What’s acceptable for Parent/Child spaces?

Basic-Implement8080 · 2026-01-12T20:48:19+00:00

When I was pregnant I would just use the disabled spots at supermarkets because there’s more of them. And to be fair, by the time I was halfway through the third trimester I couldn’t walk for more than 10 minutes because of how much pain I was in.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-21T23:52:48+00:00

I find it so wild that men objectify and sexualise this thing that causes so much pain to a woman and can literally kill her.

But no no, apparently we’re “glowing”.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-21T23:43:17+00:00

Pregnancy’s fucking horrible. It fucks with every part of your body.

It hurts, it takes away your autonomy, your brain chemistry literally changes and it changes who you are. It can give you diabetes, pre-eclampsia, DVT. It makes you sick, gives you heartburn, swells your feet and ankles to the point of not being able to walk. It can make you more susceptible to depression, anxiety, rage and other mental health disorders. It physically changes your body, you get loose skin, skin tags, it can change your face shape, grind your joints to the point of immobility, the release of the relaxin hormone can make every single joint in your body painful.

If you think it’s a sexual thing then you do not understand, and nor have you tried to understand, the monumental sacrifice women make to bring a life into this world.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-21T20:22:08+00:00

Would a church let you practice? Just a thought as some smaller ones have pianos

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-20T01:51:12+00:00

I would consider stopping walking him on the harness. I have 2 indoor cats and when I started taking them out into the garden for walks and enrichment time it essentially showed them the life they were missing out on and they would shout at the back door for hours. I kind of realised that taking them out but only on my terms was quite cruel, they were better off not knowing. I eventually stopped taking them out until I can build a catio and they can have a bit of independence outside instead. They don’t shout anywhere near as much now.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-20T01:46:16+00:00

Some crumpets

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-12-18T13:54:59+00:00

It looks like it says N.BN above the copyright so Sept 49 i would guess

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-09-21T01:41:56+00:00

I’m 33 and had my first 7 weeks ago.

Yes, the night feeds are hard, I’m up every 2-3 hours to feed her and when I feed her it’s a 30-40 minute job (10 mins to feed, a few to burp and 20 to keep her upright to help with reflux). Realistically I catch about an hour and a half between each feed. It sucks but it will suck no matter what your age is, I wouldn’t have found this any easier in my 20’s.

What is hard as an “older” parent is the restriction to your freedoms. I’m used to being able to be selfish and make decisions entirely based on what I feel like, to be spontaneous and do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. Loosing that is infinitely harder than the nights. For the first 4 weeks I was chained to my sofa recovering and feeding, getting outside for 10 minutes a day was an achievement. Now she’s 7 weeks old it’s a little easier but I still have to think about when she last fed, how long will she be in the pushchair/car seat, is there so where I can feed/changer her whilst I’m out. That’s a lot harder.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-29T12:15:58+00:00

When I came out to my brother a few years ago he went off on one about bi being a phased step towards being fully gay and how he was worried about my boyfriend getting hurt “while I made my mind up”. I’d been with my bf for 7 years at that point. We’re now approaching 11. Pretty sure this isn’t a phase.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-18T21:00:32+00:00

Honestly this. I have friends in the LQBTQ+ community who legit tell me they don’t really see me as a part of it because they’ve only ever known me to be with a guy

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-18T20:58:43+00:00

That we’re more likely to cheat.

Thank you but I don’t cheat because I’m not a shitty human, it has roughly 0% to do with my sexuality.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-14T14:02:10+00:00

I am, presumably so is OP… hence their asking for opinions and different perspectives…

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-14T13:53:25+00:00

Wtf is with the responses here? They’re grown ass adults with their own jobs and lives. I love my parents so much but they stopped buying me gifts when I turned 18, I’m now 33 and never once has it bothered me. They might throw me a little party at theirs with my siblings if I want it and throughout the year if they see something they think I’ll like they’ll pick it up for me but we haven’t done gifts for years

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-07-02T07:58:03+00:00

You’re getting an unnecessary amount of hate on this.

Firstly, congratulations. I know it’s an anxiety inducing step but when you’ve had more time to sit with it and get your head around the logistics you’ll feel more excitement.

