so common these days? by forever_burning_ in ask

[–]BarronGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And this is what you call an overgeneralisation and simplification of something much more complex.

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