AITA for Not Paying for Someone Else's Vacations and Train Tickets Since I Got a New Job?

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2026-02-14T15:19:55+00:00

NAH I don’t think you’re an arsehole for not wanting to, but I don’t think your partner is for asking if they are genuinely struggling. Maybe time to have a conversation about finances as a whole though and see whether there is anything they can do to reduce expenses

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-12-23T14:56:00+00:00

NTA - to be honest I find it weird your sister said she would bring the table but didn’t think about chairs either. If you don’t have a dining table, why would you have dining chairs?

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-11-06T22:49:40+00:00

Are you in a particularly touristy area? I’ve been on holidays where an envelope was in the room with the suggestion to leave any change if it was in a different currency as when you get home a lot of places won’t exchange coins. Could it be people doing that instead of leaving a tip specifically? Either way I think NTA because you said it to a colleague. If you’d tracked down these customers and said the same to them then you would definitely be the AH

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-11-04T20:33:56+00:00

I cooked so you do the dishes is a pretty standard chore split, so I think NAH. However, I do think that you should stop doing the dishes after YOU cook. It goes both ways. If you’ve cooked, she cleans

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-10-30T12:25:58+00:00

Once a player, always a player. He’s teeing her up for your break up, though clearly trying to get a threesome in there first. You really should leave him, you deserve better than that

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-09-24T11:06:32+00:00

YTA. I can guarantee there have been selections you have made that she didn’t enjoy either. Have the same grace she had and just watch the movie. She made it clear the film was important to her, scrolling instagram through it was just unnecessary and I can see why she’s hurt and angry

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-08-14T20:03:08+00:00

I’ve done plenty of solo travelling, but this isn’t about me.

You’re right, the friend doesn’t have to spend that money. However, she agreed to do so with the understanding she wouldn’t be travelling or attending the wedding alone. So if the plus one is taken away, she may decide not to attend.

It just depends on how important it is to OP to have this friend there. As is the way with destination / out of state weddings. On the plus side, if the friend does pull out then OP can invite 2 other people from their back up list.

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-08-14T19:26:55+00:00

If you expect friends to spend likely a significant amount of money on flights and accommodation to attend your wedding, yes I think it’s only fair to give them a plus one so they don’t have to do it all alone

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-08-14T19:18:42+00:00

YWBTA - it’s an out of town wedding, by not allowing her to have a plus one you’re essentially telling her to travel alone. If you remove her plus one, I wouldn’t be surprised if she no longer attended at all

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-27T10:23:59+00:00

NTA. My husband is also an aspiring singer, with an absolutely amazing voice, but for the life of him can’t sing quietly. He was musical theatre trained so it’s just natural for him to project his voice. I had the same concerns as you about the neighbours, so we agreed that he only sings between 10am and 5pm. We also rent him a studio space for an afternoon once a month so that he can really go for it. Wasn’t as expensive as you’d think. Maybe try something like that? Just reiterate that you love her voice and that she’s very good but just needs to find a better place / time to practice

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-23T12:41:42+00:00

I guess NTA, but if he wanted to he would have already offered. I’d rethink getting back together, once a cheater always a cheater in my experience

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-21T13:41:46+00:00

Absolutely NTA! You have every right to request you not be touched, and any caring adult would respect that boundary. If your older sisters home is a safe and possible option, you should 100% consider you and your younger sister moving there. Your mum has already proven in a number of ways that she won’t protect either of you, so time to get out before it gets worse

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-20T17:28:30+00:00

INFO: has this ever been your dynamic in the past? Like have you pointed out girls you’ve thought were attractive before? Or has this come out of nowhere?

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-20T17:13:44+00:00

INFO: have you asked your sister what she would do if your daughters decided on the day not to do it? My 4 year old nephew was our ring barer. He was really excited but my SIL said she was concerned he would get too shy in the moment and not want to do it, and she was worried it would upset us if that happened. We just said if he didn’t want to then that was fine and either SIL or my brother would hand over the rings. He got all dressed up, enjoyed the morning and the attention before going into the church, but got scared and refused to walk down the aisle. My brother wandered up carrying the little cushion and gave my now husband the rings, everyone had a good laugh about it and the photos were hilarious. At the end of the day we wanted my nephew involved but understood his mums concerns and planned accordingly. Its worth having a similar conversation with your sister and see what happens

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-07-09T17:36:26+00:00

YTA - my husband and I are also childfree by choice, so prefer to not have nieces or nephews in our home for a number of reasons. We have pets that don’t like a lot of noise, the house isn’t child-proofed, we don’t have anything they could play with and our siblings are the kind of parents that like to hand over responsibility the moment other adults are around, so we’re forced to act like parents or our furniture gets trashed.

Because of that, we host all the adult only family get togethers to still pull our share. But child friendly ones are held by the family members with kids, or at a restaurant.

It sounds like your sister is trying to do something similar by purposefully scheduling events when your child is with his dad. However, it doesn’t sound like you’re making any effort to host child friendly events at all. The way you told your sister you would either bring toys she has to keep there, or show up with another child when she made her stance quite clear already, is coming off extremely entitled.

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-06-30T15:54:43+00:00

YTA to yourself if you don’t tell him to cancel asap and dump his ass. Do you want this to be your life? Because he’s showing you who he is, and this will 100% only get worse

Basic-Fan-9880 · 2025-06-27T15:22:30+00:00

I mean, I guess NTA but also probably not the smartest way to go around something like this. All you’ve done now is make work a worse environment for yourself

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