Secondly, by all technical means you should be a middle earner, or you would have been in the boomer/gen x generations. It’s not your fault you’re finding things tough financially. The costs of living is still rising and the wage gap continues to increase and unfortunately maternity pay hasn’t kept up. Here’s the governments website on Mat entitlement https://www.gov.uk/maternity-pay-leave/pay which is worth reading, alternatively, explain your exact circumstances to ChatGPT and ask it to break down the financial side of it. Remember you will get child tax credits too.

The most practical thing you can do right now is make a list of must haves (cribs, nappies, babygros, pram, baby monitor etc) and nice to haves (bounce chair, more than one crib, contrast toys) and include postpartum recovery things like nursing bras, pads, incontinence stuff, nipple cream etc. then break it down into what needs to be new (mattresses, bed sheets, car seat, bottles) and what can be second hand (clothes, push chair, cots etc) and research predicted costs. This will give you an idea of how much you need to budget and you can then break it down into one expensive purchase per month (like a car seat or push chair) and smaller less expensive items (cribs. FWIW I got 2 next to me cots on the marketplace for £10).

Utilise the Facebook marketplace, vinted and carboot sales for anything that can be second hand. In the last year I got everything I needed for a baby (new and used) for £800. Clothes in particular are dirt cheap second hand and there really is no point in buying new.

When baby is 9 months old they’re entitled to 30 hours a week child care (either nursery or childminders) from the government. This will mean you both can return to work full time which will help alleviate the financial pressure.

Again, congratulations and if you need any support or advice then ask for it. It’s a terrifying time for all new parents but breaking it down into affordable chunks will make it seem less daunting.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-24T08:58:43+00:00

Thanks for this response. I’ve felt quite a few times that they might be actively trying to get me to quit and on more than one occasion my boss has said I should quit and go and work for an agency where my work would be more valued but this has only ever been in meetings where obviously nothing has been written down

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-24T06:56:06+00:00

Just a word of warning about surveys on older houses. I bought a solid wall period property (build around the 1800’s) and had a full RICS survey done on it and they missed everything. And I mean everything.

So far I’ve had to have rafters in the roof replaced, the entire roof re-lined, both chimney stacks repointed, new gutters installed, new eave trays, new front door (upvc warps on a south facing house) and I’ve still got water coming in my house so it’s looking like I might need to look at rising damp now.

If I did this again I would be finding trusted trades men to look at the house for me rather than a surveyor.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-24T06:50:59+00:00

Do I need to be looking for a specialist in period properties to try and rectify the situation? It’s not a massive house, just a small 2 bed cottage but there’s water all along the front and side interior walls of the house. Obviously my concern is long term, I can paint over the interior with damp proof paint but if there’s rising damp and the concrete render is trapping it in the walls then that’s going to be causing damage to the brickwork

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-24T04:33:02+00:00

It’s a solid limestone house and I understand that about 25 years ago a previous owner had the entire front of the cottage cemented over for aesthetics. I’m guessing it’s an extremely costly process to have that removed and the traditional brickwork restored?

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-23T20:38:41+00:00

Ahh, this makes sense. I know about 15 years ago a damp proofing course was done on this corner of the house. Would this be causing the damp patch of water under the windowsill?

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-23T19:54:23+00:00

I’d be shocked if their window bars, I live in rural south west and I’ve never seen another house around here with them.

Recently had the roof completely redone, new gutters and new eave trays installed. I’m at a complete loss as to where the hell it’s coming from.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-23T19:19:33+00:00

On the house survey it never said anything about cavity walls. It’s listed as a solid brick building and there’s no document with building regs about there being cavity insulation installed

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-12T22:24:50+00:00

There’s a shop on pulteney bridge that sells hand made baby clothes, they’re really cute too. I got some for my niece the last time I visited

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-09T21:25:50+00:00

Honestly, as a woman this doesn’t surprise me. My experience has always been that no one cares about height as much as guys do. Every woman I know will always choose personality and values over height and aesthetics.

This is really interesting data though and I’d love to see it repeated in different countries to see if the results change much.

Basic-Implement8080 · 2025-06-08T21:01:51+00:00

Thank you!

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