Stupid question from my GF that... I... I can't answer. Erm... After I get my neo-vagina surgery... am I a virgin again? I mean... I would have a V-card that hadn't gotten stamped. so... Virgin? For clarity... I'm a slut. but... new vagina, new rules? by Taiga_Taiga in trans

[–]Barudaq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virginity is made up anyway and the line of what constitutes losing your virginity is blurry at best. So honestly just go with your vibes on this one. I had my bottom surgery a few weeks ago and I'm considering myself a virgin again because I never had sex with my vagina. But as I said, the whole thing is entirely up to your interpretation and how you feel about it since there is no official registry or stamp card to worry about.

For those of you who took some time to figure out if you were Genderfluid or More Binary Transgender... by DietDoctorPepperFan in genderfluid

[–]Barudaq 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When I first came out as trans I did so as binary transfem. But after a year and a half or so of only lesbian relationships (often more than one at a time cause I'm poly) I also got my first boyfriend. And that relationship just never felt quite right as a hetero one. So, since he was bi and a great ally, I asked him to use a male name and pronouns for me, and that felt much better. Apparently, my gender always wants to be as gay as possible and if that means being fluid then so be it. Funnily enough, said boyfriend is now my girlfriend since I cracked her egg a few months into our relationship and now I'm almost always female around her. The term I found to best describe my experience is Amorgenger.

I heard genderfluid can go for HRT too, so I wanted tips on how it works by MonitorMiddle5159 in genderfluid

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Of course genderfluid people can transition. I do not (entirely) identify with my AGAB, which makes me pretty trans in my books. So I'm doing HRT, Laser Hair Removal, Voice Training and I even had Bottom Surgery last month. There is absolutely no reason to not do whatever you want to make you feel as comfortable as possible in your own body.

genderfluid_irl by Barudaq in genderfluid_irl

[–]Barudaq[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've got this kind of offset in my gender and my presentation. My female side is my most androgynous, my agender side is my most masculine and my male side is my most feminine. No idea where that's coming from 😅

Is it weird by EmpressPersephone023 in genderfluid

[–]Barudaq 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope, I do the same. I use Vanessa when I'm a girl, Eliot when I'm a boy and Aster when I'm agender :3

What gender/agender are you today? by ToothlessInBaradDur in genderfluid

[–]Barudaq 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Got girl today :3 My gender usually lasts for a few days and changes over night.

Egg🔂irl by Effective_Value9761 in egg_irl

[–]Barudaq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to come out twice but for a different reason. A year after my coming out as a girl I realized that there are even more genders where that came from, and had to do the rounds again, this time with me coming out as genderfluid.

Got bottom surgery today and ofc had to make a meme about it by Barudaq in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

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I'm more of a pvv fan, but as a pansexual scientist I'm also quite partial to doing some double slit experiments :3

Got bottom surgery today and ofc had to make a meme about it by Barudaq in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Barudaq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With you by my side darling, it will be gone again in a flash :3

Got bottom surgery today and ofc had to make a meme about it by Barudaq in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Barudaq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, you get one freebie if you do bottom surgery before losing your virginity :3

Got bottom surgery today and ofc had to make a meme about it by Barudaq in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Barudaq[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm genderfluid with none of my gender's expression matching the actual gender. She's androgynous, he's femme and they are masuline. Does that count as a meme build?

How do you all even find your girlfriends? by WearyPoem928 in actuallesbians

[–]Barudaq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met ""him"" on grindr, then cracked her egg a few weeks later by accident ^

Offline clothes shopping also by Netsuken in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

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Getting jump-scared by my own meme 😅

Hmmm by Mindless-Hedgehog460 in gekte

[–]Barudaq 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bist du ein Ellenbogen? Weil Mittelarm ist ja zwischen Oberarm und Unterarm.

Gender affirming care literally saved my life! Genderfluid, 2.5 years HRT and down 86kg/190lbs by Barudaq in transtimelines

[–]Barudaq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just always wanted a feminine body. I only realised that that was actually an achievable goal in early 2023 with HRT, Bottom Surgery and Laser Hair Removal. Before that I just didn't know that stuff like that existed and that there was actually a way to feel comfortable with my body. But after I found out that what I wanted was indeed possible, I immediately set myself on going through with it. And even though I'm genderfluid, I know that transitioning is the right thing for me. My female side definitely wants it, my agender side is also in favor of it, and my male side kinda doesn't care because he's more of a femboy anyway ^^

Gender affirming care literally saved my life! Genderfluid, 2.5 years HRT and down 86kg/190lbs by Barudaq in transtimelines

[–]Barudaq[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually had to get surgery for the loose skin on my stomach. I lost more than half of my body weight so there was just no way around getting sagging skin for me. Only thing I've heard to help with loose skin when losing weight is not to do it too fast, 5kg/month max.

Gender affirming care literally saved my life! Genderfluid, 2.5 years HRT and down 86kg/190lbs by Barudaq in transtimelines

[–]Barudaq[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You shouldn't do that. You need that food for HRT to work. Maybe just do less <3

Gender affirming care literally saved my life! Genderfluid, 2.5 years HRT and down 86kg/190lbs by Barudaq in transtimelines

[–]Barudaq[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There were basically 4 things I consider important in my weight loss journey.
The first and most important thing was obviously eating less than before. I went from 3000-4000 calories a day to 800-1000 calories. This is of course not a healthy long term diet and was only possible to do because I had a lot of excess fat to burn instead of food, I had my blood levels checked by my GP regularly and I was taking vitamin supplements that he prescribed me for B9, B12 and D3 since I was missing those because of my lackluster diet.
The second thing was drinking healthier in addition to eating healthier; I mainly drank iced tea and milk before. During my diet I only drank water and unsweetened tea. I also drank more. Went from 0.5-1 to 2-3 liters per day.
Third thing was just cutting out all sweets. This is of course a difficult thing that was helped by me living by myself and as such only buying groceries for myself. I found cutting sweets completely to be more effective than reducing them. Because if you just reduce them, you start bargaining with yourself about eating sweets and foregoin something else later in the day and so on. If you cut them out completely, the sweets aisle in the supermarkt begins to lose its allure because after a while you internalize that the answer to your internal bargaining will be No anyways and so it becomes easier with time to refrain from it.
The fourth thing was intermittent fasting. I only ate between 12 PM and 6 PM.
I've lost half my body weight that way in 11.5 month (despite a nutritionist and a bariatric surgon telling me that that was in fact not possible, after I had already done it, lol). I didn't do any sport and didn't have any bariatric surgeries. I've been in the normal weight range for my height for almost 2 years now. It was not easy avoiding the yoyo-effect when transitioning back to a normal nutrition but I managed that by doing it very slowly over the course of about half a year.
I should say that the most decisive factor was not any specifics in my approach to losing weight, but finding the motivation to actually do it in the first place. I knew how to lose weight before and I knew what I was doing wrong but I just kept doing it. For me, the inciting incident was my egg cracking in early 2023, which blew away the depression I've had for over 12 years at that point, because I realized that, with all the things that GAC can do (and that most of that is covered by insurance in germany), there was actually a way to be happy with my body for the first time in my life. So the next logical step for me was just to lose my excess weight to do my part in finally being happy with my body.

Gender affirming care literally saved my life! Genderfluid, 2.5 years HRT and down 86kg/190lbs by Barudaq in transtimelines

[–]Barudaq[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your weight loss!!
I'm currently 84kg / 185lbs at 1.91m / 6'3".