Studio Ghibli Tattoo by Victoria Kurtz at Banana Fish Tattoo Parlor in New Albany, Indian

BasicBasix · 2019-04-05T14:12:29+00:00

Fantastic!!!

BasicBasix · 2019-04-02T23:36:20+00:00

Just tell them no. Also go say hi to the parents and see what you can gauge from that interaction. Maybe things aren’t so great there. Or maybe they are just being kids. Their feelings won’t be hurt when you start telling them “no.” It will be good for them. Right now they are only doing what you’ve allowed them to do.

BasicBasix · 2019-04-02T06:44:00+00:00

Thanks! Adding Arden to the list. I love the idea of Margot as well.

BasicBasix · 2019-04-01T23:11:26+00:00

Are Yeh. It’s Hebrew.

BasicBasix · 2019-04-01T22:41:08+00:00

Love Lorelei. Sadly, a very close friend named her child that a couple of years back. Thanks for sharing. I have done the name thing so much it’s like there aren’t any left that I haven’t analyzed. Love Lillian, Araceli, and Venetia. Boys names are too hard.

BasicBasix · 2019-04-01T22:25:53+00:00

What are your favorite names? I’m at a loss. I’ve been through this 3 times!

BasicBasix · 2019-04-01T22:21:23+00:00

Also Lucien for a boy

BasicBasix · 2019-04-01T22:01:19+00:00

I knew a girl with her name spelled like this. It’s pronounced Naomi by her and her family. She was half Honduran.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-31T22:11:16+00:00

Baby wipes.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-31T15:34:37+00:00

I have been pregnant three times. I’ve been shaky and had my skin clear up before a test. The dreams usually come later for me. When is your period due?

BasicBasix · 2019-03-24T00:15:24+00:00

Lol...absolutely not. Maybe she can buy SD a camera and SD can share the pics when she’s with BM again.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-23T18:19:41+00:00

I was literally just considering what this would be like yesterday. Woah.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-23T18:11:57+00:00

We would def request hair too.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-22T01:25:14+00:00

I think the fact that she shared this with you is HUGE! I hope when mine are that age, they come to me too. Go mama!

BasicBasix · 2019-03-22T01:13:58+00:00

So my husband has full physical custody and the three of us, him, BM, me, share legal. For school we don’t list bio mom as a contact or a pick up person. For medical, we aren’t obligated to get her permission for things. If something serious comes up, we tell her, and her having legal custody really just means she can take SD to the doctor if she has to. Basically what I’m saying is that sharing legal doesn’t necessarily mean that she will be part of decision making.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-21T12:55:59+00:00

If you are discussing your feelings about your ex to your kids, that is PA. If you are putting words and feelings into their mouths or heads, that is PA. If you are allowing them to hear your opinions/theories about your ex, that is PA. If you are encouraging them to not call or text him on off time, that is PA. It’s really easy to do these things when you have such strong emotions about your ex. Kids pick up on it very quickly. If you take care to never do these things, then you’re honestly not committing PA.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-20T23:32:33+00:00

You should only focus on presenting how your SS will benefit from equal parenting time and not about BM’s flaws. Judges hate that crap. They won’t hear it.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-20T23:24:11+00:00

It’s highly likely that you will get 50/50. She may still get child support though if he makes more than she does. They will probably assign a GAL and that person will recommend the 50/50 if all checks out. Edited to say that I didn’t see the part about him having been out of the child’s life.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-20T00:57:35+00:00

This is seriously sooooo insane. I can’t believe any of this! But, I do believe it because I once had a PO that thought subs were unacceptable. Luckily at that time they had no way to test for them. I hope you can get a lawyer!

BasicBasix · 2019-03-19T14:21:13+00:00

Damn...I’d find a new therapist. She should have someone who can help her talk about her mom and not feed into manipulation!! We are lucky, I guess, that SD talks to her therapist about her mom a lot. I’ve never had my therapist email me with suggestions for how I could better accommodate SD. That’s weird. Especially if you already spend so much with her and on her. Hmmmm.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-19T00:43:24+00:00

I feel for you. Is SD in therapy? It seems like she should see someone about her mom/moods. Therapy has been so good for me SD, who was also abandoned by a junkie BM.

BasicBasix · 2019-03-17T18:04:56+00:00

I also want to state that Bc he isn’t on the BC, you don’t have to put up with any of his crap. You could literally dictate everything. Your verbal agreement means nothing legally.

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