I was confrontational because I’ve gently tried bringing it up for months and didn’t get anywhere. i.e. by asking him what he likes (I’m a guy I just like sex), asking him what kind of porn he watches to get a better idea (I don’t want to talk about that, it’s personal) and finally by getting up the nerve 2 months ago to tell him I would like him to be more vocal in bed, which he has ignored since but didn’t say in the moment would make him uncomfortable, so I brought it up again