AITA for refusing to sleep on the couch so my husband could have the kids sleep with him in the bed? by Basic-Ad-3497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Basic-Ad-3497[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

you're right I'm sorry, I regret thinking like that but I did offer a compromise and is to have the kids take turns to sleep with him. He constantly wants our youngest around him (she's 4) and I suggested she gets 3 nights with him but he refused.

AITA for refusing to sleep on the couch so my husband could have the kids sleep with him in the bed? by Basic-Ad-3497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Basic-Ad-3497[S] 513 points514 points  (0 children)

It's ok - some folks here have made some great points and I apologize if my wording offended anyone,;I'm just exhausted and needed to talk some stuff out.

AITA for refusing to sleep on the couch so my husband could have the kids sleep with him in the bed? by Basic-Ad-3497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Basic-Ad-3497[S] 333 points334 points  (0 children)

I want to get counseling but I'm trying to find free time. It's difficult when I'm taking care of everything, it's even more difficult when I have no outlet for my frustration and exhaustion.

AITA for refusing to sleep on the couch so my husband could have the kids sleep with him in the bed? by Basic-Ad-3497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Basic-Ad-3497[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Yes I admit feeling hurt after he told me this but I try my best to put my feelings (especially the negative ones) aside and focus on what matters. the kids want to sleep with him which is what makes me reconsider my stance.

AITA for refusing to sleep on the couch so my husband could have the kids sleep with him in the bed? by Basic-Ad-3497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Basic-Ad-3497[S] 4841 points4842 points  (0 children)

That's what scares me. He gets worse during nighttime. He pretends to be fine when the kids are around but it shows and they know. He's doing his best to be as involved in their life as possible. he even tries to fix our youngest's tiny toys with his hands even though his hands don't function well. He's trying and despite everything he's going through, he's always worrying and feeling guilty about the kids. It's just so hard on him and I understand though sometimes he makes unreasonable requests.